They say that female alcoholism is not treated. But this statement is false. There are many women who refute this claim who were able to get rid of their addiction. But to decide on your own to quit drinking is difficult. Need help and support of relatives and friends. What if mom drinks? Read about it below.
Do not give mother alcohol
What can a child whose mother abuses alcohol do? Experts say that only persuasion and suggestion will help. But what about a child who cannot persuade his mother to consult a specialist? Mom drinks a lot, what should the baby do? A child can begin to fight the addiction of a loved one by not letting his mother drink too much. Itâs pointless to hide all the alcohol; the mother will notice the loss. But the kid can hide or pour part of the alcohol from the bottle. Unbeknownst to his mother, he must destroy what destroys his loved one. In a similar way, getting rid of alcoholism will not work, but you can successfully reduce the dose used by a person. A person who drinks a little can adequately behave the next morning, a personâs thoughts will not be confused. And also, the less a woman drinks, the less she has a hangover syndrome, which means that the lady will not get hangover.
If mom drinks vodka, what should I do? A child may dilute alcohol with water. A similar method should be noted when the mother has already drank several glasses. In such a condition, a person can no longer determine how many degrees there is in his drink, and diluted vodka will be taken for real.
Was your native woman in a difficult situation? Mom started drinking, what should I do? If a woman does not suffer from alcoholism, the child should hide bottles from the mother. A person who does not yet have a physical or psychological attachment to alcohol will be able to pull herself together and refuse to drink alcohol-containing drinks.
Limit contact with an alcoholic
Mom drinks vodka every day, what should I do? A person who drank too much will be very talkative and can become aggressive. If the mother, after getting drunk, crawls over to the child to talk with him, the child should try to limit contact. A teenager can leave home or go to sleep with relatives or friends. Do not encourage maternal frankness while drunk. A woman is unlikely to abandon such behavior immediately. But if the child systematically leaves the house when a bottle appears on the table, then such behavior can have a cumulative effect. A woman will understand that her dearest man in the world neglects drinking. Having realized the connection, the mother can conduct experiments. When she does not drink, the child will be near, and when the woman gets the bottle, the child will leave. Having understood the logic, the woman will be left alone with the dilemma: to remain alone or to return the child.
What to do if mom drinks a lot? A child should limit a womanâs contact with her drunk friends. How to do it? To dare everyone who will come home. The child may tell that the mother is not feeling well, is sleeping, or has left home. Yes, lying is not good, but for the sake of the mother, the child will have to take such a step. Otherwise, the friends will drive the mother to the grave.
Do not take full responsibility
Relatives should explain to the child that he is not to blame for the motherâs behavior. The child should not reproach himself for the fact that the native woman is drinking. Therefore, the child should react calmly to any exclamations of the mother (for example, "it is your fault in my drunkenness"). If the mother is not drunk, then the child can say that it was his mother who gave birth to the world, and that was her desire. The child must understand that he could not ruin the life of his mother. Everyone breaks his life himself. Even if the mother became pregnant unsuccessfully, this is her inaccuracy, and not the child. The thought itself is unpleasant, but it needs to be conveyed to the mother. The child should try to explain to the woman that each person in this world is responsible for his actions. It makes no sense to blame their troubles and failures on another. Moreover, one should not blame a little creature for misfortune, to which a woman gave her life of her own free will.
You need to talk with a sane woman. That is, it is better to leave the conversation for the afternoon, when the mother will be sober. In the evening, before the arrival of friends, or in the morning before a hangover, lectures will not take any effect.
Do not help
What if mom drinks? The psychologistâs advice will be this: do not create comfortable living conditions for the mother. A woman who is cared for and looked after will be glad of a calm and measured, unclouded lifestyle. Therefore, the lady will not make any attempt to change the current course of events, she will ask the child to remove, cook and go to the store. The child does not have to do all the work for the mother. A child can refuse part of his homework very simply, referring to employment at school or at the institute. There may be a child outside the home, for example, with a grandmother or other relatives. It is necessary for the mother to create a situation in which she will have to take care of herself on her own.
