We are all social creatures, and not a day goes by without communication. It is on the knowledge of how to communicate with people, on the ability to conduct a conversation that determines the level of human relations, the ability to achieve goals.
There is a category of people who put on themselves the stigma of a loser, explaining this with the phrase: "I can not communicate with people." On the one hand, this may be due to the nature of the individual. Shyness, excessive modesty, excessive demands on oneself make a person insecure, withdrawn. And others, not being able to understand the internal causes of such behavior, consider this person arrogant, often attribute such negative qualities that a person does not even have.
Of course, it is best for such citizens to talk to a psychologist, to work out in special groups among his kind. Learning to value oneself, accept one's “I” as it is, stop tormenting and torment oneself, belittling one’s appreciation in society, a person will gradually become a completely adequate person.
Although sometimes rebirth occurs without the participation of psychologists. After all, each person implicitly knows how to communicate with people, but cannot overcome himself. But suddenly, next to a closed individual, there will be a real friend who will help to reveal personalities from the best side.
And about the great power of love, which helps to flourish the most tattered teenager, to show his beloved or beloved his inner world in all the sublime beauty, he even wrote many works of art, composed a lot of songs, made a huge number of films.
But often misunderstanding arises in a human environment only because some do not know how to talk with the people who surround him. Communication with a business partner cannot take place in a cheeky manner, they do not speak with loved ones in an official tone, and a complex psychological duel generally occurs between a man and a woman at the stage of flirting. The establishment and development of any relationship depends on the level of your ability to communicate.
The first impression is created already from the first words. If a person cannot clearly articulate his thoughts, he uses obscene language for a bunch, and fills a pause in a speech with the sounds “well-oo-oo”, “uh”, then it will be problematic for him to declare himself in a cultural society. To express thoughts, it is necessary to replenish the vocabulary and this is achieved by reading the literature. You can attend lectures and trainings, but elementary literacy does not increase anything so much as reading.
It is very important to immediately choose the right style, determine which set of words is acceptable in this circle of communication. In the working environment, its own terminology is used, while on a date, for example, the neologisms “Zolotusik” and “Kotopusik” will be correctly understood and appreciated. The style of conversation will immediately show your attitude to the interlocutor. Therefore, if there is a difficulty in choosing a style in an unfamiliar environment, it is worth sticking to a neutral-friendly tone, first of all, greet others and use standard phrases.
Since it is quite difficult to communicate with people in an unfamiliar team, you can give some advice to someone who will be in a similar situation. For example, you can mentally imagine yourself in the place of the interlocutor or look at the situation from the side of an outsider.
The second piece of advice on how to communicate with people will be to be as discreet as possible, but respectful. No one normally perceives a screaming person or an interlocutor talking by. Whatever emotions are raging inside, when communicating, you can not bring them down on others. How often do we restrainedly react to the rudeness of the seller or driver and say insulting nastiness to the closest people, and then we wonder where the love has gone.
The pace of speech is also important in communication and largely depends on the specific situation. They speak with children or foreigners slowly, using simple words, otherwise they simply will not understand the speech. Speaking to the audience in order to convey their thoughts to the audience, a measured rhythm is needed, with a clear breakdown into individual theses.
To practice this skill, you can practice as follows - walking to utter one word in one step. Do not forget about benevolence and a sense of humor. No matter how you try to apply the proven communication skills, an evil look or an unexpected undercut can alienate any interlocutor and even destroy relationships.