Love, sympathy, attraction - feelings are rather strange. They bring adrenaline and brightness of sensations to our life, saturation
experiences and the fullness of emotions. True, they can be both positive and negative. And cause great joy or endless sadness.
First reaction
A familiar picture, isn't it: he sees her home or meets her at the porch with flowers; calls to the cinema or to a concert; invites you to sit in a cafe, wander through a quiet autumn park? He tries as best he can, but ... And then the question arises: "What if the girl does not reciprocate?"
The very first thing a person experiences at such moments is resentment. Guys are no less vulnerable and vulnerable mentally than the fairer sex. And they experience as deeply and strongly. He who thinks that this is a manifestation of mental weakness is deeply mistaken. Upset, sad about failure - a natural human reaction. But the young man is definitely not worth panic and depression. How to be What if the girl does not reciprocate? We’ll talk about this in more detail now.
To the core
So, the first thing to do when the first wave of experiences subsides is to soberly assess the situation. Try to determine the cause of indifference, find out whether it was the result of any actions and actions of the guy himself or was the original? What if the girl does not reciprocate due to the mistakes and miscalculations of the young man? Naturally, try to correct the situation, make amends. Maybe the girl needs to be given time so that she can cool down, rethink, reconsider her attitude to the fan. And then everything will slowly improve by itself. In this case, the guy should weaken the onslaught, step aside a little, and then gradually begin to courtship again. Another question is "what if the girl does not reciprocate at all, initially." In this case, the situation may indeed be hopeless.
Psychological attitude: do not get stuck on the problem!
Remember the proverb: “A wedge is kicked out with a wedge”? So try to follow it. In the end, there are a lot of pretty cuties around. And surely the rejected admirer is liked by many representatives of the opposite sex. Therefore, instead of racking one's brains over the question "how to achieve reciprocity from a girl," it is better to channel energy in a different direction. True, it is not worth rushing. Let the unfortunate Romeo move away from the sad thoughts, clean the feathers. And carefully, unobtrusively, prudently (remembering about the water and milk that they blow), he begins to establish new relationships. But just do not do it to someone in spite. Or to cause jealousy of the past passion. There will be no sense from such a "wedge". Everything should start from a new sheet.
"Learn to rule yourself ..."
What in no case should be done if the girl does not reciprocate:
1.
Do without public jealousy scenes. If for girls tantrums are still at least somehow excusable, then for guys they are excluded. The subtlety of mental organization and ladies' nervousness are far from the same thing!
2. Deliberate contempt, indifference, and ignoring are also undesirable. They reveal the vulnerability of a guy, focus on the fact that the past holds him in his hands. Alas, here the guys themselves, and even more so the "ex" and her entourage, can laugh at him at ease. And who needs it? Just try to intersect less often with the capricious young lady, and if the meeting happened, behave with dignity, restraint, but naturally. And anyway - read the classics, everything is said there!
"The less a woman we love ..."
Yes, all the same great Pushkin! Lovelace, he was excellent, read a woman’s heart, like an open book. What does the classic advise? Did the girl stop reciprocating? Pay attention to this phrase - the keyword here is "stopped". This is a signal, it should not be passed by. Try to talk with the lady of the heart, find out what she is unhappy with. And, if possible, discuss controversial points, so
so that they no longer become stumbling blocks. Another positive point of the conversation is that if the old relationship does not resume, when new ones are born, the guy will not step on the rake again. "Girlfriend in retirement" can also play on girlish vanity and jealousy. But only if he has a good understanding of the character of his beloved fiancée, he values her very much and wants to restore her location. To do this, calculate the steps as an experienced chess player and play the games.
We're just friends"?
Another option is when a conflict arises on a personal basis between a guy and a girl - when a young lady sees in her gentleman a purely knight, friend, almost a creature of the same sex. She often consults with such a young man, talks about problems, shares experiences. Maybe even cry on his chest or peck on the cheek, saying goodbye. And hugs, kisses and other affection in her plans, alas, are not included. What to do? Make it clear: yes, you are ready to become her confessor and adviser. However, they do not intend to limit themselves exclusively to this role and agree only on more.