Each year, more than a million people voluntarily die in the world. Statistics say that about 3 thousand citizens commit suicide daily. You are reading our article, and at that moment someone is jumping from the roof or cutting his own veins. Such information will shudder the soul of every normal person, because voluntary departure from life is something unnatural, something that should never be. What makes a person live? What forces you to break the thin thread connecting it with the real world? How to force a person to refuse suicide? Dozens of smart tips can be found in various publications. But do they always work? The situations that make you want to die are different. In each case, we need a separate advice and special words that can influence the decision of a desperate person.
What drives suicide
Not always voluntary departure from life is logically justified. Most often, this is a spontaneous decision made under the influence of strong emotional arousal. The most common causes pushing people to commit suicide are:
- The death of a loved one (child, loved one).
- Financial collapse.
- Treason, unrequited love.
- Bad luck is absolutely everything.
- Loneliness.
- Incurable disease.
- Disability due to trauma or congenital.
We consider each situation separately.
Death of loved ones
If a loved one dies, it is always a pain. Some cannot accept loss. It is especially difficult to bear the death of a child. How to force yourself to live if such a misfortune happened? Should your house become empty? Should the world suddenly stop? Many are in a hurry to die, somewhere to connect with dear people somewhere.
Take your time, look around. Believe me, in your city there are dozens of living beings that need you.
Many psychologists advise to do charity work. You can begin to help sick or abandoned children, visit them in a hospital or in an orphanage, bring them toys and books, and communicate with them. You can also organize a fund to help children. Call him the name of your deceased loved one. We can say that he will live in happy smiles and grateful looks of the people you saved.
You can start helping homeless animals, because they are unusually difficult. They really need care and guardianship. If a creature appears in your life that you begin to care for, it will be much easier for you to survive the loss.
You can do anything, the main thing is not to be alone, to find yourself such a thing that will cover your pain.
Financial collapse
Do you owe someone a huge amount of money that you have nowhere to take? You have invested all your money in a business that collapsed, and now you have a penny? How to force yourself to live if such a misfortune falls? Of course, setting a new goal. Money comes and goes, and a lost life can no longer be returned.
Try to pull yourself together. To begin with, you definitely need to calm down, because emotions are bad advisers. You can drink a sedative. This is not alcohol, but the same tincture of valerian or something more serious, for example, Phenibut or Persen. When emotions calm down a bit, sit in a chair, take a sheet of paper and a pencil. Write all the money making tools that come to your mind. This may be a new job in your city, selling valuables, winning the lottery, leaving to work abroad and so on. Choose from the list those options that are feasible for you. Among them, select those that can bring real income. For example, you can buy a lottery ticket, but will it bring a win?
The chosen methods of earning will be your new goal. Thinking carefully about each step, write down what you need to do to achieve what you have planned. For example, for a trip to earn money, you must purchase a passport, job information, visa, a new suitcase, and a ticket. This will be your plan to become successful again. Leave the sheet on the table and go to bed. Re-read the list carefully in the morning again. Perhaps you will come up with new ideas. The main thing in this psychological trick is that you no longer need to die, because you have a goal and a plan. Now your brain is busy with thoughts on how to implement it, and not that you don’t want to live anymore.
Treason, unrequited love
One of these reasons for suicide seems ridiculous. Others easily cut their veins or climb into a noose because they were thrown by a loved one. How to force yourself to live if such a nuisance happened? Psychologists advise performing a small ritual. Whether you are a girl or a guy, you need to wash your face, comb your hair, go to the mirror, look at your reflection (preferably in the eyes), force yourself to smile and say out loud that you are the most beautiful, smartest, best person in the world. Thoughts and words do not sound in vain. All of them are recorded on the energy matrix of the space around us. To make them work, you need to make some effort.
If a loved one betrayed you, do not try to sit at home, sob, and make plans to leave life. By this you will not return it. Do not consider yourself offended, make yourself live in a new way. How? Visit a fashion boutique, buy yourself new clothes. Go to the hairdresser, radically change the image. Make the most fashionable haircut, dye your hair, start admiring yourself. You will be surprised, but others will immediately show interest in you.
It is useful to change not only appearance, but also lifestyle. Take a subscription to a fitness club or pool, go to a disco with your friends, start doing something completely new, for example, sign up for a driving course or an air club. All these events will certainly change the energy around you, bring you a lot of impressions and new acquaintances.
Bad luck is in everything
You are unable to make a career because your efforts do not want to notice in the service. The wife only requires you money. Children do not favor you. You do not have an apartment, the car was, but it was stolen, since there is no garage either. You are disastrously unlucky in anything. How to make yourself live when you don’t even want to think about it? Psychologists advise to throw out the accumulated negative. The easiest way is to go into the bathroom, lock the door, open the tap and all that is on your soul, tell the running water. Disappearing in the drain hole, she will take away with herself everything that you tell her. Do not think that water is just H2O. Not. Water is a living substance. No wonder it is so actively used by sorcerers.
Entrust her with your troubles. Speak out. You will immediately feel better. You are now ready for the next steps. They are very simple. Take a piece of paper, a pen and retire somewhere. In a calm atmosphere, write down on points what you lack in life, and next to what you can do to get what you want. For example, you are not noticed in the service. You can either find another job, or on the old to do an act that will set you apart from the crowd. And so on all counts. Wrote? Now go for it! As long as you have life, it is in your hands!
