The world around us is full of irritants to which we cannot but respond. The modern man, for all the benefits of civilization with which he surrounded himself, is a creature nervously extremely exhausted and defenseless. The frantic pace of life, the sea of information that our brain must digest without interruption, cataclysms in nature and society, economic instability and uncertainty in the future, disgusting ecology - these and many other factors led to the fact that the first quarter of the 21st century was marked by a real surge in mental illnesses around the world. Especially often, people began to suffer bouts of depression. And what is interesting: the disease primarily covers countries with a high standard of living.
Protective reaction effect
What does it mean to not get upset? In fact, it does not react at all to those things and phenomena that cause us negative emotions. But many of the protective functions of our body have long been lost, and sometimes such trifles that a person who lived about 200 years ago would simply not pay attention to us. Another option is not to be upset - to be a real nonsense. How real is this possible? Hard to say. If some personalities possess similar talents, most likely they are clearly marginal. And, finally, another way to avoid being upset is working on oneself, on one’s own self-government, and in one’s own nerves. And in this science, simple and complex at the same time, each of us can succeed very well.
Tip 1: filter your environment
To begin, just think about how you need to behave so as not to be upset. Review your life and try to adjust your own actions in such a way as to protect yourself from troubles as much as possible. For example, you noticed that in the presence of some people you feel discomfort, unpleasant emotions, loss of strength. So, try to delete them from your environment or reduce the total pastime to a complete minimum. Very soon you will notice that you do not need to be upset in 7-8 cases out of 10. Put yourself in such a way that those who want to be with you take care of your spiritual comfort.
Tip 2: adapting to problems
Do not avoid impending problems, take the pose of an ostrich or a wise gudgeon. Learn to behave differently: do not panic or hysteria, but act according to the situation - carefully and calmly. But it is imperative that no matter what force majeure strikes, give yourself the setting: “Don’t be upset, everything will be fine!” This part of auto-suggestion is extremely important. You kind of pre-program yourself for a favorable outcome of the incident, which will really lead to victory or significantly mitigate a possible defeat.
Tip 3: your little joys
In order not to be upset over trifles, you should philosophically look at the world. Remember Carlson with his proverb: “This is all nonsense, an everyday matter!” Namely, because if your child brought another deuce, and the head looked askance, they were rude in the trolley, the world did not turn over and did not collapse. In such cases, do exactly the opposite: caress the child - even hooligan and diligent, it is yours, beloved and dear! The boss smiles broadly and radiantly. Maybe he scandalized his wife in the morning, and he should be pitied? And apologize to the boor yourself. This will discourage him, and everyone present will be a wonderful lesson. Personally, please yourself with something tasty and enjoyable. And love yourself, be sure to love!
Tip 4: the art of being yourself
And this is also important in the fight against bad mood. Learn to understand your uniqueness, your personal pricelessness. Remember more often Yevtushenko’s poem "There are no uninteresting people in the world." Naturally, someone may be more educated than you, smarter, more experienced, younger, more beautiful. But this does not detract from your value, right? You do not get worse from such a comparison. And why compare, because life is not an eternal competition in which you definitely need to take first place. You are another or another, that's all! Recognize this, imbue this thought, and walk through life with your head held high. Then all sorrows will not get you, like annoying mosquitoes and flies.
Tip 5: don't be afraid of mistakes
So psychologists advise people with a "fad" that everything should be right. Only those who do nothing at all are not mistaken. And you act, therefore, you are not immune from mistakes. In general, it is better to do and regret than not to do and regret. Indeed, each failure is, on the one hand, an effective life lesson, on the other, an invaluable experience for you, and thirdly, an open door or launching pad for new achievements.
Tip 6: let the past go
Do not cling to the past, do not stir past grievances, leave the “that” world to ghosts. Live in the present and dream of the future. In the end, the past can be mourned seriously - once and for all. And with one or ten reasons for the disorder, you will have less. And still very firmly believe that life will certainly make you happy! Be in the fresh air more often, receive new impressions and believe only in good!