Each of us came across a person who, in a conversation of 100 words, 99 devotes to himself. One gets the impression that this behavior is just a joke that will end soon. But no! He makes empathy for himself in all possible and impossible ways. Most likely, you are faced with a person of a demonstrative type of personality.
The psychological literature says that they are characterized by an abnormal ability to displace.
What is crowding out?
Extrusion is a mechanism that avoids internal or external conflict. The subconscious mind does not want to accept situations that provoke anxiety or carry a threat. This psychological remedy has a minimal effect, because a person still feels discomfort, even if he replaces traumatic factors with more pleasant memories.
A person who possesses such “talent” easily ignores and forgets the reasons that can upset her. Instead of solving the problem, she puts it on a “shelf” in her head and “closes it with a curtain.” The reason becomes invisible, but it still affects the life and dreams of a person, remaining in the subconscious. In a state of hypnosis, a veiled situation can be described in detail.
Repression is characteristic of an immature and infantile personality.
How does crowding occur?
In people with a demonstrative personality type, repression is so developed that they can wishful thinking, often resorting to lies, but they themselves are not aware of this. That is, if you put them on the detector, it will confirm the veracity of the words.
Some representatives of the hysteroid type can supplant even physical pain and suppress the unconditioned reflex.
But in any case, all the forgotten unpleasant moments necessarily went through the process of awareness.
What is character accentuation?
Accentuation is still considered the norm, but already borders on deviation, characterized by the intensification of some particular character trait. It can be so pointed and strongly pronounced that it provokes a disharmonious development of the personality.
There are several classifications of character accentuations. For example, Lichko identifies explicit and latent accentuations, the latter manifested only in emergency situations.
These personality traits can be transmitted from parents to the child or be provoked by upbringing.
Types of accentuations
K. Leonhard distinguishes 10 types: demonstrative (Lichko calls it hysteroid), emotive, hyperthymic, dysthymic, labile, anxious, exalted, pedantic, stuck and excitable.
The main characteristics of the demonstrative type
People who have a hysterical-demonstrative personality type, do their best to attract attention to their person. If this cannot be achieved by generally accepted moral methods, they will use any, even inhumane methods.
There is an opinion that this accentuation is characterized by a manic need for approval, in fact this is not entirely true. The main desire is to be in the spotlight.
It is impossible to call the hysteroid-demonstrative personality type negative. It combines both good and bad qualities.
If a person is appreciated, respected, he achieves even better results by all means, devoting all resources to self-improvement. The main thing is to get approval, praise from time to time and be confident in your superiority over the others.
Such people achieve great success, drive world progress. In their work demonstrate perfectionism.
If a person of a demonstrative type of personality cannot make a good impression on others, he will shock until he receives the necessary emotions. And to achieve at least some attention is not so difficult, for example, to start to stand out in a bright inappropriate way, to behave antisocially, to scream loudly, to be naked in public places, to tell in detail about your personal life, etc.
How do hysteroids interact with others?
A conflicting personality of a demonstrative type is characterized by its extremes: if you praise and approve of your actions, you can become one of your closest friends; if you cross the road, try to compete or demonstrate your hostility, you run the risk of getting into the "black list".
Further development of events will depend on the upbringing of the person and his desire to suppress the negative qualities in himself.
Yes, there are people whose willpower is stronger than disease or accentuation, but this is very rare.
If you notice features of a demonstrative type in the interlocutor, it is better to warn yourself and future relationships.
Self-centeredness is the main feature of the demonstrator
What do hysteroids most often talk about? About myself, about my life, about achievements, preferences. They remember other people in passing or comparing with themselves ("She has a voice as slow as mine", "Her dress is very similar to mine, only short, blue, with patterns ...", etc. - in fact, this thing may be completely different).
They do not miss the opportunity to advertise themselves or provoke the interlocutor to praise. A person may not like you at all, but at some point you catch yourself thinking that you are heavily showered with compliments. If you are not a conflicting person, then such a reaction is absolutely natural.
If you are not used to hiding your discontent, then the interlocutor of a demonstrative type will perceive this as a threat, and the repression mechanism will immediately work.
