Probably, many were faced with such a problem as a trembling voice. I wonder why this is happening. And sometimes it even becomes a stumbling block in communication, which gives rise to complexes. We will deal with this issue.
What can a voice talk about?
Using it, you can determine the nature, recreate the image, make a physiological and psychological picture of a person. The voice broadcasts to others about the current state of the person. The tone can read the emotions of a person (anger, sadness, joy, jealousy, nervousness).
What gives a trembling voice?
There can be many reasons for this. And the main ones are excitement and fear, which, as a rule, are unfounded. But first, you still need to consult a neurologist. You may then have to drink antidepressants and visit a psychotherapist.
If during the examination (thyroid gland check, blood test) the doctors did not reveal a physiological cause, most likely it is necessary to work with the psyche. If the trembling in the voice intensifies with excitement, we are talking about anxiety disorder.
Why is this happening?
There is an explanation from a physiological point of view. The thing is adrenaline, which in a stressful state begins to be produced in huge doses. A person suffering from increased anxiety can get agitated from anything, for example:
- at school when calling to the board;
- from communication with strangers, as well as powerful and high-ranking people;
- an upcoming presentation to the public;
- in dialogue with a lover and so on.
Thus, the voice trembles with excitement. At the same time, muscles tighten, breathing quickens, as oxygen starvation appears.
Talk about fear of communication
And now we find out why the voice trembles during the conversation. It often happens that before the upcoming dialogue, the opponent begins to experience panic attacks. It seems that the spoken words will be absurd, will cause laughter or censure. It’s easier to just step into the shadows and keep quiet, but this is not an option. If this phenomenon is extremely rare, then do not worry, this can be attributed to a bad mood. When this is repeated systematically, and a working phone call in general becomes a disaster, you need to think about it.
To understand why the voice is trembling, it is necessary to find the root of the problem. Of course, the protective mechanism is triggered. Maybe in the past you were greatly insulted or humiliated. And then a mental model has formed in your subconscious mind, they say, why communicate with people if it hurts. Therefore, it turns out that you protect yourself. And this happens unconsciously, and it's not good.
It is necessary to understand that without communication it is impossible to achieve high goals, even just to live normally. After all, a happy life requires a prestigious high-paying job, a family that needs to be created, and so on. Only after realizing this truth, you can move on, look for existing phobias and get rid of them.
Consider the reasons
A trembling voice during a conversation may occur due to:
- The critics. But this is not about healthy criticism. When it is tough and rough, not only shortcomings are indicated, but also exaggeration and putting on public display, it is extremely difficult to endure such pressure.
- Bullying. Rather, it refers to school age, when a child is humiliated. Then he closes, closes himself from everyone, fearing ridicule.
- Inability to build a dialogue with the opposite sex. For girls, this could be the upbringing of a strict and tyrannical father, for boys the opposite.
- Unsuccessful performances in the past. Never stomp on the spot. All people tend to make mistakes, it is necessary to analyze the situation, extract the useful and move forward. This does not mean that the miss will happen again.
- Shyness. Shyness interferes. But everything is good in moderation. Of course, modesty adorns a person, but it is better to be more relaxed, you need to raise self-esteem.
- Inability to formulate thoughts. Everything is simple here: you need to improve yourself, read more, master the techniques and practical recommendations that will help you learn how to properly build thoughts and speech.
Often, psychological trauma stretches from virginity, the main thing is to understand this, and try to fix the problem. If you can’t do it yourself, consult a specialist.
What do psychologists advise?
If the voice trembles during the conversation, what should I do? The algorithm for solving the problem is as follows:
- It is necessary to establish eye contact. Start small, communicate first through social networks, go shopping, for example, talk with sellers.
- If it’s hard to communicate with an opponent live, talk to him over the phone.
- And gradually move on to a lively dialogue. Try asking strangers.
The fear of communication must be overcome, because in a different way it will not work to socialize and develop normally.
How to overcome the fear of communication?
To get rid of trembling voice, it is necessary to eradicate anxiety. Let's figure out how not to be afraid of communicating with strangers:
- Do not simulate the upcoming outcome of the event, especially in a negative way. This will not solve the problem, but only exacerbate it.
- Do not worry about the opinions of others. If they think something, then not for long, for several minutes. Think about how much you remember the faces of people passing by on the street or speaking at the pulpit if they are not celebrities. Literally five minutes, no more. So your mistakes are just as quickly forgotten.
- Do not be afraid of dialogue. Do homework that will help in communication, later it will not come in handy.
- Peer at your opponent, his gestures, facial expressions, perhaps he does not have a strong interest in you, so do not worry.
- Do not focus on your fear. If panic attacks begin to creep up, disengage, turn your attention to anything: the taste of coffee, a beautiful cup, an accessory on the other person, and so on.
You won’t get a quick result, but don’t give up, in the process of constant self-control and improvement everything will turn out.
How to quickly deal with excitement before a public appearance?
To defeat a trembling voice, you must do the following:
- Deep diaphragmatic breathing will help. It relieves excess tension and excitement. Take 20 breaths. But you must breathe with your stomach.
- Yawn. 10 times with a closed and open mouth. Feel free to make the accompanying sounds.
- Switch to tactile sensations. A great technique to get rid of excitement during a performance. When it begins to approach, take a regular paper clip in your hand, it is small, so it will be invisible. Feel, focus on the material of which the surface is made. Thus, the attention is switched to another object, and the excitement recedes. Now no matter what people think of you.
- Train before the performance. Sing loudly and with expression or read the text of the report.
And of course, do not forget about a good mood. When you radiate inner warmth and joy, you smile, you will get the same energy back. Imagine that good people are sitting in front of you who wish you happiness and then excitement and trembling in your voice will not appear.
Let's talk about the grounding technique
The main thing, remember, you should not tell yourself to "calm down", this will not help, but will only increase anxiety. When the panic attack has increased and you are not able to control yourself, look with your eyes for five things that are visible to the eye, four that you can touch, three to hear, two to sniff and one to taste. This technique will return you to reality, sober up and relieve excitement and trembling in the voice.
And one more tip to get rid of a panic attack, remember two truths:
- Do not be afraid of her.
- And do not try to suppress.
That is, the release of adrenaline (the hormone of fear) occurs within 90 seconds. The rest of the time you experience not a true phobia, but your “fear of fear." It is necessary to hold out the first one and a half minutes, and then the panic attack will recede.
And the main thing is to understand that all fears are often invented by us. Improve yourself, learn self-control, and then you do not have to deal with excitement and trembling in your voice.