And everything in life seemed to be stable, comfortable for both of you, but suddenly a girlfriend of the harsh days decided to leave you. And then the question arises: "The mistress has gone, how to return her?" The first thoughts that come to mind are a great desire to bring everything back to normal, such pleasant memories arise in my head when everything was fine, comfortable and calm. And even if the relationship with her mistress was not easy, to remain without her at all is not so easy. In addition, banal jealousy comes into play. It is difficult to admit even the idea that the woman who was yours yesterday could now bask in the arms of another man. How to return a mistress? Tips and tricks in the material below.
What's in the head of women?
Absolutely, if a woman is next to a man for a long time, she penetrates him with at least some feelings. Without this, nowhere, but when she begins to understand that your relationship is at an impasse and nothing serious will come next, she gets the feeling that she is just a backup airfield. This thought hits the female self-esteem very strongly, and as a result, she no longer has the desire to contact you. For example, the answer to the question of how to return a lover if she is getting married, or is already building a new, healthy relationship, one is to let go and wish her former companion happiness. At least not because you are such a kind person who takes care that everyone is happy, but because she is ready to start a family and build a full-fledged relationship. If you cannot give it to your beloved woman in any way, then the best thing you can do is simply not to interfere with her happiness.
How to build a relationship?
You must understand that if she continues to build relationships with you further, then you can’t hide anywhere from constant hints or even direct persuasion of the proposal or at least living together. Also, do not dismiss such an option that your girl is simply cunningly blackmailing you with her attempts to leave only so that you understand that you want to be with her, regardless of the conditions and the current situation. But most often the young ladies do not want to continue their relationship as a lover just because they are ready to start a new relationship, with prospects and so on. As psychologists say, women quickly get tired of supporting roles and eventually begin to claim the title of the only lady in your life. The mistress is gone, how to return? In the most difficult situations, it is better to consult a psychologist.
I want to get my mistress back
If it is simply convenient for your chosen one to build and maintain relations with you, she can finish them at any time by mentioning that you are married and cannot continue like this. If such a situation has occurred in your life, it is worth first of all to calm down and soberly assess the situation. Be alone with yourself, understand your values and what really excites you in life. Perhaps you just lacked a sense of novelty in your relationship with your spouse. If all the thought processes still led to the desire to be with a lover, it is worth thinking about what attracted you to her.
What could be the reasons for the breakup?
The first thing you should start analyzing the situation with is to determine the cause of the gap. Options may be as follows:
- Your relationship for her is pure benefit. Namely financial. Everything is obvious here, your beloved did not need your wonderful relationship at all, but your cash reserves. This is a market relationship. She gives you her beauty, body, time, and you give her content and care. What else is needed? Everything is open and clear here. Each in this relationship has its own functions and responsibilities. Typically, these girls do not reproach men and do not urgently need to leave their legal wife. She doesn’t need this at all, your relationship is simply convenient for her, as well as for you. And everything seems to be fine, why is there a discord? Everything is simple here. The appetites of the young lady can grow, but your ability to satisfy them is not. This will push your mistress in search of a better-off sponsor. If you satisfy her requests - she will definitely return to you. But in no other way, there are no other levers of influence on such ladies.
- Another obvious reason is that your girlfriend is looking for a husband and a serious relationship. And even if you are a married person, there will always be a hope in her that she will become for you something much more than a wife. And only when she clearly understands that dreams are somewhere in the past and they are not destined to come true, your lover goes in search of someone who will take her seriously.
- And not only men keep lists of heroes-lovers, there are also young ladies who collect men's broken hearts. And here it does not matter whether you are married or not, the bottom line is whether she got you. Usually, as soon as a man makes it clear to such women that he is submissive, they quickly lose interest, because the main goal is achieved. Here the young ladies break the connection, breaking off all relations in order to go in search of a new victim with a pure soul.
- All that your young lady needs is freedom. It does not depend on you either financially or morally. That is why it does not make sense for her to tie herself to someone, including you. And if she decided to leave your relationship in the past, it means that it was you who went too far in an attempt to tie it to yourself. For such girls, freedom is the first priority in making decisions, so it’s easier for her to stay friends with you.
Psychologists call these reasons basic.
How can a relationship be returned?
Not always, these attempts can succeed, but such steps can be a lifeline in this situation. Psychologist's advice on how to return a mistress:
- Start by trying to learn more about her life. What interests her is how she spends her free time, who provides for her needs, whereby she lives and where she works.
- Next, you should try to restore communication under any pretext. It can be a banal congratulation on the holidays, or you still have a thing forgotten by her that urgently needs to be returned, because you are an attentive and caring person. Or you have an urgent question that only she can help. In general, your task is to restore communication with her calmly and without intrusive actions.
- Make an appointment. In most cases, the girls agree, regarding this as an opportunity to show themselves so that you understand how much you lost. Your task is to try to regain her location that you once used with her. At the end of the meeting, do not forget to mention that you made a lot of mistakes, which you really regret. And now, with all seriousness and responsibility, you are able to understand and appreciate what you have.
- You can also remind her of your intimate life, but only with hints and gentle touches, not vulgarity. Everything should be unobtrusive.
Whether such a plan works or not is a big question. But worth a try.
What if the plan failed?
There are several scenarios. If your relationship was built on financial support, then enough that you just open your wallet wider. If there is not enough money for all the whims, then it is better to say goodbye to such a young lady and forget these relationships, like a nightmare. If she just wants to get married, then the simplest thing you can do is promise her a wedding. Just remember that if the promise is not fulfilled, it will lead to further quarrels and partings.
What's next?
Some time will pass, and she will gladly remind you of these promises. In the end, everything will again lead to parting, and it can already become final. If you come across a hunter for men's hearts, then your task is to remain slightly unsubdued all the time. Young ladies like oxygen need male attention, and if this need is not fully met, then she will definitely want to come back to prove her importance to you. An independent and freedom-loving girlfriend needs to show that you agree to play by her rules. Otherwise, it will be impossible to return it.
Is it possible to return a relationship using a conspiracy?
This method cannot be called one hundred percent. However, in some situations, a conspiracy can also help a lover back. One way is a dog leash conspiracy. Step over it, first forward and then back. Next, you need to hit them on the doorstep and pronounce the words, after which you need to hide the leash where they will not find it. Words should be as follows:
Just as they trained a dog on a leash, tamed a master, so (name) at my doorstep didn’t fend off her house so that she could beat herself. On Monday, so that (name) hugs me, on Tuesday pardons, on Wednesday kisses, on Thursday doesn’t fall behind, on Friday, so that she takes care of her, on Saturday she takes care of her, and on Sunday, so that she dies of love for me, white light without me (name ), I have not seen. The key is heaven, the castle is earth. Amen.
Will prayer help regain my mistress?
In order to return the woman you love, you have to pretty try and use all possible methods. Some men recommend using the prayer addressed to St. Nicholas the Wonderworker for this purpose. It sounds as follows:
“Miracle Worker Nicholas, God's Pleasure. I believe in your relics, and fall in holy repentance. By the grace of the Almighty return my girl back, I love her with all my heart. Thy will be done. Amen."
But no matter what method of action you choose, remember that you will not command your heart.