Pickiness as a quality of personality is a tendency to make claims against a person, exaggerated demands for any trifling and petty occasion, to inflate individual mistakes and mistakes to the level of their permanent affiliation, the properties of his nature, to attach too much importance to them.
A picky person is a syringe programmed for constant injections. The daughter of discontent - pickiness, in order to manifest itself brighterly, uses a whole arsenal of improvised tools - reproaches, reproaches, reproaches, remarks, criticism, condemnation. Being, as a rule, petty, notorious and touchy, in retaliation for her complexes, resentments and weaknesses, she finds fault with every pillar. The exceptions are only some types of life and especially extreme situations where the pickiness of a senior experienced person is appropriate and necessary. Behind such picky is the life and health of people.
For example, any army rests on discipline, so it is difficult to do without picky. In one military unit there was a company, whose soldiers were the standard of discipline and tidiness, even send to the Lenin Mausoleum . The commander himself wanted to look at the wonder of the commander. The company commander, Senior Lieutenant Golopupenko, came out to meet the delegation. His poody fists, the jaw threateningly extended, a narrow forehead and a sharp, piercing gaze of gimlet eyes were striking. Approaching the commander, he immediately said to him: “Fix the tie. To fasten a button on a tunic ". The general looked at the regiment commander in disbelief. He instantly jumped to the commander and whispered in his ear: “Quickly do what the company says. He does not repeat twice. ”
Pickiness is the result of repressed negative emotions. As a rule, four emotions serve as sources of pickiness - anger, shame, fear and gloom or regret, longing. A person who is under the influence of negative emotions for a long time puts himself in danger, because negativity destroys health. We will not spoil the mood by listing those diseases that are associated with a person’s prolonged proximity with negative emotions. At the same time, a person is not a robot, you can’t protect him from the manifestation of the whole spectrum of emotions - both positive and negative. It’s a bad job to suppress negative emotions. This means driving the devastating disaster inward. Negative emotions should not be suppressed, but culturally displayed. You cannot stifle anger with a pillow. If a person follows the path of restraining negative emotions, he turns into a producer of psychological blocks.
Picky is a psychological unit created on the basis of suppressed negative emotions and, therefore, does not allow love to be shown. The root of evil is hidden here. Picky is the inability to show love due to the load of suppressed emotions. How can a wife show love for her husband if she has accumulated irritation for him for the scattered clothes, the described toilet lid, hairy soap and legendary socks? The more irritation, the stronger the block of picky blocks the possibility of manifestation of love.
Pickiness is a wedge for the manifestation of love. The psychological block of pickiness will jam any manifestations of tender feelings, for it causes a protest state of a false ego on both sides. The husband finds fault with his wife through criticism of her actions. For example, she spent a lot of money rationally, in a word, accuses her of wastefulness. Picky loves the words "as always", "never", "well, what else could you expect from you", "your family", "your mother". These words are a red rag for a false ego: “You can never be trusted with money,” the husband says. “You always waste on shants-shmantsy. Careless as your mother. Your whole family is like that, just thinking about yourself. What else should be expected from a woman whose mother is a spender and her father is a moto? ” After such an introduction, the wife’s false ego didn’t just wake up, but jumped up and splashed out with the words: “I won’t talk about your family, your crazy mom, alcoholic father, bandits - brothers and prostitutes - sisters. I will not say anything. I am nobler than you. I’m not so petty and greedy cattle as you. ” It is clear that after such a “sweet conversation”, there can be no talk of any love until they are reconciled.
Pickiness is the voice of dissatisfied, unsatisfied feelings. Feelings are the tentacles of the mind. Nowhere without them, but problems with them. They have an insatiable nature: "Come on, but only better." They are not satisfied, like the insatiable, unbridled Messalina. As long as they do not serve, they always nibble the mind, exposing more and more new requirements. In a relationship, they go through four stages - hunger, satiety, satiety, and disgust. At the stage of hunger, they are silent. For example, a man met a woman and is rapidly developing a relationship. The senses have no reason to find fault; they endure and wait in the wings. The sense of touch is especially trembling from the anticipation of pleasure, and it is it that is associated with tactile sensations. Satisfied, the feelings begin to grumble: “Tired. Give something fresh or use what you have in a new way. In a word, think up something, because we want something so unusual. ” A man, obedient to his mind, begins to find fault with a woman, that is, to show discontent, saying: “Well, what are you lying like dead in a coffin? Hey! Down below! You didn’t fall asleep there? ”
The husband’s pickiness, as it is not this and this is not it, is a signal of infidelity in feelings and behavior or the bitter fruit of betrayal handed to his wife. Thinking about another woman or already not only thinking, but also directly communicating with her, the husband moves away from his wife and children. When it comes to treason, everything in the family begins to annoy him and, as a result, endless nit-picking appears for any reason. Through picky husband tries to justify himself, to find those responsible for his behavior. Conscience, if she remained, tells him: “You are to blame,” but it’s painful to accept the truth of these words. Much easier to blame his sins for his wife. Some get to the point of absurdity, recalling that twenty years ago, even before her marriage, she had a man. Having persuaded himself, the husband begins to show pickiness. The family goes into the background.
Pickiness is the result of repressed, unrealized shame, fear, anger, and despondency. As a critical attitude towards loved ones and everything that happens, picky does not want to admit its imperfection. For example, to be ashamed means to admit one’s imperfection, be it appearance, professional competence, personality traits or state of mind. You need to be objective and convince yourself that all people are imperfect. The meaning of our existence on Earth consists precisely in the development of our mind, in self-awareness. If I have a long nose, this fact can be pecked by only a short-sighted unreasonable person. Is it worth it to be upset, ashamed, and, as a result, tear off your bad mood in the form of nit-picking on close people. A reasonable person will be interested in my inner world, and a superficial snob - a nose and other external tinsel. As soon as a person looks into himself, finds these four negative emotions, realizes that they are the result of previously committed unworthy, ignoble actions that disturb conscience, wreak havoc and a miracle happens, the dragon of pickyness, deprived of nutrition, will die from exhaustion.