Work helps a person overcome many difficulties, including binge. A lady who starts by cooking, and then goes to cleaning, will spend time on activities that are useful for the family. The idea that not everything is lost and that a woman can at least clean up should have a therapeutic effect. The lady will understand that she is quite capable of being active. The child must support the desire of mom to get a job. Moreover, you should choose a night job so that the woman does not have the temptation to meet friends in the evening.
Mom constantly drinks, what to do? The child should not only limit his help to his mother at home, but also go on the offensive. For example, ask mom for one or another toy. Constant requests will even reach a drunken consciousness, and the mother will decide that it is time to establish her life and ensure the normal existence of her child.
Make a woman jealous
What if mother drinks? Everything about alcoholism has been heard since childhood. They showed each child an alcoholic and said that he was a downcast person who had broken his life with his own hands. And a very sad situation is when such speeches speak of your mother. But the child has to listen to them, because parents are not chosen. What if your mom drinks?
You need to make a woman jealous. The child must find a relative who will treat the child condescendingly. With this lovely lady, the child should spend most of his time. Moreover, the child should leave the house for a relative and notify his mother about his departure. The child should go there several times a day. At first, the mother may perceive the new affection of the child with a smile, but over time the woman will understand that simple sympathy develops into love. And if a relative is a pious lady, then the mother will be doubly offensive. A woman will realize that her childâs love for a relative is stronger than for her mother. Jealousy is one of the best medicines for self-development. A person who has a good incentive in life will change and will not spare neither the strength nor the time to get the childâs love back. And as a role model, a relative will act. Change for the better will not happen right away. They will occur gradually.
Team up with relatives
Alcoholism is a terrible disease, and, fortunately, today a way has been found to overcome it. What if mom drinks? Specialists give this advice to a teenager: you need to unite with relatives and make every effort to put your mother in the hospital. But a woman should not be taken to a hospital by force, but by suggestion. The lady should go to a medical institution at will. A child alone will not be able to convince a woman that it is time to be treated. And if relatives stand on his side, who will come to the woman every day and convince her that it is time to change and the best time for change is now, then over time you can expect a positive result. Such conversations, which will take place more than once a day and with more than one person, can annoy a woman. But annoyance is better than indifference. At first, it may even seem to relatives that their suggestion does not work, because a lady can start drinking more than before. But this will be a temporary phenomenon. Thus, the woman will protest. If relatives do not back down, then sooner or later the alcoholic will break down and agree to go to the clinic.
Don't let emotions take over
A person must control his emotions. And even a child needs to be taught how to do it. The uncontrolled cry by which many adults try to argue their actions or actions does not have much impact on the person. What if mother drinks? A help method that any child can use is to present something that will ease her motherâs condition. For example, mother, after another booze, ran into a child and started screaming at him. Instead of crying or starting to scream in response, the child should go for water and offer it to mom. After drinking alcohol, the body loses a lot of water, and you need to replenish its supply. Thus, the child will help the mother and will not succumb to provocation. The worst thing a child can do is start screaming in response to a scream. Such behavior can lead the mother out of herself, and it comes to physical assault. A calm reaction to the cries of a drunk person is an indicator of a great mind on the part of a person who cohabits with an alcoholic.
Mom drinks every day, what to do? The child must learn to suppress his emotions, such as neglect and disgust. Relatives need to explain to the child that the mother drinks because she is sick. A woman should be treated as a sick person. Adequate adults should convey to the child the fact that the mother screams because she is ill, and not because she does not love her child. Then the child will be easier to relate to the tantrums of his own person and by all means try to help his mother get rid of the disease affecting her body and brain.
