Why is the world so cruel? Where does this cruelty begin? Who is to blame for this? We live in a vast world, and everywhere, in any country, on any continent, in any corner of our vast planet, cruelty is manifested. Why is this world so arranged?
Did you have it?
Admit it or not, everyone’s business, but we all felt it: when something bad happens to someone else, and instead of feeling empathy and regret, we feel good. So why is the world cruel? This psychological phenomenon is so widespread that it was even given a name - gloating.
Unfortunately, there is no need to look for evidence of malevolence. Just open any article about celebrity failures, political scandals, executions, lawsuits, natural disasters, obesity, wars or any other misfortunes and read the comments section.
The gloating is everywhere. But why do so many of us enjoy such misery of others? There is an answer. Guilty of this is another not the best trait of human character - envy. The more we envy someone, the more pleasure we get when a person encounters some terrible consequences.
So why is the world so cruel?
Cruelty is manifested in us from childhood, it is especially acute in adolescence, and the adult world is full of hypocrisy and duplicity. Remember yourself when your classmates (or yourself) showed cruelty and violence towards someone from a parallel class. Have you defended the weak in this battle? Maybe one of your classmates did this? Anyone anyone?
Psychologists say that one of the causes of brutality in adolescents is to watch scenes of violence in films. Many of the young people prefer to watch horror films, trailers and other films containing scenes with an age limit of 18+. And a person with a still weak psyche considers this behavior normal and uses it with fun in his real life.
Root cause of cruelty
In any case, whatever it is, the world begins with man. All problems on Earth begin with man. The cruelty of the world is no exception. People have become callous. And what is it? Callous person is dryness and heartlessness in relation to others. This is selfishness and indifference, this is helplessness. People always thought: “Why is the world so cruel? Why is one everything and another nothing? Why is the world so unfair?” Now think about it, those people whose failures we gloat have come a long way to achieve success, have overcome many obstacles. Knowing what they want, they unconditionally went to the goal, taking responsibility for their lives. And what does each of us do to succeed? Perhaps someone, having read books on psychology, set and wrote down their goals, someone even took the first step to achieve them. But someone did nothing but angry comments. Start with yourself!
I am cruel. So what?
Many people say that cruelty is their strength. So they feel their power and significance in this world. But actually this is a manifestation of weakness. A strong person always knows how to empathize with others, to help in difficult times. A true indicator of human strength is kindness, care, and love. Since this man felt on himself all the hardships of the world, and he understands how hard it is for others now, how they need support.
How to remove a mask of cruelty from a person?
Often, we blame all mortal sins of cruel people, depriving them of human feelings. In fact, there are no bad people. There are people who have been deeply wounded, and in order not to show this pain, they put on this mask of a cruel, imperious, proud man.
If you want to tear off the mask of cruelty from a person and see his real face, you need to understand the cause of the pain. Most likely, you will have to plunge into his past, talk with his surroundings: close friends, old colleagues, to find out the reason for this behavior in a person. You will help a person with simple conversation and human support. He will be grateful to you for this. Take the time to conduct such a study. Believe me, this person is very hurt.
Maybe it's all about childhood trauma, divorce. Perhaps the person had some kind of tragedy. Maybe he is offended by someone, or he has low self-esteem and he is trying to increase it due to his pretense of cruelty. The main thing to remember, when a person himself can not cope with any pain, he spreads it to people around. His pain, he believes, is reduced, but in fact it is becoming more and more.
But you can heal this pain and prevent its interference in your life, in your feelings and life. The most important thing is not to be afraid to assume such responsibility. Yes, a person may be unpleasant that someone delves into his past, but he will certainly appreciate the help that you rendered him. As a result, you will learn to better understand people, knowing (understanding) their pain.
They are cruel to me! Will I be silent?
When we try to respond to the anger of a person, we violate our emotional state, let negative thoughts into our consciousness. But here is the paradox: we like to be offended. We like to be evil.
When we were "undeservedly" offended, we try on the title of "victim". And we are also trying to raise our self-conceit with the phrase: "I’m better, I would never do that." Remember, it was like that with everyone. And then we consider ourselves above our offender. We stop talking to him, communicate, and eagerly wait for an apology. And after he pleads guilty (or does not plead), takes the first step towards, our self-conceit will increase even more, because someone has admitted that we are right.
The only sure way is to explain to the person in a calm voice, without displaying retaliatory cruelty, that he is wrong. In many ways, they will not listen to you. Then it’s better to just shut up, so you won’t break your peace of mind.
And what will cruelty give?
From a scientific or religious point of view, we are pretty small. What are people against the most omnipotent, omnipresent and omniscient God? And even if the Universe is purely matter, what are we against the vast cosmos? Of course, we can feel envy when we encounter other people's achievements, but what are these achievements and our envy in total against a huge, dark, beautiful cosmos? Nothing!
The power of love and mercy
And again we turn to psychology. Love. What is it? Eternal debate around this definition of this concept does not subside. We do not know the exact meaning of this word, but we know what love can do with people.
Psychologists have proven that people cannot love other people more than themselves. This is by no means neither selfishness nor narcissism; it is adequate self-love. Love is the key to solving all problems. Love yourself and you will love the whole world.
Psychology claims that the outside world is a mirror of our inner world. If we are embittered, cruel, unfair, then the world will be so. But if we perceive everything with love, think positively, and treat all the turns of life with kindness, then the world will show us its best side.
What to make our world better?
Psychologists say that our lives are our thoughts. All our joy, hatred, anger, cruelty, regret come from within. We are our thoughts. The world around us is also our thoughts. Most people think negatively, and therefore life takes on a bad character. But what if you change your lifestyle? Suppose some people come home and say, "I have so many problems today!" For some, this phrase will seem ordinary, everyday. But most psychologists say the word “problem” is a negative thought. Each "problem" should be perceived as an opportunity to move to a new level. After solving one problem, you will open many doors, or one, but very important. What if we replace a negative thought? Suppose you come home and say, "I have so many opportunities today." And you already feel a surge of energy, motivation. You no longer want to discuss and condemn other people's misconduct.
If each of us at least swept the threshold of our own home, the whole world would become cleaner.
These words were said by Mother Teresa.
Having changed your thoughts quite a bit, you will make this world a better place. You will no longer be affected by violence in the films. Please. Show love and mercy. You will immediately notice how your life will change. Cruelty and violence are not the best ways to solve problems. This will improve your attitude to life and to other people. You will not be that callous person. This is your choice.
Conclusion
Why is the world so cruel? No answer to this question found. Probably impossible to find. But we know what to do to correct this cruelty in relation to people, to ourselves. Harmony in relations with other people begins with harmony within oneself, and Shakespeare spoke about this many years ago:
... be true to yourself; then, as night follows after day, you will not change others
Our weaknesses and strengths, purity and impurity - all this is exclusively ours, and not someone else's. They are enclosed in us, and not in someone else. And only we ourselves can change this, and not someone else.
And this quote is taken from the book “The Science of Being Rich and Great,” by Wallace Wattles.