Unfortunately, in relationships it very often happens that one of the partners begins to move away from the other. This can occur in the early stages of development or even after the wedding. How to behave if a man moves away and how to build relationships with the person you love, even if he does not make efforts to do this? You will receive answers to these questions in our article.
Why a man moves away - the main reasons
Perhaps this issue excites almost every woman. Psychologists respond to him like this: "Men need to periodically disappear in order to be alone with themselves." That is, even if the partner is deeply in love with the girl, he will still from time to time retire with his own thoughts, so that you can think a little. However, it also happens that a man can move away for a more serious reason.
- One of them is that he felt for the boundaries that await him in the life of a beautiful woman. All the fair sex tend to love freedom. However, sooner or later, everyone in a relationship will understand that for the sake of a loved one they will have to sacrifice something. Some men may not accept such a thought and simply begin to move away.
- Pressure toward a partner is also one of the most popular reasons for estrangement. When a representative of the fair sex begins to build relationships for the future without the knowledge of her partner, the man becomes extremely uncomfortable. He begins to think that they are just using him, that his opinion is absolutely not important. That is why psychologists recommend not making important decisions without men.
- A man may also begin to doubt his choice if he notices that the beauty began to behave differently than during the meeting. And this is not surprising. Beauties often wear masks to seem better, but no one can pretend to be forever. When a man recognizes the shortcomings of his life partner, he begins to gradually move away, especially if they are not very happy with him, but he cannot change his partner.
- Unfortunately, problems in a man’s life can also cause him to move away. The psychology of the stronger sex is designed in such a way that they will never begin to build a serious relationship if they are not able to provide their beloved with a happy future. No matter how strong feelings a partner may have for a woman, sooner or later he may begin to move away from her, because he lacks money.
- A sense of secondaryity is one of the most common reasons for the separation of men from their chosen one. A representative of the stronger sex should always feel that it is the only one for a beauty. If she, being in a relationship, continues to communicate with her acquaintances, then a man may feel that he is in second place. Also, the child of a woman or her mother can play a primary role.
And these are just the most basic reasons to answer the question: "Why do men move away?" Of course, the solution to the problem will always be strictly individual. However, do not despair! There are no situations from which it would be impossible to find a way out. In most cases, the path to happiness lies on the surface. The only question is whether you are able to make changes in order to maintain a relationship with your loved one.
Let him know that he is not weak
One of the reasons why a man moves away from a woman is love. Yes, you heard right. When men begin to feel strong emotions in relation to the fair sex, then they have a sense of fear. It is not typical for them to show tender feelings (for that they are also representatives of the stronger sex). Therefore, if a man realizes that he has fallen in love, he begins to consider himself weak.
The girl’s task at this moment is to prove to her partner otherwise. You must make it clear to the man that there is absolutely nothing wrong with the manifestation of feelings. And privacy and ignoring messages can only exacerbate the situation. At heart, men seek support from a loved one, although they are afraid to seem weak. However, prove to him that the manifestation of feelings is a feature of strong people who are ready to shoulder the burden of responsibility.
Make the relationship comfortable
Many women put a huge burden on men, after which they ask: "A man has estranged himself in a relationship - what should I do?" It is not surprising that the partner begins to ignore the beauty who demands from him a gift for one month of acquaintance or in a hurry to meet his parents as soon as possible. A man begins to feel strong pressure on himself. Even if he tolerates such an attitude for a long time, he will soon begin to move away.
To prevent this, you need to make sure that your relationship is as comfortable as possible. Forget about the favorite pastime of all the girls - to "cut the brains" of their life partner. In addition, try to take on your shoulders part of the duties that will help the representative of the stronger sex to concentrate on the main task. Well, do not forget from time to time to give your partner an emotional discharge, listening and supporting him.
Stop manipulating a man
Still thinking about how to behave if a man moves away? Then try to remember if you were not manipulating your life partner? Most of the fair sex does this completely unconsciously, but men are able to recognize any attempts to take them under control. Sometimes they can even succumb so as not to quarrel with a partner. But once manipulation will lead to the estrangement of men - do not hesitate.
One of the most favorite tricks of women, with which they can achieve what they want, are tears. Initially, they can work pretty well. However, over time, the man will begin to annoy the fact that his companion prefers to roar rather than solve problems. So that the partner does not begin to gradually move away because of this, it is necessary to refrain from any methods of manipulating men - they really do not like it.
Try to refrain from criticizing men
Yes, in some cases she can be said for the cause. However, the psychology of men is designed in such a way that they extremely negatively perceive any criticism, especially if it was said by a loved one. In this case, the representative of the stronger sex begins to think that their life partner is opposed to him. Therefore, no matter how much you would not like to speak out that a man does not know how to do something, it is better to refrain from such recklessness.
