Do you think a socially adapted psychopath looks like a maniac from horror films? Nothing like this. Such a person is a daffodil without emotion. Outwardly, a person cannot be distinguished in any way from a normal person. But when you get to know the person better, you begin to notice strange inclinations that she previously managed to hide. How not to fall for the trap of a psychopath and not connect your life with it?
Definition
The type of socially adapted psychopath is quite common. But to recognize a person with deviations is very difficult. People, realizing their abnormality, are well camouflaged. Adaptation of such persons occurs at the highest level. What are the main deviations of socially adapted psychopaths? People cannot feel. Emotions for such persons are something beyond reality. A person cannot feel love or care, but she understands these feelings and knows how to play along with normal people. The problem with this type of people is that they have no attachments. And when a person does not feel anything in relation to the persons with whom he lives, the person is capable of any lawlessness. A psychopath can fall in love with a gullible sacrifice so that it helps him in everyday life. Washing, cleaning and all the rest of the household rests on the shoulders of a person who is trapped. An unbalanced person will be able to do what he wants, while the family will sit and worry. A person lives for his pleasure and does not agree to reckon with anyone's interests. Caring and love mean nothing to such a person. Personal gain is what the psychopath seeks.
Women features
Psychological diseases affect people of both sexes. Who are they socially adapted psychopaths? Women who are popularly nicknamed bitch are often vivid representatives of carriers of psychological illness. A woman strives in life only for her own happiness. To achieve a place in the sun, the lady is ready for a lot. She changes men like gloves, tries to master as many skills as possible and tame as many people as possible, whom the person will subsequently make her minions. A woman cannot feel anything in relation to those around her. Many can say that a lady needs only money, but this will not be true. Bitches get pleasure, and to get many of them you really need money. Socially adapted female psychopaths are everywhere seeking their benefits. It is important for them that life goes as they want. And in order to lure the victim into a trap, the girls work on their appearance daily, as well as “pump” intelligence. Psychopaths cannot be called stupid in any way. A man who skillfully manipulates others is very smart. And a person who knows how to portray feelings at will can achieve unprecedented heights. A girl can be anything: passionate, tender, caring or bitchy. The lady adapts to the preferences of the man whom he wants to tame. Marriage with such a woman is impossible. The lady just does not need a lasting relationship and any restrictions on her own freedom.
Men features
And how does a socially adapted psychopath male behave? A person avoids any responsibility. He does not want to tie the knot, but does not mind starting a long relationship. The guy wants to be admired and appreciated. In response to blind worship, the person will not reciprocate. A person has no feelings. But this does not mean that the guy will avoid manifesting feelings. A person will play what, in his opinion, all other people could experience in a similar situation. A socially adapted psychopath in relation to a woman is very courteous and affectionate. He can become a girl’s best friend, first-class lover and gentle admirer. And for a man, such roles will not cause any problems. After all, a person does not feel anything for a person whom he conquers. He will be like an actor who will play various roles and enrich his experience and learn something new with each new role. The man will not let the lady get too close to him. As soon as the girl crosses the limits, the young man says goodbye to her. A socially adapted psychopath in relation to a woman will behave as a lady would like. Therefore, from such a type of men excellent pick-ups are obtained. Guys can professionally shoot girls for one night. A man can promise a lot to a lady, but it will be a flashy game in which all words are thrown to the wind.
Signs
Do you want to recognize a socially adapted psychopath? Outwardly, you can’t determine the signs of such a person. A person may seem normal and adequate. When meeting with a narcissistic person, devoid of feelings, nothing terrible can be noticed. A person will behave actively, stay confident and with pleasure will take on the role of the soul of the company. Such a person will not seem suspicious exactly until you recognize the person closer. With a long acquaintance with a person you can notice many strange nuances that are difficult to detect at first. For example, a person without any feelings will often ask others what they feel at one time or another. To a normal person, the question may seem strange. Yes, and how to describe feelings in words? If someone pays attention to the strangeness of the question, the psychopath will laugh it off and say that he is interested in the question from a purely scientific point of view. In fact, a person similarly collects information about how normal people feel during grief or great joy in order to know how to react in a certain situation.
The lack of sincere emotions will not allow a person to quickly respond to emotional situations. For example, one of your friends can tell a story about how a little girl died at the hands of bandits. A normal person after such a story will be saddened. Emotions will boil in the soul of a person, because a little girl was not to blame for anything. And an emotionless person will absolutely not care, as the person simply does not know how to empathize. By the reaction of a person to a sad story, you can easily determine whether you are crazy before you or an adequate personality.
Simple test
Adapted psychopaths in life are common. Communication with such people should be avoided. After all, an abnormal person will use others to achieve his goals. But how do you find out who is in front of you - a normal person or a psycho? Take a simple test. If all of the following applies to someone you know, then you should break the relationship with the person:
- Pay attention to contradictions. A person who tries to manipulate the consciousness of others and to impress upon them that he is a normal person will often lie. Do not trust the words of the person and check the stories. If the story turns out to be fiction, then this may become a bell that the person with whom you are communicating is not adequate enough.
- Abrupt changes of topic. A person can jump from one topic to another without even noticing it. Why is this happening? A person cannot sincerely sympathize with the characters he is talking about, so she will not consider it important to delve into the feelings of those in question.
- Lack of responsibility. The psychopath will never admit that he made a mistake, he will shift his guilt to others. It’s easier for a person to find a scapegoat and blame everything on an innocent person who was not related to the psychopath’s guilt.
- The desire to get close right away. A person who tries to gain confidence in you and establish close relationships during an acquaintance should arouse suspicion. A normal person will never open his soul to a complete stranger and demand frankness from that.
