It is human nature to ardently desire communication with others. Without interaction, we cannot build the right self-esteem and feel really needed. Therefore, people who find it difficult to communicate, feel as if they are isolated from others and therefore unhappy. Is it possible to make a difference? How to talk with people so that the relationship develops best?
The fact is that during the conversation a lot of human needs are satisfied, so you need to pay attention to everything and act flexibly. There are not many rules, and many of us feel them intuitively, although mistakes tend to do everything.
How to talk to be interesting? First of all, information is important. More precisely - awareness. That is, you should be well versed in the subjects of conversation. In my advisory practice, there was a case when a woman consciously read a secular chronicle every day in order to be accepted in the field of colleagues at work. So try to prepare for the conversation so that colleagues or friends are interested in talking with you.
But the interest does not boil down to the fact that you provide useful information. The question is how to present it. Try to express your thoughts emotionally, but the sensual sphere must be in control. Highlight the main thing with your voice, you can even repeat several times the most significant parts of your speech. How to talk in order to touch on the necessary emotions? Politicians learn this over the years of practice, but it is best to try to mentally put yourself in the situation of the interlocutor. And try to understand what he can worry about in this situation. What hurts him, what problems he wants to solve. Then, during the practical application of this knowledge, carefully monitor facial expressions and gestures to adjust your behavior. If you learn to correctly guess emotional states, it will turn out to be much more successful in communicating. For these purposes, you can use old films, they have less special effects and more psychology. And then the requirements for the actors were much higher, so feelings and attitudes are conveyed more reliably. Make this work regular, for example, set as your goal to watch at least two films a week. Observe the emotions and reactions of people, this will help you acquire the intuition necessary in the process of communication. This practice is necessary for people who want to know how to talk with people properly.
The described method will also help you learn how to correctly feel the time in a conversation. You will begin to unconsciously feel how much time you need to talk, and how long you need to pause, so as not to interfere with the interlocutor to express his thoughts to the end.
If you are interested in how to learn to talk to people correctly, then remember - in informal communication the main thing is not to be able to speak yourself, but to be able to listen with interest. Most people do not know how to do this, and they themselves are constantly in search of “free ears”. Do not repeat the mistakes of others. Let the interlocutor fully express themselves, you can even be silent for a while to give weight to your answer.
Speaking of interruption. The problem may be that you have this explained by the biological characteristics of the functioning of the brain within the normal range. You can read more in the books of Dr. Amen, which I recommend to everyone who wants to change their lives for the better.
People love it when they are made to feel significant, therefore, in a conversation constantly emphasize the merits and authority of the interlocutor, then they will turn to you more and more often. You will become much more popular, which will make your life happier. After all, you will give a lot of joy to your relatives and friends.