Psychological suggestion
If mom drinks, what should the baby do? In such a situation, children can do little. The main task of the younger generation is to convince the mother to go to the hospital, and not after she gets drunk and agrees on everything. A simple idea of ââa better life is conveyed when the woman is sober. The child should take advantage of the situation, mother's favor and consent, and bring the woman to the hospital. If you miss the moment when the mother herself wants to recover, then success will not succeed. Indeed, in the hospital with the help of chemical preparations only physical dependence will be removed, and the woman will remain in psychological need. What to do if mom drinks and does not want to be treated?
A child should convince his mother day after day not to drink alcohol. Chad should develop tactics and find the right time to lecture to the mother. This should be done at any opportunity. A woman may for some time ignore the words of the child. Therefore, you should always call the mother for dialogue. The child should ask the mother if she wants a better life, and also describe the images of a better existence. You should connect your mother to such dreams so that she can better feel the benefits of refusing alcohol. Walking in an imaginary fairy tale of happiness, a woman agrees to take a rehabilitation course.
Find a hobby for mom
A man drinks from idleness. If mom drinks, what should I do? Need to find a woman a hobby. An enthusiastic person will not waste his time in vain. A person with a passion burning in his heart will find time to realize his ideas and plans. Alcoholics have not only hopes for a brighter future, but also plans for tomorrow. The child must teach the mother to plan her time, as well as find an activity to which the soul lies. And in the first stages of getting rid of alcohol addiction, itâs better to come up with an active hobby that will require any effort from the mother. For example, a lady can do fitness, go to rock climbing courses or dance. A new hobby will help a woman change her usual social circle. And the probability that a lady will find alcoholic girlfriends at the dance is very small.
A child may periodically ask her mother to give him time. Joint games, classes and training will distract the woman from drunkenness. The very idea that a lady will be useful to her child will encourage a woman in whose thoughts a lumen has not appeared for a long time. Alcohol kills a person, and a child must by all means become more important for mom than a bottle of alcohol.
Spend more time with mom outdoors
If mom drinks, what should I do? It is necessary to help a woman acquire new healthy habits. For example, to convince a lady that spending time in the fresh air is simply necessary. A child can whine that he wants to go to the forest. Family trips for mushrooms, berries, chestnuts or just for beautiful leaves can become a tradition. The lady will be pleased that the child needs her. And berries with mushrooms will be a good help for the family. Indeed, alcoholics do not have much money to satisfy their needs and that of a child. Visits to the forest should not be done as a holiday, but as ordinary. For example, a child after school may ask mom to go for a walk with him. Walking should be exhausting and tiring. The childâs goal is to exhaust the woman so that she doesnât have a thought after a long journey to take a glass of something fortified to calm her soul. The mother should have only one desire - to lie down and sleep. Any active child copes well with such tasks. Chad needs to be told that in the event that mom gets home before she gets tired, he should throw a tantrum and say that he has not walked up yet. Or the child should be constantly engaged in something with enthusiasm, so that the mother was sorry to tear off her child from an exciting game.
Keep your family in good shape
In spite of any circumstances, the child should love his mother. Even if a woman is not a role model, she will still remain for him the most dear person. If mom drinks, what should I do? The child should try to maintain normal relations in the family. But this does not mean that the child must come to terms with the situation. If the child has a father, then you should unite with him. If there is no father, it is necessary to unite with other close relatives. The child must understand that mom is sick. The main task of the child is to help the woman recover. To do this, make every effort and distract the lady from the bottle by all possible means. If all else fails, jealousy should be called forth. A child can awaken a conscience in a mother if she begins to complain to others. But at the same time, there is no need to blame the woman. Compassion should be shown to her. This state of affairs is unlikely to suit a lady. No mother would want her child to consider her flawed. A woman will strive to become better, if not for herself, so for her child.
The child must maintain a visible world in the family, ask her mother to take a walk with him. Games and development of the child should not stop, even if the mother does not think to stop drinking. The child must be aware that it is not his fault that the mother is an alcoholic. But at the same time, he should make every effort to help the woman overcome the destructive addiction.