Man is a creature not only rational, as is commonly believed, but also a conflict. “I think, then conflict” - that’s how you can redo the common phrase. To begin, we will understand what a conflict is and what types of conflicts exist.
By the way, many often confuse this concept with scandal, quarrel. But these things are different. Scandal and quarrel are often destructive in nature and are aimed at unbalancing, “finishing off” another person, or they happen when you desperately want to prove your case. No matter what.
But what is a conflict? He, unlike a quarrel, is not always destructive. Conflict is just a way to move to a new level.
Many people mistakenly call squabbles at work and family feuds conflicts, but we remember that it is impossible to put an equal sign between these concepts.
Most often, family conflicts, workers and conflicts with oneself, the so-called "internal", occur.
Family conflicts are a natural process and, perhaps, there is not a single family in the world wherever they arise. Another thing is that they must be resolved in a civilized way, and not begin to blame loved ones or, worse, pretend to be a victim. This is a dead end.
What is a conflict of personality with oneself? Man is truly the whole universe. Every day we are faced with a choice - what to do, what to refuse, what to choose and what to give preference to. For example, I want to dress well, go for massage and wear quality clothes. But I know that a disaster happened to one of my relatives and people needed help. Including material, for example, for treatment. And a conflict is brewing inside me. I am not obliged to contribute to the treatment. And although I have umpteenth savings, I planned, say, to relax in the Maldives. And now what i can do? There is an internal conflict that speaks in a person with hundreds of votes. It takes into account the fact that this money was given to me very hard, that I had to work for two years without leave, on the other hand, someone needs help and, perhaps, human life depends on this money ... How to resolve a conflict situation? In this case, the conflict is good, because it allows you to finally dot the "and". Namely: I finally decide - in what place is charity for me and in what place - love for myself. We discard the norms of morality, the article is not about that. So then what is conflict? Nothing but a way of knowing oneself. And this is good. That brings clarity, at least.
And what is a conflict at work? And again, I remind you, this is not about squabbling, gossip and hoisting. At work, a conflict arises when, say, labor responsibilities are distributed unevenly, where there is no social justice - ultimately, a conflict arises. Despite the fact that this process is painful, but at least it becomes clear what is expected of you in the team, including the bosses, and what you expect. And also, do your common expectations have common ground.
Another question is that it is necessary to resolve conflict situations correctly, without slamming the doors or throwing a letter of resignation in the face of the authorities.
In psychology, there is even such a concept - the culture of conflict. Although this may sound a little strange, but a term like this just means that the conflict must be directed in a constructive direction, and not in a destructive one.
And the last question - and who is most often in conflict? Those who are trying to find their place in life. Conflict is especially characteristic of adolescents, young families who are just starting to grind to all thinking people (speaking of internal conflict).
Conflict, just do not stoop to quarrels and accusations. And best of all, do not follow the destructive path.