It is a painfully familiar sensation when the body turns inside out, burns, burns, and consciousness becomes foggy when it is impossible to unclench hardened fists, this feeling pervades in a second, neither hide from it, nor escape ... But what is revenge? Is it so important in our life? What place do we give her in our thoughts?
Often, dear people betray us, those who were nearby and supported us, sang hypnotic songs in our honor and laughed at our common enemies. How to forgive a knife in the heart?
Awareness of the consequences of your thoughts
What is revenge? This is a painful looping condition that longs for one-way recoil. This is a pain that must be returned to the owner, as lost wallets, car or apartment keys and jewelry are returned. It does not always bring joy, but the obsession to change the course of running events does not leave our head until the plan is realized. This feeling harms our body and brings irreparable consequences, often pushing us to communicate with law enforcement agencies. It possesses intangible power over a person who is akin only to love. It makes you commit unthinkable acts, for which you then still have to pay the bills and with your own conscience.
Is it worth taking revenge?
What is revenge? Is it worth taking revenge? This is a wheel of fortune, where it does not depend on us what will happen next and how an innocent outcome will turn out. She begets pride. Revenge is a sin! Orthodoxy says that offenses must be forgiven our offenders, forget and let go, and the mind says otherwise. Who to trust?
Definition of own feelings
Thirst for revenge ... Few to whom this feeling did not creep in even for a second. Each of us experienced at least once in our life jealousy, resentment for various reasons, but in response acted purely on the basis of our character. The motive of revenge, if you think about it, can be the most ugly and unjustified. If we are happy with our life, we have everything necessary to switch and not stop at what is happening, then we usually do not perceive resentment as something transcendental, and with our coldness and indifference we only infuriate the offender and make fun of how he eats himself .
But if things are different: at work, the director is frustrated every minute, is unlucky in his personal life, the guy went to his childhood friend, and she is good, stole someone else's happiness out of envy, and now she walks contented and gloating - of course, we are in rage we will not let this pass by ourselves, but we will hold a grudge. And we swear to take revenge at the opportune moment. We begin to harbor revenge on the former. At the same time, we will improve ourselves by abandoning the hated work with an incompetent leadership team, take unplanned vacations for an indefinite period of time, and find ourselves a delightful man so that everyone could not sleep with envy. But will this make us less unhappy than we really are?
We and the real world
What is revenge? We often draw it for ourselves. In colorful fantasies, we tear out the hair of women sisters, splashing poisonous acid in their faces or pushing the former traitor off the cliff, but in reality we only exacerbate the problem by throwing more and more troubles on our heads: there, in the queue for bread, we yelled at a slow the innocent old woman was accused of harassment of a young man who was just trying to get to the exit with a crush, and here they beat an ATM that slowly gave out money, thinking and asking for unnecessary combinations ... As a result at, we only ruin our health, psyche, become irritable, suspicious and vile, but will others treat such people indulgently, and will the long-awaited joy knock on the door?
Do I need to start my revenge?
Revenge will not make anyone happy, neither the offender, nor the avenger, but will destroy both lives. You will become hostages of unforeseen situations, and the rest will begin to make fun of the free performance. Sometimes it’s worth thinking about resolving accumulated issues peacefully. But if you are sure that this is not your option, then you should reliably examine your opponent. You can’t go into battle without intelligence! Having misguided, a cunning person will definitely expect a counter strike, and if you do not wait for a while, you will become only a limp toy in his deft hands, put yourself in an unfavorable light for all to see. It is also necessary to focus on the insult, do not underestimate the enemy and do more harm than they did to you, because in return you will get only revenge.
If your plans do not include a criminal record and lengthy detention, cast aside thoughts of terrible nasty things that are subject to a civil and criminal code. You do not want to make your situation even worse than it is and put an enormous cross on the bright future? Is it worth it? Also, do not tear evil from your relatives and acquaintances for anything; this will not come back to good, especially if it was not they who were to blame for the triumph of your seething blood.
How to get rid of thirst for revenge?
Thirst for revenge is an unpleasant feeling. But if you want to get rid of this nasty feeling, first you need to stop being ashamed of your thoughts and the fact that you crashed in a certain period of your life and sphere of activity, whether it be a personal or working part of it. Try to channel negative energy into learning something new, use your free time to switch. Start fiercely fighting yourself and your desires. This will help meditation, yoga, some types of needlework. Let go of the past, try to forget everything bad that happened to you, and open up to the new. Make a diary, blog, correspondence partner by mail, voice recorder or sign up for a psychologist.
The long-awaited change
As soon as you decide that you are ready to enjoy life and let changes into it, you must immediately begin to act. Indeed, in the words there is no truth, only in deeds, and if you put it off until tomorrow, then it will never come. First of all, it is necessary to negotiate so that the unnecessary heavy load leaves our heart, thoughts, soul and shoulders. Rethinking what is happening around and returning to reality will only help accepting reality as such. We humans are all living beings who are able to think and reflect, we are characterized by grief and suffering, but why focus on them? Perhaps the only way out is to stop thinking about what is happening as something tragic and begin to appreciate every moment - because it is beautiful and unique.
Time heals
To fight revenge, it will take a lot of time and effort. This is not an ordinary cold, you can’t recover in a week, if you just drink the pills prescribed by the doctor and lie down in a warm bed for a couple of days. Hospitalization, of course, is not required, but protecting yourself from people for a while would be welcome. As soon as you calm down and fill yourself with good from within, life will change for the better. Never take revenge! Be prudent in your actions and thoughts!