A man is a vessel that is filled with all kinds of emotions (both positive and negative). One of the most powerful emotions is resentment. It poisons a person and eats it from the inside. Therefore, most psychologists agree that a full and happy life is impossible while a person is offended. If it’s not easy for you to let go of this feeling, use effective forgiveness techniques.
What is dangerous insult
Do not underestimate the importance of forgiveness and emotional cleansing techniques. Resentment can be compared with poisons that poison a person. If you do not take any measures to neutralize them, you run the risk of facing such problems:
- violation of energy flows;
- bouts of irritability;
- uncontrolled aggression;
- mood swings;
- depressive states;
- melancholy and indifference;
- diseases of the cardiovascular system;
- diseases of the digestive tract;
- fragility of bones;
- problems with skin, hair and nails;
- anorexia and bulimia;
- change in behavioral norms;
- chronic fatigue and weakness;
- pessimism and depression;
- bouts of laughter or crying.
Visualization of forgiveness
Visualization is an effective forgiveness technique that involves subconscious contact with the offender. It is implemented as follows:
- Neutralize distractions — sources of noise, pungent odors, and bright light.
- Take a comfortable position, close your eyes and try to completely distance yourself from worldly concerns and vanities.
- Imagine entering the open doors of a beautiful temple.
- Imagine that your abuser is in the room, but not in his current guise, but in the form of a frightened child who has mischiefed and been exposed.
- Imagine how this child asks you for forgiveness for a misconduct. In doing so, he should call you by name.
- If you do not feel relief, mentally express all your grievances and complaints to the child.
- Ask your child for forgiveness and have a friendly conversation with him.
- Imagine that you leave the temple, leaving the child there.
- Stay at rest for a few more minutes without opening your eyes.
Three letters
To free yourself from the negative, you need to throw it out. But it is not always possible to express what has accumulated in the soul. But you can "express" everything on paper. Forgiveness technique "Three letters" implies the following actions:
- On the first day, on a piece of paper describe all your grievances. Describe in detail, describing not only the events themselves, but also the emotions that embrace you.
- The next day, take a new sheet and again "tell" him all the negativity that you have left from the previous day.
- The last letter is a description of the invaluable experience that you have gained through the negative situations that you described earlier.
- The next day, burn all three letters, and wash the ashes into the sewers.
Letter to the offender
Unfortunately, people are not always able (or not able) to openly express their claims to each other. In this case, written forgiveness techniques come to the rescue. The letter to the offender should contain answers to the following questions:
- What did the wrongdoer do to you?
- What troubles did you encounter because of this?
- How has this situation affected your life?
- What do you want from the offender?
This letter will help you understand if your resentment makes any practical sense. If you do not have the answer to the last question, then the situation has long been settled and you should not cultivate your anger. If you need some kind of "compensation", try to get them from some other sources.
Flowers for a man
One of the effective techniques for forgiving a man involves delivering a luxurious bouquet to the offender (of course, mentally). It is done like this:
- Create a calm, secluded environment and take a comfortable position.
- Distract from extraneous thoughts and focus on the offensive situation, playing it in your head in great detail.
- At the climax, when your anger reaches the limit, imagine how you get a magnificent bouquet of flowers from behind and give it to a man.
- Imagine how confused and dumbfounded he is. Thus, you will break the pattern of the situation and distract from anger.
- Mentally communicate with a person on abstract topics, as if there was no conflict between you.
- Imagine that you have come to a complete understanding and ended the conversation on a friendly note.
The technique of forgiveness according to Sviyash
Resentment creates internal emotional blocks that interfere with a full life. To get rid of them, pay attention to the technique of forgiveness of Sviyash. For women who are faced with male betrayal and want to get rid of the overwhelming state of resentment, the following installation was developed:
With love and gratitude, I accept (the name of the person or the name of the situation) as it is.
I apologize to (name) for all my thoughts, emotions and actions in relation to him.
With love and gratitude (name) forgives me.
Say this "mantra" not just for show, but sincerely. At the same time, you should not blame the offender, but how to feel guilty that you were angry with him. Repeat the coveted phrases for a long time, each time the blocks will gradually be erased. According to the author of the technique, Alexander Sviyash, to completely get rid of resentment, you need to spend from 10 to 15 hours.
Money Forgiveness Technique
Money is important to a person. But in a constant pursuit of material well-being, a person accumulates a huge amount of negativity and "fills" with internal blocks. In this case, another technique of emotional purification of A. Sviyash will come to the rescue. The technique of effective forgiveness of money involves deep breathing and reciting mantras, through which you ask the money forgiveness for the wrong attitude to them. This will save you from internal blocks and open new material flows.
