Sentimentality is such a state of mind, one can even say the mood, when external impressions act exclusively on the feeling, and not on the mind. And we evaluate these impressions in terms of the feelings that we experienced. People who have this tendency cry if they read a book or watch a film that penetrates deep into the soul and causes a nagging feeling. Surely, many are familiar with this.
Sentimentality is a kind of pity when we identify with that object, which in our opinion is dysfunctional. A sentimental person experiences bouts of pity while watching a movie where someone is feeling bad. This feeling is very bright and sharp. If we compare sentimentality with real pity, which is akin to a chronic serious illness, then the attack of pain is short and almost instantaneous, and then relief follows.
At the time of this attack, a sentimental person puts the hero of the film in its place, while starting to think and feel like him. Sentimentality is essentially passive, because it does not call for help. Having become a hero for one moment, we see the world through his eyes, we feel what he feels, but after a moment a sentimental person becomes himself. Nevertheless, such a person helps and offers help, but not from internal motives, but contrary to the dictates of the heart. After returning to himself, a person realizes that the hero expects help from him and is loyal to these expectations.
A sentimental person is someone who can cry, watching someone’s grief, watching a movie, but he can be cruel. After all, the moments of such sentimental attacks are rare and fleeting, and in the ordinary state such a person may not feel pity at all.
Excessive sentimentality affects a person very negatively. This phenomenon interferes with ordinary life, because contact with the world of feelings is broken. Due to some circumstances, an overly sentimental person is forced to suppress his feelings for a long time. This happens in families where there is a seriously ill person, because you need to daily restrain your grief in his presence.
Ultimately, such repressed feelings cannot be locked up for a long time, they break out in psychosomatics - very often this happens as hypertension, or in sentimentality, when there is no more strength to restrain your feelings and emotions. And then we see uncontrollable, uncontrollable sentimental tears.
In order to get rid of excessive sentimentality, you can perform simple exercises. So, in your free time, plunge into yourself, try to feel everything that you think about at that moment, everything, even small shades and nuances, are important at this moment.
Also, over ten days, increase the number of words that indicate feelings.
And the third exercise: try to guess what people who are traveling next to you feel in transport feel about this topic. If this exercise is carried out at home, with your loved ones, you can even test your guesses by asking your relatives what they really felt at that moment, what they were thinking about.
In fact, sentimentality can even be considered hypersensitivity. Here, even the smallest emotion can radically change a person’s mood, tears come to his eyes even when it would seem that the reason is completely insignificant. If a person cannot restrain his emotions, then he is very often called sentimental. Often, offensive phrases from loved ones or the departure of a loved one leads to emotions that some simply can not restrain.
For better or worse, there is no single answer, because all people are different. But, most likely, that sentimentality is very good, because the manifestation of emotions should be, it doesn’t matter whether they are good or bad. Do not restrain yourself, because everything will someday come out anyway. Better to show your feelings than to constantly remain cold and angry to the whole world. Only a truly living person can shed a tear from an excess of feelings.