There are good words that we all come from childhood. And this is true, because over the years our past has not let us go, filling our hearts with warm memories. Although life shows that not everyone had a bright childhood, moreover, many, having matured, want to forget about it. Naturally, the problem of childhood memories arose from these contradictions . Arguments in favor of their influence on a person at different periods of his life are in the writings of writers, teachers, psychologists.
The significance of childhood memories
Now we are increasingly faced with the fact that the theme of school essays, discussions at lectures on psychology and pedagogy, the subject of scientific dissertations is the problem of childhood memories. Arguments in favor of their value are given in their writings by high school students, analyzing the positive emotions that such memories evoke in the soul of every person. Teachers conduct interesting discussions with students on this topic. Psychologists believe that every person keeps all the events that happened in childhood on the shelves of his memory, and at any moment they can radically change his life.
Memory problem
Memory is valuable in that it can bring us back to childhood at any time, so distant and so dear.
- We remember how young and beautiful our parents were then.
- Of course, we remember our yard games friends.
- We recall our first matinees in kindergarten.
- A separate place in the corner of our memory is given to our classmates and teachers. Even if we were scolded for a poorly learned lesson or made a remark, over the years all this causes only a warm nostalgic smile.
However, the problem of memory is that it is impossible to erase childhood memories from it . But for many, unfortunately, it did not leave a bright mark in the heart:
- someone was teased at school;
- someone was deprived of the attention of parents;
- someone remained an orphan and lived in an orphanage.
Such moments, of course, should not overshadow childhood, but since it so happened, every person should still have a bright spot in his past, memories of which will give him strength in his adult life.
The problem of perception of childhood
Most consider childhood the most beautiful times in their lives. Remembering the distant happy times, they mentally imagine themselves small and carefree. Old photos help add perception brightness. The childhood of such people is identified with fairy tales, children's books, New Year's gifts. However, as mentioned above, not everyone considered childhood to be a holiday. This raises the problem of childhood memories. Arguments can be either for or against. What to do?
- On the one hand, if a person perceives childhood memories in a negative way, perhaps he should not once again remind him about him and traumatize his psyche.
- On the other hand, childhood memories of such a person are needed so that he can give his children what he himself did not receive in his time.
The meaning of childhood memories in the work of various writers
A number of writers at different times created unforgettable works that describe the lives of heroes, from their childhood until the time when they became adults and stood firmly on their feet. And through the entire outline of the plot, the theme of childhood memories passes through the refrain.
- One of the most striking literary examples is the book of Veniamin Kaverin, “Two Captains”. Her characters were happy in their own way in their, perhaps, difficult childhood. But it gave them a strong friendship for life. And no matter what trials fate presented them, childhood memories helped them to become stronger and more confident in moving to new victories.
- The hero of the novel by Maxim Gorky, “Childhood,” as a child, learned a lot from his grandmother. And already in his adult life, recalling his childhood, he realizes that only thanks to her did he become a kind and sympathetic person, able to empathize and help people, to give them his love and affection.
The impact of childhood memories on human life
Psychologists say that events in childhood can seriously affect the future fate of the child, from an early age shaping his character. In the actions of an adult, his childhood memories can often be reflected.
- If parents suppressed any signs of independence of the child, it developed a trait like stubbornness in him. Moreover, over the years, this quality has been maintained.
- If parents teach a child to be open and sociable from childhood, such children grow up communicative and easily find a common language with others.
- If parents considered the norm to punish their child for any, even petty misconduct, such a child will grow up secretive and vengeful.
- If the parents took excessive care of the child and did everything for him, he grows up as a limp person who constantly needs someone’s advice.
Parents should trust their children, see future adults in them, and then the problem of childhood memories will less likely arise . The arguments of psychologists in their research are vivid proof of this.