Tatyana Vladimirovna Vorobyova, an Orthodox teacher and psychologist, is interested not only in reading but in seeing and listening, especially her excited stories about children's problems and the correct approach to solving them.
Life devoted to childhood
Tatyana Vorobyova - an Orthodox psychologist. Her biography remains a mystery to many fans of her methods. When asked where to get her books, she shrugs: nowhere else are they in draft form. And this despite the fact that she herself is a real encyclopedia of invaluable pedagogical experience, enriched with a confident knowledge of psychology. But Tatyana has no time to write books.
Tatyana Vorobyova devoted her life to children and every day continues to dissolve in love for them. She gives advice on the problems of child psychology, and also participates in pedagogical discussions. Her video lectures teach parents careful wisdom in relation to their child.
Girl from the orphanage
It is no coincidence that Tatyana Vorobyova is a psychologist. A biography will help to understand the motives of her own actions and creative discoveries.
Tatyana’s first life impressions are related to the orphanage. Therefore, she very well understands what is happening in the soul of a child, deprived of the love of mom and dad, home comfort and family joys. How to help such children not to become embittered, not to close in their shells, but to create a happy and full-fledged family, which, by the way, does she have?
Now Tatyana Vorobyova can confidently say to them: "Honor your father and mother! Whatever they are, honor and in no way condemn, because they are given to us by God." They even teach with their negative behavior. Children of alcoholics are saved by the patience and forgiveness of their unfortunate mothers and fathers; the father who is in prison already says with his fate: "Son, do not do as I do." The lesson of the orphanage, which the future psychologist carried through her whole life: it hurt you, but you don’t be like that.
"Half of my life I lived among the saints"
As a professional teacher, Tatyana Vorobyova was formed through classes with children in kindergarten. One of the motives for choosing a place of work was that she felt a need, and someone's advice: "They feed in kindergarten," decided her fate. But then the woman realized what a blessing it was to be among the children, because until the age of five they were all pure and holy.
Their sensitivity, immediacy, sincerity and ability to love have become a school of life for the future honored teacher of Russia.
Vorobyeva was also engaged in methodological work, there was also a ministry in the Children's Home. Summarizing her 40 years of teaching experience, she claims: "Children are an endless lesson."
"The husband’s family gave me everything."
There is nothing accidental in life, Tatyana Vorobyova is convinced. It is no accident that the husband’s family turned out to be a school of love and family well-being for an ex-girl from an orphanage. She deeply respects her husband, scientist, theoretical physicist. Tatyana Vladimirovna has two adult sons, grandchildren appear. For almost half a century, the experience of maintaining the harmony of marital relations and raising their own children has been for the woman-teacher material of psychological conclusions.
And the question of whether it is necessary to endure when you are betrayed in order to save the family, Tatyana Vorobyova, an Orthodox person, answers unequivocally: "You have to endure your whole life. Find a thread of love that holds the union together and save it. This is the life task of a woman" . It is difficult to give her recommendations to modern women who are accustomed to asserting themselves in society, to pursue a career, to consider the family as something secondary. And the family is a cross, torment, leading to salvation in eternal life. And in this life, after all, advice is given by a woman - a professional of the highest standard, held both as a wife and as a mother.
"There can be no psychologist without faith"
She gained pedagogical experience while working in kindergarten, Tatyana Vorobyova (Orthodox psychologist). In the Orphanage, she discovered the entire measure of responsibility of the teacher for the souls of single children. For proper behavior, you need not only experience and love, but also knowledge of physiology, developmental psychology, and medicine. Having studied at the university and received a diploma, Tatyana Vladimirovna does not stop there, because psychology is knowledge about the soul that belongs to God, and its study is not limited.
In order to properly educate, you need to know why a person came into this life. Parents raising their children for mundane, earthly life, try to develop intelligence, business skills, ability to stand up for themselves. Meanwhile, worldly psychologists can give such recommendations: if your grandmother annoys you, draw her, tear and burn (rehearse how you will deal with your rivals in the future).
The Orthodox beliefs of Tatyana Vorobyova consist in the fact that a person was born for eternity, that children are given to parents from God "borrowed" and must return to Him. And the core should be the education of children's love for parents. The latter are required to monitor not only words and behavior, but also their inner feelings. And if they are burdened by a child in childhood, then most likely the children will become a hardship for him in old age. To consider your child an obstacle in life is a spit to the Creator for his gift. In addition, complaining about their children, parents deprive them of their vitality, creating future losers.