Loneliness
More often, ladies suffer from it. Are all your friends married long ago? They already have children, and you don’t even have a dog that can be taken for a walk? Every evening you return home from work, go to bed on a cold bed and howl from loneliness?
Now tell me, who is to blame? Parents who awarded you with a not-so-attractive appearance? Your environment in which there are no free men? Evil rock?
Tell me honestly, what did you personally do to become happy? Most likely nothing. You just sit at home and wait for the groom to fall from heaven.
Waiting makes you live if it does not last too long. Endless waiting leads to depression and the desire to end this in one fell swoop.
Happiness is not a chicken; you cannot sit it. To get it, you need to act. To begin, become a beauty, because you have so many opportunities for this! Contact a fashionable stylist, a good beautician, a dentist, a plastic surgeon, if necessary.
Start visiting places where there are many men. This is not about a pub, but about a fitness club or, for example, football. Feel free to show men your ignorance, their feminine weakness, be interested in their opinions, ask for help.
Since you are alone, spend all your money only on yourself. Start putting them off a little bit, and go on vacation to travel.
Lack of attention
It often happens that a person has a family, children, a bunch of relatives, but he feels lonely and useless to anyone. In such a situation, you may want to die so that "they" understand how bad it is without you. With your reckless act, you will only achieve that you will be buried.
If your household does not notice you, try to find yourself an interesting hobby. Do not expect loved ones to rush to help you right away. You can choose any business, from collecting stamps to rafting. The main thing is that it captivates you. Your lesson will surely give you many pleasant moments and new friends. If a hobby starts to generate income, your status in the eyes of loved ones will immediately rise.
Incurable disease
This is perhaps the most difficult situation. How to make yourself live if you know that you are doomed? If every day you suffer from inhuman pain? If you see only regret in the eyes of doctors? The question of euthanasia (assistance in leaving the terminally ill) was raised dozens of times at the international level. Some countries legalized it. In Russia, euthanasia is prohibited. The church is also negative about this method of help.
Opponents of euthanasia say that life is given once. Every moment of it is priceless. In addition, medicine is developing at a gigantic pace. Perhaps your illness will soon be curable. Examine any information related to your illness, read about the stories of those people who were in your position, but got out. Fight for yourself, for every hour you live, for every minute. Relatives and friends will certainly help you in this. You must be made to live by the love of these people. You can chat with them, hug them, kiss, joke, remember happy moments from the past. You can celebrate holidays together, watch new films and TV shows. This is also life. Fight for her.
Disability
Yesterday you were full of energy, dreamed of conquering the world. But there was an accident in which you lost your limbs or damaged your spine so seriously that you are now completely immobilized. How to force yourself to live on, if you understand that you will never become the same as before? Misfortune fell upon you with a heavy concrete slab. Your soul hurts so much that it’s hard to breathe. You now have no plans for the future, no loved one, no hope. But you have brains in your head. Nowadays, loss of limbs is not the end of the world. Now they are making incredibly high-quality prostheses. With them, people not only just walk, but also actively engage in sports.
As for other injuries, there is also no need to immediately lose heart. Start learning the techniques of leading experts and traditional healers. Try it all. Make your muscles work daily. Set a goal, for example, raise your right hand. Got it? Start to raise the left. Remember, you have a chance while you are fighting for yourself.
Useful examples
On various information resources there are dozens of stories that make you live. There are hundreds of thousands of people in the world who consider themselves happy without both legs, marry or get married, give birth to children, and even become champions in sports. Take an example from these people.
Perhaps one of you will be inspired by the story of the Lviv woman Roksolana Dzoby-Balayan. At 17, she fell under a train and lost both legs. However, Roxolana is not discouraged. She married twice, gave birth to two children. In addition, she is the Olympic champion in archery (in the Paralympic Games).
Another unique woman is Annette Gabbedi from the UK. Without hands she became one of the most famous jewelers.
You can not ignore the young handsome man Nick Vuychicha, born without arms and legs. Fate gave him only a fragment of the foot. Once in desperation, Nick tried to drown, but felt sorry for mom and dad. Left for them to live. He managed to get a higher education, learned to walk, swim, work on a computer. Now he is married, has two children. Nick is from a simple working-class family. He does not have rich relatives who left him an inheritance. Inexplicably, this unique person managed to become a millionaire. Moreover, he achieved everything himself.
Conclusion
There are other reasons that make you want to die. Someone has lost faith in a happy future, someone has a conflict with friends, someone wants to atone for his death, and someone just got tired of everything. It is very important that at the time of extreme depression there is a soul that will make you live.
Psychologists advise not to withdraw into oneself, splash out their negative emotions, and not be ashamed of tears. If you do not want your friends to know about your problem, tell strangers about it, your reflection in the mirror, the wall in the apartment, just space. Having spoken, you will feel relief.
Start loving yourself. This tip is suitable for all situations.
Buy yourself something tasty, like a cake. Eat as much as you can. Get yourself a very beautiful or valuable thing - a ring, a gadget, a fashion accessory. Remember the philosophical phrase that everything has an end. Your troubles will end too. But life will remain. Take care of her.