Positive traits
People with a demonstrative type of character, show themselves perfectly in the professions of the sphere of "man-man." This is due to their ability to play a role. They know how to masterfully adapt to those on whom their future fate will depend: to bosses, important clients, and spectators. Hysteroids master acting professions very well and show themselves well as attendants.
Representatives of this accentuation are able to adapt to any client: they behave with restraint with choleric, actively with phlegmatic. They need approval, but they also know that the path to it will not be easy.
A demonstrative personality type perfectly manifests itself in family relationships, because it knows how to adapt to a partner, suppress and resolve conflicts.
Hysteroids in childhood
A striking example of a demonstrative personality type can be considered "exemplary" students. At an early age, hysteroids are often teachers' favorites, because pranks are done quietly, and if actions get out, teachers don’t attach much importance to them - with whom it does not happen. They responsibly carry out all the instructions of adults, because their status or their future fate depends on their approval or censure. But the “exemplary” student does not miss the opportunity to substitute his peers. He remembers ethical standards only in public.
In adolescence, hysteroids seek leadership. If for some reason they can’t influence children, they adhere to the “stars” of the class or school and quickly gain a feeling of sympathy and trust. Then they strive to subjugate students in order to have power over them and to be “nourished” by praises.
If the owners of this accentuation lack the necessary leadership qualities, they compensate for this with a diplomatic approach: they select influential personalities and individually speak with each, often filling the conversation with subtle slander. After a simple procedure, the normal psychological climate collapses, the members of the young team have a lack of confidence in each other, but there remains confidence in the demonstrator. While they rethink the recently heard "truth" and look askance at each other, the tantrum takes power into their own hands and remains the only connecting link. This method is used by him in adulthood.
Recommendations
All negative character traits can be corrected, but the sooner this is identified and noticed, the easier it is to fix them.
Often people, having learned that they have a demonstrative personality type, begin to be proud of and explain this with many misconducts. More often girls are subject to this accentuation. They can be easily distinguished: graceful manners that are shown only in the presence of the audience, strong intonation, playing in public.
There are several useful tips from a psychologist to a demonstrative personality type:
- It is worth playing modesty, learning to be more restrained in public.
- Try to do a good deed and not tell anyone about it. Hysteroids perceive this trick as another game, but it has a tremendous effect.
- At the company, demonstrators are always trying to attract attention, even once they try to sit quietly on the sidelines.
- If they cope with the second task, then let them try to pass off their clever idea as someone else's.
- Hysteroids take a difficult situation, when all attention is paid not to them, but to someone else. Let them learn to rejoice for friends or comrades.
How to interact with a hysteroid?
If you do not enter into the circle of reference personalities of the hysteroid, are not its boss, then you can immediately classify yourself as his enemy. Everywhere he sees detractors, rivals and competitors. It is particularly pleasing to create conflict situations and heat up passions, as, indeed, the process of confrontation itself.
There are two answers to the question of how to interact with the demo type at the time of conflict:
- ignore, abstract as much as possible, demonstrate unwaveringness, complete calmness;
- show more aggressive aggression.
To warn yourself against future conflicts, you need to know the little secret of how to communicate with a demonstrative personality type: flatter! If you cannot praise from the heart, then find in the representative of this accentuation several positive qualities that you would like to develop in yourself, and imitate them. In this case, sincerity will not be simulated - this is the time. You learn something new - these are two. Make your fellow hysteroid feel meaningful and important, which will prevent conflict - these are three.
Communication with the owner of a demonstrative personality type requires interlocutor mental stability and emotional maturity, the ability to abstract in stressful situations.
Examples
Many figures of modern show business and actors are vivid representatives of the hysterical type of personality, especially those who do not disdain to shock the audience. More can be said: a demonstrative type of accentuation should be present in the character of public people.
Among the characters of children's Soviet cartoons can be called the parrot Kesha ("The Return of the Prodigal Parrot") and Carlson.
In the comedy "The Examiner" N.V. Gogol also described a classic representative of the demonstrative type - Khlestakov.