The human mood is a changeable thing. Today you are pleased with the beautiful weather and happy with a successful transaction, and tomorrow the whole world seems not nice to you due to unfavorable circumstances or some kind of failure experienced on the eve. But how to cope with deeper problems, the roots of which go into moral and psychological trauma or are caused by some serious shock?
In such situations, people often visit the thought: "I do not want to leave home: what to do?" Consultation with a psychologist can help in this matter. But if you do not want to resort to the help of strangers, you should conduct a deep analysis of your own disorder and identify the primary sources of a stagnant melancholy state.
What to do and what to do
If you understand that the situation is gaining global proportions, and at the same time feel that your mental uncomfortable sense of self does not go away, it would be advisable to consult a specialist. There is absolutely nothing reprehensible or shameful. Just ask for help and regain your healthy mood.
If due to some circumstances you don’t have the opportunity to get rid of the psychological stagnation that befell you through medical intervention, take care of your health and mood yourself.
Where to begin
If your thoughts are like: “I don’t want to see and hear anyone, I also don’t want to leave the house”, try to understand the essence of your problem. Having laid the foundation for the fight against your fears, phobias and troubles, you can further stimulate yourself to bring the process to the end, be sure to strive to finish what you started.
Therefore, the first thing to do is an attempt to delve into the essence of your unhealthy emotional state. Do not stand aside from your problems, do not wave your hand at them with the thought that everything will be solved by itself. Act! Influence your fate. If you do not intervene, then who then?
Finding the root of the problem
The next step in resolving the issue of why everything around is annoying and annoying is to find the source of irritation. You are clearly angry, nervous, aggressive and upset for a reason. There is an explanation for everything, and everything has its own reason. If you don’t find any visible prerequisites for falling into apathy, explaining to yourself by the fact that “everything just fell off right away,” try to nevertheless analyze every aspect of these unpleasant moments and draw objective conclusions about what specifically takes you out of equilibrium most . It will not be difficult to determine the main cause of your depression in this case: this will most likely be the first thesis on your list. And it will be necessary to build on him in his work on removing himself from an apathetic state and mental imbalance.
Possible reasons
What can so clearly affect your mood if you are not a recluse from birth? Why can you abruptly become unsociable and become isolated in yourself? What can lead you to a thought like: “Just think, I’m sitting at home all day, I’m not leaving my own apartment anywhere ... How can I deal with this condition?”
In fact, the impetus for such a disorder, manifested in seclusion and detachment from worldly fuss, can serve as many external and internal factors. Which ones are the most common?
- Complexity is one of the root causes of a constant stay in a stressful state and bad mood. Very often this is due to appearance. Here, usually the main source of the disorder is the presence of an overweight person. Many women, after prolonged self-torture and criticism, come to their side to begin to feel contempt for their weight, for themselves, and then for others, seeing condemnation in their eyes. “I do not like people” is a thought that rushes through their heads. But, rather, this idea arises on the basis of dislike for its shortcomings. And these complexes lead to depression.
- Divorce - often parting with a spouse, a loved one, plunges even the most spiritually strong people into a depressing "tetanus". A detailed analysis of the situations, family quarrels, scandals begins. Variants of a possible outcome of events flashed through my head if at that moment or that second everything could be replayed ... A person begins to delve into himself, in his misconduct, plunging himself into a state of prolonged apathy. Hence, isolation and inactivity, hence thoughts such as “there is no desire to do anything,” “there is no desire to go anywhere,” “I do not want to leave home.”
- The financial crisis - job loss, demotion, career decline, damage on an especially large scale - all this contributes to a person falling into deep despair. A feeling of uncertainty gnaws at him, it is hard for him to bear the oppression of financial troubles, he is scared from the thought of what awaits him tomorrow. Moreover, if a person is family and he needs to think about how to feed his family. Not surprisingly, financial instability is a common cause of human retreat.
Emotional background
However, it is far from always the catalyst of a problem of this kind that becomes a specific life event or some specific unpleasant situation. The appearance in the minds of people of the idea of the type “I love loneliness” sometimes arises in early childhood. The love of solitude, unsociability, and seclusion can be associated with a lack of communication at an early age. If a child, for example, did not go to kindergarten, later, at school, he would not be the first to go on a conversation and try to communicate with classmates. Further, in adulthood, in the process of education or at work, he just will not need to contact others in order to feel comfortable. And all because the zone of comfort and boundaries of personal space is formed in a person from an early age. And if you disrupt this process initially, you can achieve the desire to completely abstract from secular society in the future.
Unloved as a disease
In addition, there is even a certain type of mental illness called agoraphobia. People suffering from such an ailment are not only afraid to leave their homes, in general, in principle, they constantly struggle with fear of open doors, open space. They do not like a large crowd of people - this is a kind of unconscious fear, which is experienced by people suffering from this disease, unaccompanied, escorted. The manifestation of agoraphobia is just the same and manifests itself in the form of a protective mechanism, which is carried out automatically, at a subconscious level. In such cases, a specialist can not do.
Hikikomori
Unlike people who unwittingly become hostages of their fears, as in the case of agoraphobia, there is also a category of people who voluntarily renounce communication with the outside world. These are the so-called hikki (hikikomori) - a definition from Japanese terminology that refers to people who give up social life, striving for an extreme degree of solitude and social isolation. Such a desire can arise among hicks due to various social, mental, personal factors. Basically, such people do not work and live with their parents, having been in close contact all their lives only with their relatives.
Although this phenomenon is not widespread in our society, it still takes place. Fortunately, such cases are rare.
How to deal with hermitage?
To get out of the state of indulgence, you need to stop your constant solitude. You need to find a person from outside, on the other side of the walls of your apartment, who can make up a company with whom you can spend free time and with whom there is something to talk about. If you think about yourself: “I love loneliness”, but at the same time you feel that you suffer from your own retreat, try to spend your evenings in the company of relatives, friends or work colleagues. Meet with friends, go to an alumni meeting evening, visit a crowded place where you can meet new people and find new people in their faces. If you want to leave your shell - take serious steps, be responsible for your favorable psycho-emotional background.
How to regain the love of life, communication, people
Work on oneself will help to get rid of such negative thoughts as: “I do not want to leave home”, and also to cope with a depressing mood. It is easier, more rational and more correct, of course, to visit a psychologist. After the first sessions, you will feel whether there is a change in your mind or not.
If you want to compete for your good mood and return to the usual rhythm of life on your own - act. Do not sit back. If you are driven by your complexes, decide to change something in your life, go to the gym, work on self-development, and take the path of your own transformation. If you sit at home and wipe away tears from resentment after a divorce, allow yourself to turn this page of your life and move on to new victories and achievements. If you are a closed person from birth and it bothers you, go against your phobias, pour in the social rhythm of life and try to become a part of society, communicating with others around you for your own good. You will see that it is not so difficult to step over your fears, and most importantly - very productively in the end.