Life is unpredictable. Just yesterday, a gentle look warmed you, and a touch caused a happy tremor. And today you suddenly hear that you have to leave forever. And no persuasion will not be able to keep a loved one, and tears are useless ... And is there any sense in this? Cracks will remain on the glued vase and, seeing it, you will think every time that it was once broken. And in a relationship, too, this way - you won’t be able to forget. Each of you, even if you try to restore the destroyed, will think that there could be a different path and, perhaps, regret that you did not go that way, reproaching your soul mate.
Parting ... It hurts. Is always. Both. And it doesn’t matter which one of you has left. Do not think that he (her) easily came up with a solution. The longer and deeper the relationship, the more painful. But you need to live. You need to think about how to start a new life after breaking up.
The question is really complicated. And for some reason it seems that behind the door that closes behind you, there is no life at all. She was here, next to her lover. Yesterday, you also cooked dinner together. And burned. Because it was suddenly not before dinner ...
And today you are far away. At that very moment when they promised each other a promise to remain friends. Paradox. A betrayed friend once becomes an enemy at once, and a betrayed beloved becomes a friend. What merit is such an honor? Think about it, but only later. And now we’ll think about how to start a new life after a divorce.
Believe me, this is easier than it seems now. There are certain rules written by life itself. No need to rush between hatred and love. Indifference is clearly between them. If the door is closed, do not return, do not knock on it, do not open. Otherwise, after a very short time, the thought of how to start a new life will bore you again.
Take a breath. Already done. If you can’t move to another city, leave at least temporarily. Well, for example, buy a ticket. Walk in unfamiliar places. All day or all night. To exhaustion. Well, if someone else goes with you. Just not a mutual friend or girlfriend.
How to start a new life? I will answer: with new impressions. And the phone is no help to you. Unplug it. Arrange an information blockade. Do not wait until he (she) calls. And even if you suddenly get through, answer that you can’t talk. Do not continue the conversation. It will be hard. Highly. You madly want to say the unsaid or just to hear the painfully native voice. Not necessary.
Communicating with family friends will also bring no benefit. How can they help you? Remind once again that it hurts already? To ignore friends. At least for now.
Get rid of things bought once by the now former half. Well, for example, exchange jewelry for others, even with a surcharge. Do not review the films that you enjoyed watching together.
Change. How to start a new life if you do not want to part with the old? Change the style of clothing, hairstyle, accessories. Forget about dull black or gray. This is not your color!
Increase your tone. Become a regular in the gyms, pool. This will not only distract, lower the steam ready to break out, but also bring it into shape. And do not forget about the orange fresh after class. Learn to please yourself with trifles. Just do not jam negative pies. You will not spoil the figure because of the one who left you?
Get carried away. I don’t know what you thought, but the hobby here doesn’t hurt. Any. Try to resurrect dreams. Maybe you wanted to dance tango? Or paint pictures? It's about time. No one will distract and say: "You are in movements, like a bear. Yes, and Picasso you will not."
Analyze. Do not scold him (her). Think about yourself, your mistakes. You must clearly understand: introspection will insure against further errors.
How to start a new life? You have already done it. Parting is the beginning of the new life you entered. Do not start it with tears. The reason, of course, is respectful. I want to cry? Allow yourself that. But only once. Plenty. And after that - a tail with a gun. The only way. No drugs, no alcohol. Have pity on yourself and those whom you will always be dear to: children, parents. Of course, you can relax. But only a little and only sometimes. Irreversible mistakes can be made on a drunken head.
And finally. Do not start a new relationship yet. A wedge is not kicked out by a wedge. Not in this case. Just sex - please. But without a whirlpool with a head and without marriage or marriage. Why? It doesn’t work out. It will act like salt on a wound. Allow the wound to heal first.
Life is not a book. It cannot be rewritten many times. It is written once. And only you.