- The desire to cause pity. If you want to get the sympathy of a person, you just have to pity the person. This technique is often used by psychopaths. They make a sacrifice of themselves, look for a sympathetic person, and then rub themselves into her confidence.
Why psychopathic relationships are attractive
A person likes when they show increased interest in him. Psychopaths differ from ordinary people in that they thoroughly study their victim. When a person does not experience any emotions for a person, he can act calmly and judiciously. The victim does not notice the catch, because the psychopath acts carefully. He quickly rubbed into trust, and then begins to pretend to be in love. A socially adapted psycho-man gives flowers to a girl, beautifully looks after, presents expensive gifts and quickly buys female sympathy. The girl gladly falls into the hands of a tempter who only needs this. When the lady caught the hook, the man does not slow down. He continues to play his part, but less actively. The lady continues to receive gifts and still goes to restaurants. A woman sees the sympathy of a man and thinks that it is love. But such courtship is a trap. But how can a girl refuse the best romance in her life? The lady must be careful. If the novel unfolds very violently and the period of falling in love drags on, there are no scandals and love seems like a fairy tale, then it’s not a normal man, but a psychopath who has no emotions.
Who is the victim
Who is more likely than others to get into well-woven networks of psychopaths? People who are emotionally attached. These people are scared of normal relationships. They hold on to a partner and make every effort to keep their soulmate close to them. Such relationships do not suit normal persons. But adapted psychos agree to assume the role of an idol. A person who has long been looking for a person to "fumigate" finds her, and both people are happy. The psychopath gets a comfortable existence, and his partner can always take care of his skillful manipulator. Moreover, the person who falls for the bait of a cunning crazy, most often kind and naive. He does not expect a dirty trick from his beloved and trusts him as himself. And when, over time, the psycho shows his true feelings, namely indifference, the partner begins to get scared of this and blames himself for everything. You do not need to do this. Two are to blame for the relationship only if both partners are committed to creating a strong and full-fledged family. When one of the people is looking for a comfortable life without obligations, there can be no talk of a full-fledged family.
Relationship with a psychopath
Is it possible to exist normally with an abnormal person under one roof? How do socially adapted psychopaths in marriage relate to their partner? The abnormal people in the first few years of living together with their soul mate do not show their true face, thereby convincing the person that in life together everything is good and cloudless. But after a while, it begins to become clear that the adaptive psycho lives a double life. He changes lovers and does not want to take any part in family life. A similar person also does not want children. All that captivates a person is entertainment and pleasure. And when a legitimate marriage partner tries to reason with his soul mate, the psycho takes the form of virtue and begins to say that he has gone astray and that this and that is to blame. The spouse forgives the psycho, and the family idyll resumes. True, again not for long. Relations with a socially adapted psychopath are like a roller coaster. Quiet family life from time to time is replaced by the crazy tricks of a psycho who seeks only pleasure from life.
Manipulation
A socially adapted psychopath can only exist normally with a personality weaker than himself. Then the person will have every chance to manipulate the consciousness of a loved one. Having no feelings for a partner, the psycho will, without a twinge of conscience, study the painful points of his partner and, if necessary, click on them. The roommate of the manipulator will not notice the psychological game in which he is a pawn. Listening in all your soul mate, the person becomes soft and supple, like plasticine. Crazy sculpts from his soulmate what he wants. Having well tied a partner to himself with imaginary love, the person will continue to seek benefits in life, not burdening his family in any way. A good command of manipulation will allow the adapted psycho to quickly achieve career heights and get a good education. An intelligent person in whose hands loved ones will be pawns will be able to play any games he wants. A person will be able to scoff at people, use them for their own purposes or help especially nice people. But one does not need to think that the help of a psycho will be the command of his soul. Help will be a move through which the psycho will gain adorers.
Treatment
Is there any way to help a socially adapted psychopath? The treatment of such a person should be supervised by an experienced specialist. The roots of personality disorder should be sought in childhood, which was unhealthy. Normal parents teach their child to experience emotions, and if the baby does not understand something, parents immediately try to correct such a flaw. But the emotionality of a person can disappear not only at an early, but also at a later age. For example, after a serious disaster or family drama. In any case, the human psyche will be abnormal, so he needs the help of a qualified specialist.
How to adapt a psychopath? Man himself must express a desire to change. You can not force a person to change his system of perception of the world contrary to true desire. If a person wants to become normal, he can consciously develop the emotions in himself that are inherent in any normal person. But to induce an adult emotionless person to change is almost impossible. A person is too accustomed to his uniqueness, and she professionally manages to manipulate others, so why should a person change something?
How to break up?
How to end a relationship with a socially adapted psychopath? It is very difficult for a victim who has been captured by manipulation to escape to freedom. But if you still manage to break the web and see a person without embellishment, you need to leave him without any explanation. No need to explain to the psycho that you have convicted him of emotionlessness. Just say you want to leave, and this is your deliberate decision. If a person asks about the reason for the break, tell me some triviality, like "they did not agree on the characters." Such an explanation will perplex the psycho. And while a person will think where he miscalculated, you need to leave. Otherwise, the person will again try to drag you into a network of lies.
How to part with a socially adapted psychopath? Show firmness of character and do not answer calls of the person. Parting will wrap your mind so that all your friends condemn you. A man will try to shield himself and make himself an angel. Do not give in to the entreaties of relatives and stand your ground. Your life is in your hands, do not let anyone break it. You must be able to insist on your own, otherwise the psycho will enslave you and you can never leave him. But not one of the relatives should complain about their former love. Say you're tired of the relationship and want to relax.