However, enduring some moments in family life is still not worth it. In order to hint to a loved one that he is poorly performing his duties, but at the same time not hurt his sense of self-importance, psychologists recommend using flattery, since men are very greedy for her. Just say that he is well done, but could improve this or that skill. If the criticism is direct, then the man may begin to move away from his companion.
Give your young man a break
What should a woman do if a man is estranged? According to the advice of psychologists, the best solution to the situation is to give the man some time to relax. This is especially true in cases where the breadwinner works 10 hours a day or more. Do you think a man will want to listen to his wife’s vagaries about an insufficient manifestation of feelings, if he only has enough time to work in a sweat so that the family does not need anything?
That is why psychologists recommend giving representatives of the stronger sex time for emotional discharge. Even if a young man has already begun to move away from you - this is not a reason for panic. If a beautiful woman realizes in time that she needs not to "cut" her boyfriend, but in every possible way to maintain, then relations can normalize. Therefore, do not be afraid to let the man go fishing or let him calmly watch his favorite movie.
Give your partner confidence in the future.
Still thinking about what to do if a man begins to move away? Correcting the situation may not be so difficult. It will be enough to give the man confidence that you will not change your mind about building relationships with him in the future. To do this, refrain from communicating with members of the opposite sex and often tell your partner that you dream (but still do not insist) about the wedding, children and a happy life.
If this was not enough, then you can make a certain sacrifice, but this approach will be rational only if the girl really loves her man. For example, you can quit doing what you love because it takes you a lot of free time. Well, or move to your partner to live (especially if he wants to). A man will see that you sacrifice a lot for his sake, so he will not move away from you.
Help a man with his problems
As we said earlier, sometimes a man begins to move away only because he has various kinds of problems that he cannot solve. However, if a beautiful woman does not want to be left alone, then she should help her partner cope with the situation. Yes, some issues may be beyond the competence of the fair sex, and men often show their pride. However, no one has canceled moral support.
First, try to make the man speak out properly. If in the process he begins to accuse you of some things - do not provoke a conflict, but silently bow your head and apologize (your task is to save the relationship, and not prove your case). After that, try together with your loved one to develop a detailed plan that will help you deal with a particular problem. Try to maximize your participation so that your partner sees support.
Change your life values
"The man began to move away. How to behave?" - A similar phrase can often be heard in the office of a family therapist. In most cases, the specialist will begin to question the representative of the fair sex about her life values and guidelines. Sometimes the reason for the separation of a partner lies in the fact that a woman expects too much from him. For example, it is important for him to build a strong family, and she - save up for an apartment in the city center.
It is rather difficult for men to change their life guidelines. Otherwise, they will begin to feel that they are acting not according to their own plan, but according to values imposed by someone. In addition, they will expect from their companion a certain sacrifice. Therefore, if you want a man not to move away from you, change your values or even your worldview so that it matches the opinion of your young man.
Renew the fire of passion
And how to behave if a man moves away and ignores his partner? Many psychotherapists are confident that the reason for this behavior may lie in the fact that between the partners the former passion faded. If a man ceases to feel that his woman is sexually attracted to him, then at best he will begin to move away from the beauty, and at worst, he will begin to suspect her of betrayal. So renewing passion in a relationship would be best.
But how can you rekindle the fire of feelings if one of the partners has already begun to move away from the other? It is best to hint to the boyfriend that you are not opposed to introducing some variety into the sexual life with his consent. A born hunter must feel that you always desire him. Even if the skills of your partner in bed remain very meager - he should still be the best for you.
Maybe it's time to end the relationship?
But how to behave if a man moves away and ignores his woman for a rather long period of time and refuses to do anything to change the situation? In some cases, psychologists will recommend breaking off relations with such a person, since they will not bring great prospects in the future. Think for yourself: is it worth spending a relationship on a man who does not notice your efforts?
A cold in a relationship can begin to appear with minor details: you rarely talk about your feelings, kisses become ordinary, and hugs are more crumpled. The separation of partners from each other will only increase over time, so it will be most logical to give the “helm” to the mind, and not to the heart. If a man prefers to move away, rather than solve problems, then stop wasting your time, energy and nerves.
Conclusion
We hope that now you will no longer ask the question: "The man began to move away. How to behave and what to do to save the relationship?" Psychologists recommend that you first understand the root of the problem, and then develop a competent plan to eliminate it. If a woman is going to maintain a relationship with her lover, then she should be prepared for the fact that she will have to start sacrificing something or even change some of her character traits. However, for a man in love, such actions will seem a trifle. Just do not confuse love with affection. If a man ignores you and does not take you seriously for several months, and you continue to try to change the problem, fearing to be alone, then it would be better to finish politely breaking up than to continue to endure such a relationship.