The feeling of fear is familiar to every person from early childhood. Very young children are afraid of monsters under the bed and the dark, as they grow older, more conscious phobias appear - fear of public condemnation or physical violence. Normally, most fears are forgotten by a person as they gain their own experience. However, do not think that adults do not know how to be afraid. Fears accompany each person all his life, but sometimes the idea becomes too intrusive. And this is a full-fledged phobia. If hostility to certain objects and a constant sense of anxiety interfere with life, you need to think about treatment. But first, let's try to figure out what many people are afraid of and how to deal with it on their own.
What are the fears?
Fear can be justified or unreasonable. The simplest example is fear of harmless insects or fear of car accidents. There is also a classification according to the type of phobias and their reasons: you can worry about yourself or someone else, often the unknown scares. Fear can cause a well-known object, the previous contact with which did not bring anything good. To independently determine the type of fear, you need to ask about its causes. Do you avoid dogs and wild animals because they can bite?
This is a fear for the safety of one’s life and health, which can also be based on one’s own experience. You probably can independently recall a few examples in response to the question: “What are many people afraid of?” This is darkness, pain and death, some specific animals. But one does not have to think that the same thing scares everyone. There are quite rare types of phobias that seem strange to many.
I do not like people
Dislike for being in society often is common these days. The development of modern technology only encourages her. Today you can shop, chat, work and have fun in various ways, without leaving your home and physically being alone. You can understand if you really have a person who is afraid of people by trying to establish contact. If this behavior is temporary and caused by some striking events in the patient’s life, try to wait for the natural resolution of the problem. A completely different matter is people who consciously choose loneliness, and are not capable of full adaptation in society. It's about sociopathy. This phenomenon is not quite right to call a disease, since people of this type think rationally and logically, they can have developed living thinking. They are often given outright pride and emphasized formal style of communication.
Why is a man afraid of people?
The reasons for this fear can be a huge number. This is a fear of rejection or ridicule, dependence on outside opinions and an acute reaction to criticism. Also, many people of this type tend to put themselves on the level above everyone else due to real and imaginary achievements. The hostility to others can manifest itself in different ways. One prefers not to appear where there are too many people, the other hardly tolerates the presence of even relatives on its territory. There are various reasons why a person is afraid of people, it is necessary to understand individually in each case. A common reason is worries about one’s health or property. In the modern world, it is not customary to trust strangers, and therefore it is not surprising that many people experience anxiety and discomfort during any communication with a random passer-by. And it doesn’t matter at all whether he suggested you take you home at a late hour or ask for directions to the right address, the imagination already painted him in the form of a serial maniac or at least a robber.
Once burned, the second time you will not climb!
There is another category of people's fear - unwillingness to close communication. With this phobia, most often there are no signs of sociopathy or misanthropy. A person happily attends social events, every day he goes to large shops and has a lot of friends. But he does not have real friends and a love partner. All attempts by others to get closer and take relations to a new level do not bring results. How to understand why a
person is afraid of people with this behavior? In most cases, we are talking about the acquired negative experience. Most likely, there was a death of one of the dear people or a betrayal on their part. As for the sphere of love - periods of aversion to the opposite sex are observed in almost every person who has recently left a relationship. But some people can beware of creating a family quite consciously, on the basis of pragmatic calculations as to how their life will change after marriage.
If so scary, why not be left alone?
A relatively small number of people actually live in isolation from society. Do not forget that the need for communication is important for any person. Perhaps one of your acquaintances really rarely attends parties and prefers to spend more time at home. But at the same time, he is unlikely to refuse affordable virtual communication. Being in complete isolation, any person will feel miserable, not without reason that life imprisonment in solitary confinement is still considered the worst form of punishment for criminals. This is one of the answers to the question: “What are bold people afraid of looking fearless?” Loneliness. Fear can take many forms, it all depends on the individual decoding this concept. For some, loneliness is to be forgotten and useless to anyone; for another, loss of understanding with loved ones.
Self-fear
It is very difficult to find a person who is not sincerely afraid of death. This feeling can be called normal only in a number of situations when a feeling of despair or humility comes first. They wish death and are not afraid of its occurrence during moments of severe depression against the background of significant irreversible events. Sometimes
it is also
characteristic of terminally ill or elderly people due to serious health problems, death in this case seems to be liberation. Under normal conditions, the
instinct of self-preservation is present in all animals. It is also common for a person to try to avoid taking actions that can cause serious damage to health, cause pain or lead to death. Any phobia can take on a guise - it is a fear of transport, visits to doctors or other people. No matter how it manifests itself, the correct description of what a person is most afraid of is to cease to exist or to receive incurable injuries.
Irrational fears
In addition to the “main” fears, the nature of which is not difficult to explain, many people are afraid of the most ordinary objects and living things. What is noteworthy, objects that can cause real harm are not always scared. Poisonous spiders and snakes, dragonflies, beetles and other insects, threatening sculptures and objects associated with mysticism - this is what many people fear.
It is not always possible to independently identify the reasons. Most often, this is an involuntary fright, for example, in the case of a friendly rally. Many phobias of this type were laid down in childhood, it is not even necessary to scare a child on purpose, he just needs to see a scary picture or a trailer from a horror movie. After that, the fact that mice or spiders are scary will become an axiom for a long time.
Can I stop being afraid?
Now you know what many people are afraid of, and the question is ripening: "What is to be done with all this?" Serious mental disorders need professional correction. If a person is able to control their feelings and emotions, you can try to recover on their own.
The easiest way is to study your fear in detail. If a person is afraid of something tangible, you should start by collecting theoretical information and gradually approaching the subject. Suppose a person is afraid of snakes - he first needs to learn as much as possible about these animals, then watch a video about them and go to the terrarium. To consolidate the effect, you can buy a snake as a pet. If you know why a person is afraid, you need to help realize the reasons. To do this, psychologists offer entire sets of exercises and use hypnosis techniques that allow you to relive everything anew and get rid of negative emotions.