Although Mr. Darwin claimed that man did the work, we allow ourselves to disagree. The main thing was in communication. Talking with each other, exchanging thoughts, ideas, plans, we gain new knowledge and can realize ourselves in society. Want to be successful? Learn to communicate. You want to have a good family - and here try to understand everyone.
Black cat
When the family breaks up, the couple say they have ceased to understand each other. If work colleagues disagree, it means that a black cat ran between them. That is, hostility, alienation and even hostility towards each other suddenly appeared. And in general, complete recklessness reigns.
What is understanding? Today it is one of the most acute problems in the world. Without this, it is impossible
to establish relations between individuals or between entire countries.
But let's start with a scientific definition. What is understanding in philosophy? This is such a universal operation of our thinking, which assimilates new content and incorporates it into the system of already established ideas and ideas. In fact - the result of the perception of speech, some kind of message. This includes information, various knowledge about the surrounding or internal world of a person.
So if you want to be understood from the first word, learn to clearly express your feelings and thoughts.
Only with others
Any success is based on a good relationship at home or at work. And given that all people are different, it is very important to be able to establish contact with them. How to do it? Of course, intuitively, each of us feels when it is necessary, for example, to keep silent or support the other, somehow helping him out. That is to understand.
In general, what is understanding? The definition is this. This is a special quality of personality, the ability to comprehend and recognize the motives of another's behavior. Also, the ability to explain and pass through your mind and heart the state in which your interlocutor is.
Probably, everyone met people who immediately “see” a person in his difficulties, aspirations, can quickly see his soul, sympathize. Life experience tells them the right move. And this is good.
However, in practical psychology there are several effective techniques. They can be mastered. Then your contacts with others will become warmer, friendlier, stronger. And next to the Odnomodtsy, you can roll mountains.
Emotional background
If we talk about what understanding is in a relationship, then you need to know the following. Relationship psychology raises many different questions: the circle of communication, the emotional background, the effect on another person, and so on. All this is relevant for both an adult and a child.
To relations with others were more smooth, kind, you need to understand these people. And when you understand, then you begin to involuntarily treat them with respect, tolerance. This gives rise in response to the same feelings and actions.
You ask: “What is human understanding?” A very important principle in the psychology of relationships. After all, there is empathy, harmony. And it is equally comfortable for the communicating parties. And then everyone is interested in maintaining such ties. Everyone appreciates them, trying to save for a long time, not to lose.
Your position
What is understanding in real life and every day? This is our specific behavior. We must learn to accept our neighbors, workmates, even casual acquaintances, not to mention our family members, as they are. However, you may not approve of someone’s behavior at all. But it’s better to learn nevertheless that here it is - completely different, not your copy, and therefore it is very different from you. You may not agree with his opinion, words, habits, hobbies - please. It's your right. But you simply must respect its values. And that’s all. This is enough to create a wonderful relationship between you.
Five keys
However, in order to truly understand each other deeply, you need to know five important principles and follow them.
1. To comprehend and recognize the potential of another person. Each born has its own capabilities and reserves - mental, physical, domestic. Sometimes he does not even realize them. At school, they did not help to open them, parents also messed up. But if you begin to approach this person, thinking that he is capable of more, better, then all these qualities will manifest in him. Your faith, a helping hand is needed by people to change their lives.
2. You must be able to listen. We all seem to communicate a lot, but somehow incomplete. You tell him - but he does not hear. Not included in your position. He thinks about his. Brings your problems away. Not trying to help. And if it were otherwise, the barriers between people would fall.
3. No need to give ratings. If someone considers all others below himself, then the interlocutor is no longer interested in him. And she does not want to have any serious involvement in it. People usually immediately begin to evaluate strangers. And they are judged by their first impression. And for this, just half a minute is enough. Then the prevailing opinion is very difficult to change. But we must try to understand a person. Learn his views, beliefs. It is precisely this path that opens, for example, in a new employee what was initially hidden.
4. Always be honest and open. Why pretend? It will only complicate your life. Speak the truth always. Suppose you do not like this person, and you say that, on the contrary, you liked it very much. But your eyes, gestures, that is, non-verbal communication, will betray you with your head. Only sincere feelings give meaning to contacts with others. So do not be afraid to be yourself.
5. Help others become better. To do this, create an environment in which a person is liberated and starts, without hiding, to speak openly, friendlyly with you.
Nothing could be better than a good relationship. You understand this only when they are spoiled. And how to get everything back? This is very problematic.
My home is my castle
True definition. If everything is fine at home, then you feel happy. And this is possible only on one condition - when there is understanding in the family.
Calm atmosphere, love and care of relatives affect your position at work. You come not angry and not gloomy, but cheerful and helpful, willing to help. And your productivity is high. And in general, life is beautiful! Now, of course, it is clear to you what understanding is and how great its role in our life is.
It’s really bad when there is a disorder in the house. Either between spouses, or between parents and children. The reason is the same - there is no mutual understanding, respect for the interests and concerns of others.
Children on their own
Today, life is such that adults and children are simultaneously at home for an average of no more than two hours - except, of course, sleep. And they communicate even less.
Working mothers can give their son or daughter 30 minutes - no more. No intimate conversations, no discussion of children's problems. But the comments about the behavior of the child, as a rule, are very categorical. Other adults simply do not consider it necessary to "stoop" to their problems. Here they personally - yes, have serious concerns, and children have nothing. Only the spiritually blind can treat their loved ones this way. And then in old age they complain that the children have forgotten them.
There will be real live communication - all roughnesses, quarrels, conflicts will disappear. And then everyone will rush home in the evening, where you can just talk heart to heart.
Beginning of agreement
So Spinoza wrote about understanding. How to learn not to provoke conflicts? Quarrels erupt when everyone has different opinions, and people argue about who is right. All this affects our life very badly. The ability to competently communicate with people will create good situations.
For example, the relationship of the spouses, this is evident. What is love? Understanding each other, the desire to give in. If the husband, for example, has views not like his wife, then she immediately behaves aggressively. The argument is threatening and no one wants to understand each other. It must be borne in mind that he, with a different conviction, has the right to his views. Let the wrong, from your point of view. But these are his judgments, maybe suffered. And perhaps, over time, he will change them and come closer to yours.
However, people persist, insist on their own. Although you should know that the divergence of opinions is the beginning of the conflict. In this case, they have no idea what understanding is.
To yield is to win
The ability to communicate is the desire to yield. Never deny other people's views. In the end, how many people - so many opinions. And try to figure out which one is the most correct. Just try to understand the other. And there will be no soil for conflict in the family .
Allowing an opponent to have an opinion does not mean to lose, but, on the contrary, win! The world will recover.