Know yourself ... Probably everyone heard this phrase. But only concepts in it we put different. As the ancients said: to know oneself means to know God. Remember the famous saying "know yourself and you know the world."
Let's see how to know ourselves and why is this necessary?
According to psychologists, a person’s knowledge of himself begins with the fact that you just need to accept yourself as you really are. Do not force yourself to be like someone or behave in the way dictated by fashion, surroundings, stereotypes in society or the way he is expected by our relatives, most often parents. No, knowledge begins with self-acceptance. And you have to be honest with yourself.
If something doesn’t work out for you and you know that this is your weakness, then be honest with yourself. You go to work, work, say, as a middle manager. But this is not yours. And it was never interesting to you. But do you work there because you need money, because you are afraid of changes, because you think that you will find something worse and different, other, other ... Other?
Tell yourself honestly - this is not mine. If you do not admit it, then you will suffer from depression, because in this case you are doomed to a conflict between the conscious and the unconscious. The result of this unresolved conflict will be neurosis, depression, somatic diseases, sleep disorders and other other "charms".
If you honestly say that it is “not yours”, then this is only the first stage of how to know yourself. The second stage is quite natural - if this is not mine, then you need to find what will be mine. And this one is no less complicated. Only a few can find themselves from an early age, for others it is labor. Think about what you do best. What is the difficulty? I know that I've always been good at cooking / sewing / singing / dancing / reinventing and so on. But here we are stopped by banal fear, and someone along with this is also laziness. Disbelief in one's strength is a conscious renunciation of knowledge. Unbelief will not reveal to us the secret of how to make ourselves better and how to become more successful.
We may admire successful people, but we ourselves are afraid to apply this to our own lives. Meanwhile, in each of us is hidden genius. And this is not an exaggeration. Man is a perfect being, for it has great potential. But ... we again sit out at boring work, sigh about a failed life and the injustice of fate, not realizing that it is our ignorance of ourselves and disbelief in our strength that are the main enemies on the path to success.
As experts advise, in order to know yourself, you can and should do auto-training. And it is not just words. Your thoughts will penetrate your brain and make you take a fresh look at all life circumstances. You will cease to look for those responsible for your failures, but look inward.
Daily tell yourself: "I am a confident person, I am perfect and powerful. I am fearless and I believe in myself, and most importantly, I want to know myself and become better."
How does it work in practice? Very simple. You will have confidence in your abilities and, perhaps, you will find the courage to look for another job. The one that is closer to you, the one that suits you much more. And most importantly, you will know that you will succeed, otherwise it just cannot be.
Look at people who live worse than you. They have no legs or arms, or they have lost children, or some other terrible tragedy has happened to them, but they find the strength to live in themselves. So really, you will not find the strength in you to rebuild your life the way you want, and not depend on circumstances, on unloved work and eternal depression.
There are many books on the net on self-improvement and self-knowledge, if you want, you can chat online with psychologists and learn more about how you can and should know yourself. And then your life will change for the better.