We often hear: "Do not share the skin of an unkilled bear." The value of this phraseology, as a rule, we know. It boils down to the fact that you should not rush things, rush to write something into an asset, put yourself a mental “daw”.
What phraseology teaches
Like most folk wisdom, this dictum teaches sanity. It comes down to first doing everything properly, and only then celebrating the victory. If you look for a close analogue to the expression in Russian, it will be: "Do not say" gop "until you jump over." Thus, everything must be done on time and to the place. That's why they say: "You should not share the skin of an unkilled bear." The meaning, we think, is clear to both young and old.
But originally, this expression was coined as an admonition to the young. After all, it is youth that is most prone to various kinds of projection, but she believes that she still has a wagon and a small cart. On the contrary, mature people prefer to live on daily tasks and deeds. Maybe because adults have them, and youth, as a rule, is carefree, and you constantly have to pull it and say: “You do not need to share the skin of an unkilled bear.” The meaning of this expression is generally well known to young people, so they calm down, but not for long.
Want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans
You can’t guess anything, because life is unpredictable. You can’t put too much hope in something. We put emotions into expectations, when the first ones do not come true, we are upset. If you do not hope and do not try to share the skin of an unkilled bear (we examined the meaning of the expression a little higher), then there will be no upsets.
The load of other people's expectations
There is an article on the Internet that describes in detail and even tediously why one cannot tell other people about their plans. The final thesis is this: consciousness is to blame.
Talking takes our poor consciousness as a fait accompli and ceases to stimulate the body to achieve certain goals. Here only two circumstances confuse:
- Is our consciousness so stupid that it can not distinguish the possible from the real?
- Is the person as a whole so stupid that he does not understand: how many do not say the word "halva" in your mouth will not become sweeter?
Therefore, we believe that the matter is completely different, and the article to which we refer, the pure fantasy of its authors, has no scientific, psychological basis.
When a person tells someone about something, he kind of makes a promise to the interlocutor. The load of these promises crushes, the person feels uncomfortable, as if in a cage. As a result, the plan is not implemented. Therefore, one should trust in the popular wisdom taught by the proverb (“to share the skin of an unkilled bear”). The meaning of phraseology is saturated with love for the present moment. Not to what was in the past, and not to what will be in the future.
“Explanations” of M. Heidegger and plans
Another option for the development of events and the answer to the question of why people do not realize most of their promises and ideas in life.
Projects of a person are actually not so important for him, and he just forgets about them. Life is fast, especially today, people, as a rule, do not remember 90% of what they say. Now communication has become one of the relaxation methods. M. Heidegger called it “talk,” that is, the process of conversation is valuable in itself, but not in a good sense, when we vigilantly follow its thread, meaning and content, and in bad - we need to “get the air”, kill time, we need background noise. In such conversations, a person blurs a lot of things. The interlocutor attaches great importance to this, and the speaker of his plans does not even remember. So, the plans are not realized: a) a person as a result does not cope with the burden of other people's expectations, and b) the uttered plans mean little to him. The result is that it’s better not to build plans at all, but such a model of life is available to few, which is a pity. In other words, you should not share the skin of an unkilled bear. The meaning of the proverb is clear.
How to learn to live in the present?
Buddhists teach that every day is a small life. Armed with this extremely wise thesis, let us say that it is better not to build far-reaching plans at any age. All these thought constructs are very unnerving and do not allow a person to live normally and solve specific tasks. A person constantly oppresses himself with the past or the future, not knowing how to enjoy the present.
In this context, the question posed by us in the title of the section is very important, the answer to it is both simple and complex at the same time. Life should be step by step, gradually, without rushing anywhere. Life is such that it is interrupted suddenly, therefore there is always a chance of not becoming someone and not having something in time. But plans and constant striving for the future poison the present. So, it is not necessary to divide the skin of an unkilled bear ahead of time. The meaning of the proverb sets a person in an indestructible union with the present.