Communication is the foundation on which a society rests. If people did not interact with the help of verbal and non-verbal signals, everyone would live separately from everyone, evolution and sociology would not have arisen as sciences, we would not become humanity and would not even know this word. Fortunately, all this is not so, and every person, no matter how much a hermit he considers himself, interacts with society to one degree or another. Read about how exactly this can be done in the article.
Small introduction
Communication is a term that in the English segment sounds like communication or communication. We do not pronounce this long and complex word, as our language has a simpler synonym. Nevertheless, its essence does not change from this - communication gives people the opportunity to interact and develop together. With it, we not only find friends and partners, we also learn from the experience of our ancestors, learn something new written by those who lived long before us, learn new things by looking at news feeds, etc.
In a word, without communication everything would have collapsed, ceased to have the usual meaning for us. Indirectly or unconsciously, each person understands this, although he rarely thinks about this phenomenon. But what we think about even less often is communication styles, that is, how we communicate and which information we prefer to accept and which we reject. Is there really a certain framework for the transfer and perception of material within the framework of a familiar society? Yes, and we ourselves determine them.
What does it depend on?
Every person is unique. He has his own character, his own experience, and against this background, his attitude to the world is formed. This attitude turns into interaction with society, and, as a result, becomes a communication style for a particular person. A similar phenomenon can be traced both in the domestic sphere and in the workplace, and there are times when a person is united in his behavior both there and there, and it happens that he seems to be split.
For example, an experienced and seasoned lawyer in a business environment behaves extremely dry, extremely professional, he is perceived exclusively as a busy and strict person. But when he comes home, he becomes a sweet, caring, funny and fairy-tale dad and gentle husband. He allows himself to compliment, smile, laugh and even fool around. This means that a person is extremely professional in his work and understands that his occupation does not include "cursing."
But at home he is himself - everything is fine, and he is "white and fluffy." A completely different situation will occur in the life of a woman who works as a teacher in a kindergarten, but at the same time she has problems on a personal front. She will be very kind to children at work, and at home she can behave extremely cold and unemotional.
Main classification
In fact, one or another communication style inherent in a particular person depends not only on his profession or “weather at home,” but also on many other factors, such as upbringing, life experience, character, and nationality. That is, this is information embedded in the genes, and the influence of the society in which a person grew up. For example, if a Russian is born in Russia, then, as they say, everything is one in it - both genetic memory and environment.
If an Italian is born in Russia, he will become a mix of cultures of these two countries. From all this diversity, the so-called basic communication styles have been derived that can be applied to a person who comes from any cultural environment. There are four of them, and we will now consider each individually.
Focused
Such people, as they say, will go over their heads, but they will always achieve what they want. Incredibly strong personalities who do not make mistakes: they call them experience, and when they stumble, they immediately get up and move on. They are generally not susceptible to criticism and badass: they have a goal and they achieve it. A focused style of communication is inherent in people who love order and prosperity.
They always dress discreetly, strictly, but at the same time they are very expensive, they don’t like the excesses of accessories, they choose one, but a decent one. They speak and communicate as sternly, succinctly and strictly in the case. Their signature phrase can be considered: "Have a moment?" - after which you will immediately receive a huge amount of information in a compressed form. Among targeted people, poor or stray individuals are rarely found - these are two mutually exclusive factors.
Initiator
This is a style of interpersonal communication in which a person behaves extremely actively, loudly, looks bright and constantly comes up with something new. Such people are often called “clowns,” “jesters,” or “company souls.” Moreover, this pattern of behavior can be the basis of both business relations (for sure you have met a kind of overly bright and exuberant, but brilliant artist at least once in your life), and serve as the foundation for building love and friendship.
Such people look exactly the same as they behave - bright, bold, sometimes even tasteless. They always speak very loudly, they can afford to go beyond the bounds of decency, while abounding in ideas, in everything they see something of their own, based on impressions. Their words and thoughts seem crazy, but brilliant.
Emotional
This communication style in communication is a mirror image of the previous one. It also lacks order, linearity and clarity, but at the same time the person ceases to be bright and loud, but becomes calm, melancholy, thoughtful. People who have a “cute mess” going on in their head and in words. In communication, they can be inconsistent, skip from one topic to another, often think and fly away into their fantasies right in the middle of a dialogue. These are creative personalities, but due to lack of ambition, they rarely reach the top.
Analyst
You can compare this style of mass communication with the "gray mouse", which in response says almost nothing. But it’s hard to guess what’s going on in her head. Analysts are people who love order and minimalism, and it is in this "genre" that they communicate with everyone around them.
Dressed always stern and angry, while not particularly expensive. Communicating with you, they will ask short suggestive questions, and in response to yours they may be silent, and all because at the moment they analyze the information received. Like representatives of the previous style, they rarely achieve career heights, as they do not have enough ambitions.
At work
Professional activity is one of the key areas of our lives. As shown in the example above, it happens that a person transforms for successful self-realization in work, and it happens that he "pulls into his office" all his life baggage. For better or worse, it depends on the profession and the team, so you need to look at the situation individually.
Nevertheless, in the field of work, business communication styles have been defined that imply communication between superiors and the team. There are only two of them, and each of them is correct to one degree or another. It’s just worth focusing on employees, their views and the essence of the work performed.
Authoritarian
Decision-making is coordinated only by the authorities, while the executive team only fulfills the instructions of those who are above them. In this type of communication between subordinates and bosses, a control factor, a system of punishments and rewards are provided.
Such a concept as an initiative on the part of employees is unacceptable - it is only important to accurately and routinely carry out their instructions. Gradually, this type of communication in a labor society is dying out, but for some areas of activity it is the only source of existence.
Democratic
This type or style of communication is manifested in the framework of the work, which involves a joint approach to solving problems. The boss has the last word, but in the process, to certain decisions and arguments, the team comes by the method of meetings, the method of finding a compromise, through mutual communication. As a rule, this type of business communication is inherent in those organizations in which people enjoy their work, are interested in the success of the campaign and in personal growth.
We read between the lines
We found out how people with different styles of communication communicate with each other in one environment or another. Well, do not forget that we all share with the world additional information about ourselves and our opinion on a particular issue using non-verbal signals. At a subconscious level, they are perceived by others and make us in their eyes those whom they consider us. If your speech completely coincides with the process of thinking, there is no and there will not be a dissonance, you will look convincing even in the eyes of inveterate skeptics.
If the style of your communication is falsified, you decide to be in a different skin, or you are already used to constantly changing roles, people can notice this. As a rule, the styles of non-verbal communication in their structure are no different from the types of verbal communication. However, if they do not correspond to each other within the framework of one personality, it is difficult for us to interact with such a person.
Conclusion
Our communication style defines us as a person in the eyes of others. Before we utter the first word with a particular intonation, as we express our opinion or have a dialogue, we will be judged only by appearance. This is just a picture that will soon melt in the minds of people who knew us. Support her with your communication style and you will be remembered for a long time as an integral and very interesting person.