"It needs to be understood."
To be entitled to be called a psychologist and to provide assistance in difficult situations related to the development of the soul, it is not enough to know the theory. Tatyana Vorobyova is a psychologist of the highest qualification category, and she became them thanks to her pedagogical experience, harmoniously combined with theoretical calculations. Her advice is accurate and vital, even if they are not initially taken into account.
It happened once with a girl from an orphanage. The child was going to be adopted by American parents. Having watched a five-year-old girl, Tatyana Vorobyova came to the conclusion: it is impossible to give her abroad. This child has too little stock of words in his native language to adequately express the needs of his soul. In the orphanage they understood her, but abroad, in a foreign language environment, a Russian girl, even knowing foreign words, will not be able to use them correctly to describe her spiritual life. The psychologist’s forecast came true five years later, when the girl, having matured, literally escaped from an American family. “I don’t need their food and clothes, I need to be understood,” was the explanation of the riot.
Professional Tips
The advice of the psychologist Tatyana Vorobyeva that you should not get involved in the early study of foreign languages is relevant now. Neither kindergarten nor elementary school are suitable for in-depth study of a foreign language environment. The phonetic and lexical base of the mother tongue should be formed. The child must learn to speak Russian cleanly and correctly. Foreign speech is best mastered at the age of 9-12 years.
She is not a supporter of schooling since the age of six. And it's not about intellectual readiness. The volitional qualities of the psyche are formed mainly by the age of seven. At six years old, it is difficult for a child to force himself to obey the requirements of a teacher and school discipline. Not all children at this age have such a powerful teaching motivation as curiosity. School lessons can be torture for six years. A whole year of childhood will simply be taken from him. But the soul does not develop from intelligence, but from feelings that the child has time or does not have time to experience at an early age.
Developmental Psychology of Infancy
Tatyana Vorobyeva (teacher, psychologist) devoted most of her speech at the XXIII Christmas Readings on January 22, 2015 to problems of age-related crises and the correct behavior of parents during these periods of development.
The first such crisis is three years. The baby is self-determined by gender. At this age, the upbringing of the qualities of a boy, a future man, and a girl begins, which will soon become a woman. For a guy, the main quality should be a sense of responsibility: boys were born to serve the family, loved ones, and the Fatherland. In girls, the fundamental quality of a woman should be laid - patience. Three years of age is a deep emotional comprehension of the world. In order to obtain obedience from the baby during this period, it is necessary to tune in to the tonality of his mood.
The next revolutionary stage of development is 5 years. At this age, the formation of volitional qualities begins, which ensures the readiness for studying at school by seven years. The child can be required to do as it should, as said.
At the age of seven, emotional-volitional control is formed, and the child has sufficient psychic power to restrain and direct emotions and will in the right direction (it's time to start learning activity).
Three things that need a belt
Punishment is a necessary and very subtle thing. Tatyana Vorobyova never tire of repeating that education is an intimate process, and it concerns only two. Therefore, when dad punishes, mom has no right to interfere, and vice versa. Three misconduct, which the psychologist calls harmful, allow the use of physical punishment.
- The child raises a hand at his parents. He must receive immediate censure, the tone of which leaves no doubt about the inadmissibility of such a situation.
- Son or daughter mock at food in irritation. The daily bread given by God is mocked by an annoyed child. This must also be quickly suppressed.
- In anger, a child breaks and destroys things earned by the labor of parents. In order to stop the development of anger, permissiveness and emotional licentiousness, the “capital punishment” is applied with a belt. The psychologist warns that between the punishment and torture of the child lies a large gap - parental motivation. You can beat a child, loving him, for his own admonition, or you can be annoyed to vent anger on someone. The latter is unacceptable.
"Let your computer crash"
A computer is a disaster with three exclamation points. Its virtual reality, like a smoky cloud, obscures the living world, taking away the joy of life from children. It carries wretched speech, reduced to computer slang, devastates the soul, worsens memory, dampens interest in everything that is not connected with computer games.
Computer addiction is equated with drug addiction and is treated with medication, because children in grade 4 already become psycho-neurotics, falling into hysteria if they are deprived of this idol. A surrogate of the computer world destroys sons and daughters. Teacher Tatyana Vorobyova is deeply alarmed by the future of the children of Russia and is doing everything in her power to keep it bright.