Empty chair
A fairly effective technique for forgiving offenses is called the "Empty Chair". It is carried out in several stages:
- Choose the time when you will be home alone, put an empty chair in front of you and imagine that the same person on whom you harbor a grudge is sitting.
- Tell this imaginary person everything that you have accumulated to this day. Do not be shy in the expressions, you can scream. The main thing is to give vent to negativity.
- If you are still tense, take physical action. Stomp your feet or throw some objects into the chair, trying to hit the imaginary offender.
- When you feel physical and mental fatigue, stop. This means that you have already got rid of some share of the negative.
- Every day, resort to this technique until you feel that the feeling of resentment has completely abandoned you.
Cinema hall
One technique for effective forgiveness involves repeated meditation. This process includes several stages, namely:
- Create a calm atmosphere in the room by eliminating sources of noise, pungent odors and bright colors.
- Take a comfortable position, close your eyes, and breathe quietly and deeply for a few minutes to drive away extraneous thoughts.
- Imagine that you are in a movie theater, and on the big screen you see your offender. Imagine how something good happens to him, how he rejoices and laughs.
- Now imagine that you are watching the same joyful and light film, but only about yourself.
- Repeat this meditation daily until you feel that anger and resentment have left you completely.
Group forgiveness
If in your life there were many conflicts with different people, surely each of them left an unpleasant trace in your life. To get rid of all the negative at once, use the group technique of forgiveness. Women and men who caused you trouble will leave your thoughts if you follow this algorithm:
- On a sheet of paper in a column write the names of all the people on whom you harbor a grudge. On the contrary, be sure to specify what exactly each of them did to you.
- Close your eyes, take a deep breath for a few minutes, drive away extraneous thoughts.
- Imagine that you are facing the first person on the list. Tell him all your complaints, and then say that you forgive and let him go.
- Cross out the first position from the list on paper.
- Repeat the same for all other offenders.
- When all offenders are finished, write on the same piece of paper that you forgave them all.
- Get rid of the list. It can be burned, torn, or simply thrown into the bin.
Event Correction
It often happens that events do not develop in your favor simply because you were unable to correctly respond to the actions of the offender or adequately respond to him. Thus, an unpleasant precipitate is added to a painful insult in the form of something unfinished or unspeakable. To deal with this situation, follow a certain sequence of actions:
- On a piece of paper in detail describe a situation from the past that makes you feel resentful. Describe events in the most detailed and accurate way, focusing on your emotions at that moment.
- On another piece of paper, rewrite events as you would like them to develop. That is, make yourself a winner in this situation. Do not be afraid to fantasize. In paints, describe how you would respond to the offender. Perhaps portray a revenge scenario.
- On the third sheet, describe the scene of reconciliation with the offender. For example, how generously you forgive him, how he thanks you for it. And perhaps in your story everything will end with friendship.
- Burn all three letters, and lower the ashes into the sewer.
Prayer
If religion is one of the key places in your life, then prayer will be the most effective forgiveness technique for you. You can pray both according to generally accepted norms and in your own words. Ask God for wisdom that will help you get rid of resentment and forgive everyone who once made you ill. Also ask for your offender all the best that you want for yourself.
Forgive yourself
Not all troubles in life are connected with the actions of strangers. Unfortunately, a person creates many problems for himself. And resentment against oneself is the most painful and destructive. With regard to yourself, you can use any technique you like. And to apologize, in addition to specific errors and misconduct, you need for the following:
- for putting other people's opinions above your own interests;
- because you limit yourself to the fulfillment of desires, to fun, to shopping, to pleasures;
- for constantly expressing dissatisfaction with your life and loved ones;
- for laziness and inaction;
- for lack of ambition;
- for self-flagellation when something goes wrong or fails;
- for negative emotions;
- for bad thoughts.
Conclusion
An undercurrent of resentment is a powerful destructive force that slowly but systematically undermines you from within. Mostly spiritual and physical weakness occurs due to the inability to express their complaints to the offender (there are not many brave people who can decide on this). Thus, the negativity intended for the offender, you direct to yourself. If you do not have the opportunity or courage to express your claims directly, express them to the Universe using forgiveness techniques. If you take this issue seriously, you can free yourself and start a new life full of joy, vivid emotions and lofty aspirations.