Success largely depends on planning, but any goals, even the most pragmatic ones, are based on a simple desire - to achieve something, to acquire, or, conversely, to get rid of. Expressing his desire in writing, a person has the opportunity to look at his goal as if from the outside and evaluate it from the point of view of importance and attainability.
How to keep a diary of desires and goals, so that it serves as an effective tool for making dreams come true?
Why do I need a "Diary of Desires"
Through scientific research, it is proved that people who do not set specific goals achieve success two times less than those who work out the strategy of their movement mentally. But the subjects, fixing their future achievements and plans on paper, come to the desired finish 10 times more often than representatives of the previous category. What is this talking about?
By writing down his goals, a person does not just give free rein to his fantasies - he subconsciously tunes his life program in such a way that the algorithm of all his subsequent actions invariably leads to the desired result. Subsequently, noting each completed step or re-reading the compiled lists (depending on the chosen diary technique), the individual clearly sees his mistakes and draws conclusions.
Keeping a “Diary of Desires” always implies a person’s desire to improve. Entries made once and then forgotten for a long time will lead to zero effect.
What should be a diary
How to keep a "Wish Diary"? For pragmatic people who are actively practicing time management, a stylish notebook, a notebook that fits in your pocket and does not attract other people's attention, is more suitable for keeping motivating notes. Such a thing will be convenient to carry with you even to work.
For creative individuals or beginners in matters of self-motivation, it is better to approach with the choice of inspiration with the choice of the main “tool” for future achievements. An important condition for a person to again and again want to return to his notes and not quit what he started is the attractive appearance of a notebook or notebook.
You can decorate the cover of the diary by decoupage, order a ready-made handmade book or just go to the store and buy a colorful voluminous diary. The main thing is that you want to touch the purchase, pick it up and often turn to it for a new incentive.
Diary Design
How beautiful to keep a “Diary of Desires”? Emotional semantic filling of the “book of goals and achievements” will keep a person in constant inspiration and stimulate him to re-read and ponder the targets.
Before you start making daily entries, that is, immediately after creating a wish list, it is best to take your mind off serious work and devote some time to decorating even more blank pages. It’s good if you can find on the Internet and print pictures that correspond to the idea of a dream come true, or motivational cards that are useful to stick at regular intervals - for example, on every 10th page.
A person embarking on such a complex enterprise as working on himself needs a powerful incentive. Often, the desire to "live better" is not enough or enough for a short period. In order not to “be blown away” ahead of time and to force yourself to move forward steadily, on the very last page of the “Diary” it is advisable to paste the most motivating motivation of all available. For parents who are worried about the future of their child, this may be a photograph of a baby, for a young man who does not have their own home - a beautiful picture depicting a luxurious home.
The essence of the methodology of “100 wishes”
One of the most effective and popular time management techniques answers the question of how to keep a “Diary of Desires” and goals. According to the “100 Wishes” technique, the contractor must first buy a notebook in which there will be as many pages as there are days in a year.
How to keep a "Wish Diary"? On the first sheet you need to number one hundred lines (after one) and write one desire on each of them. Any fantasies are welcome, even those that seem ridiculous (but not fantastic). For example, acting in the lead role of a romantic film is suitable, but finding a magic wand is not.
The recorded goals should be exactly 100, so even the smallest desires cannot be ignored. Then the notebook should be postponed, but every evening should be removed from the cache, re-read all the points and on the new page to write, like the following: “Today fulfilled (or is ready to be fulfilled) desire number 34 (to rewrite it). In order for it to be realized, I had to take such and such steps ... ”
It is noted that often for the fulfillment of more than half of the goals a person does not have to spend almost any effort - as if the Universe itself begins to respond to given requests. After a year and 365 notes made, you need to analyze the list regarding the achievement of goals and draw conclusions.
Technique "100 days"
Despite the similarity of the names, the technique is very different from the previous one. How to keep a “Diary of Desires” according to this technique?
You need to sew or buy a notebook with exactly 102 pages, and on the last of them make a list of an arbitrary number of goals (but not more than 10). The main thing is that theoretically every desire could be realized within 100 days. Then, starting the next day, the contractor opens the notebook on the very first page and writes everything that is relevant to the goals set - what has been done to achieve them, what are the difficulties and methods of overcoming them.
In the future, entries are made daily on a new page, and the prerequisite of the past day is to take at least a small step in the direction of fulfilling your desires. Exactly 100 days later, you can evaluate the scope of the work done.
How to keep a “Diary of Desires”
Proper wording of the request will not only make it easier for the performer to understand what he should achieve, but will also help him better realize his abilities. Here is an example (sample) of how to keep a wish diary correctly:
- By the end of this year I am moving to a new house, which is much more convenient and comfortable than my current home.
- In the next six months, I seek to bring my work (to list) to a professional level.
All requests must be formed in the present tense, as if the action is happening now, and be sure to be supported by an indication of the time period during which they must be executed.
It is permissible to express a wish regarding another person, but without imposing responsibility on him for obtaining a result. Example: “By March 1, I will reach such a level of wages so that my wife can buy herself a new car.”
Goal Setting: Avoiding Mistakes
How to keep a wish diary so that it "works"? The following are five key “nots” that can prevent you from getting the desired result at the very beginning of the path to the goal:
- no generalizations are necessary, for example, “to become beautiful” - this is not a desire, but an occasion to wallow in thoughts of one’s own imperfection;
- do not use negative particles in the diary - instead of the words "I will no longer", it is better to write - "refuse";
- do not dream about money, because they are only a guide to the ultimate goal - you need to think about plans that are possible with this money;
- there is no need to indicate vague terms for fulfilling a dream - “someday”, this is not a deadline, but a way to get away from an uncomfortable, but necessary goal;
- it is impossible and even harmful to make plans for other people - you can wish yourself to help a person achieve something, but not to show a wish on his behalf.
And finally, the version that you need to start new business from any specific dates or after certain events does not meet any principles of psychological techniques. If a person cannot force himself to take the first step right now, at the moment of making a decision to change his life, neither next Monday nor the first day of the New Year will help him.