Feel free to polemicize. If on any issue you do not agree with your interlocutor, do not be afraid to express your point of view. You do not have to blindly follow the flow of thoughts of a friend or assent to the opinion of friends.
The polemic should reveal your judgments and teach you to defend your point of view. At the same time, not rejecting indiscriminately everything that was said by others, but defending your conclusions with reason, with links to the sources of your information. All this, firstly, is a very good conversational practice, and secondly, it raises your rating in the eyes of the interlocutors.
To polemic means to adhere to the rules
In any dispute, it is better to adhere to several recommendations:
- Do not argue with the leader, but only with associates. If you disagree with the head (teacher), do not capitulate immediately, but ask clarifying questions and pretend that he said what is very important, but you need to think it over and digest it now.
- To polemicize means to speak only on the merits of the issue, as correctly as possible and without the slightest trace of personal interest and the struggle of pride. To achieve this result, use a standard psychological technique: imagine that you are not polemicizing (synonym - arguing) with your opponent, but as if discussing the subject with yourself, giving various arguments in favor of different points of view. In this case, only for one you speak in your own voice, and for the other - in the voice of your opponent. With this approach to the business, you will not offend either your beloved or your real opponent.
- The controversy must be conclusive. Simple opinions are not taken into account. If you have nothing to say, better keep quiet. Speak only with objections of three kinds: direct challenge of the opponent's arguments; bringing facts and considerations incompatible with the point of view of the opponent; providing alternative explanations for the facts used by the opponent.
To polemic means to be polite and delicate.
If you do not agree with someone’s opinion, let the person finish the sentence, do not interrupt him in the middle of the speech. Do not be afraid that your ingenious thought will disappear before the speaker expresses his own. If your thoughts have such enviable flying qualities, write down your theses, wait for the speech you want to supplement, comment on or refute and ask for words.
In your speech, it is better to first list the positions on which you disagree with the previous speaker, and then give your reasons for each item. If your opinion is based solely on the solid views of the venerable scholars of science, you should not consider the statement based on the principle: “Ivanov is wrong because Academician Petrov and Professor Sidorov wrote completely differently in their immortal works.” Consent with the smart and eminent is also good , but it would be nice to argue.
An old saying goes that truth is born in a dispute. Any correct and honest dispute pursues precisely this noble goal and, expressed in high style, is called polemic.
To polemicize means to take part in such an ennobled form of a dispute when opponents are not going to completely and completely reject the point of view of others, not even guided by its incorrectness, but only because this point of view is not their personal one.
Controversy, in contrast to the bazaar squabble, does not translate evidence of the truth of those discussing from the sphere of scientific arguments into the field of personal qualities of opponents and their relatives. At least I shouldn't do that.