Every day everything changes. Nothing stands still. Water flows away, trees grow, the grass turns green, and then turns yellow. In the same way, man. Every day is a new image. Even if he does not notice it. A person never stands still, acquiring new features both in appearance and in character. The person does not notice this, these changes occur unconsciously and, unfortunately, not always in a positive direction.
Transformation of personality as a psychological problem
In the course of life, a person is faced with many crisis moments. In these situations, he needs psychological support, during which they will provide assistance to ensure the selection of prognostic models of interaction. To date, in psychological science, the issue of personality transformation (in a progressive direction or vice versa) has become one of the most relevant. A lot of research and dissertations are written on this subject.
The psychological aspects of personality transformation in psychological science today are becoming very relevant. In the field of psychological knowledge, there is a large base of scientific and theoretical material about this problem (K. A. Abulkhanova-Slavskaya, L. I. Antsiferova, A. G. Asmolov, L. S. Vygotsky, etc.).
Psychologist's help
Transformation is a change. Changes are unconscious and conscious.
If a person decided to find himself, but does not know where to start, then he will need the help of a specialist. In today's world, there is a large amount of online help from life coaches. There is a lot of literature on a given topic. And nowadays there is free psychologist help online.
The above types of help will help identify personality problems and take the right path to solve them.
Something needs to be changed ...
So, a man decided on the transformation of personality, where to start?
For good work on yourself, you need knowledge of psychology. If a person who wants to change his life turns to a psychologist, then a whole course of consultations will be held with him, aimed at improving all areas of life. For this, each psychologist will try to explain to the client the path that needs to be done - the method of personality transformation.
A competent specialist at the start of the work will apply diagnostic methods. The occupancy of the method will depend on the purpose for which the client came.
Psychologist consultation
If a person wants changes, wants to improve life, then he really needs a personality transformation. How to become real, the psychologist will tell. The process of psychological counseling does not occur in order to redraw the person completely. The psychologist directs towards himself, a new way of life. Moreover, he does not set as his goal to remake individuality, essence. A person after a course of work remains by itself. But at the same time it becomes updated, full of vitality and energy.
Psychotype of personality
If the client asks to help find himself and his place in life, to establish life in a specific niche, the psychologist offers him a package of diagnostic techniques. Among the techniques there are both complex and very simple ones that do not require additional explanations. The latter include a test for determining the personality type.
The technique allows you to determine who the person is:
- extrovert / introvert;
- sensory / intuitive;
- logician / ethic;
- rational / irrational.
A test to determine the psychotype of personality will further pave the way for another psychotype (desired).
There is the following selection of psychotypes from socionics:
| Yesenin | Dostoevsky | Huxley | Hamlet |
| Dumas | Dreiser | Napoleon | Hugo |
| Balzac | Robespierre | Don Quixote | Jack |
| Gabin | Maksim | Zhukov | Stirlitz |
Characterization of mental processes
Mental processes are interconnected.
The characteristic of psychological processes:
- Intelligent processes. They determine the cognitive part of the human psyche.
- Emotional processes. With the help of them, a person manifests his attitude towards others and himself.
- Volitional processes. With their help, all human activity is determined.
So how do all these complex mechanisms work? This problem puzzled Russian psychologists for a long time. The problem of mental processes was dealt with by V. G. Belinsky, A. I. Herzen, N. G. Chernyshevsky. Scientists, as expected at the end of the 19th century, approached the solution of the problem from the materialist side. They considered mental processes as a side effect of the brain.
Their findings were confirmed and supplemented by scientists of the 20th century - Sechenov and Pavlov.
Having discovered a second signaling system in people, IP Pavlov identified three main types of GNI.
These types of personalities are attributed only to man.
- Artistic type (with the predominance of the first signal system). People vividly, figuratively perceive reality and feel confident in their surroundings.
- The thinking type (with the predominance of the second signaling system). People are indecisive, like to speculate, constantly doubt something.
- The middle type (with the balance of the first and second signal systems).
It is these studies of Russian scientists that laid the foundation for diagnostic techniques, contributing to the transformation of personality.
Some people try to change their personality under the influence of hypnosis and suggestion.
V. M. Bekhterev said that suggestion becomes possible only if one succeeds in influencing a person’s subconscious bypassing his critical component. Can a person change for the better without engaging in thinking? It is doubtful ...
Full reboot
How to find yourself?
This question confronts a person in a crisis situation or simply deciding that life needs to be changed and it is necessary to start with oneself.
The hardest part is working on yourself. Psychology as an applied science is designed to help a person in these difficult moments of life.
The main stages in working on yourself
So, the psychologist launched the mechanism of personality transformation, where to start working on yourself?
All psychological techniques are performed step by step.
- At the first stage, it is necessary to stock up with knowledge about the transformation of personality, about how a successful and spiritually developed person should be. Where to begin? What errors are possible during the work?
- At the second stage, it is necessary to analyze life and make important decisions on the development of a new lifestyle. This may be the introduction of a new positive habit (running in the morning, yoga, reading books in the evenings, early rise), and the elimination of the old negative habit (smoking, consuming large amounts of sweets, foul language, etc.) It is important to introduce no more than two three habits in three weeks.
- At the third stage, it is important to recharge with motivation. For this you can use auto-training, reading motivational literature, as well as group trainings.
- At the fourth stage, the very formation of the “New Self”, a new personality image with new habits and qualities, takes place.
- At the fifth stage, all the previously acquired qualities are consolidated, and their development.
How to change yourself?
At the very first stage of personality transformation, some rules must be observed. Otherwise, dreams will not come true.
- The presence of motivation! There must be motivation, without it a person will not move off the ground.
It is necessary to have a passionate desire to find yourself real, to change something in yourself. Motivation is the key to all future changes!
If a person complains about inappropriate conditions, workload, etc., then he simply does not have enough motivation.
- You must have clear, understandable goals.
Very often people make a plan for their own transformation. Paint desires. But all these desires sound fuzzy. A person writes that he wants to lose weight, but the brain cannot fulfill his wishes without a clear indication. The brain needs to know how much to lose weight, by what number.
What do we have to do for this? A clarification is necessary: “I want to lose weight by 10 kg by September 1, that is, on September 1, I should weigh 55 kg.” The brain will perceive such an instruction and build a clear algorithm in the subconscious.
How to get out of your comfort zone?
Each person has a comfort zone. This is a place from which not everyone decides to leave. This is a place where in the evening a tired person, comfortably sitting in an armchair in front of the TV, drinks tea with sweets instead of going to the pool or gym or just spreading a rug and doing yoga at home.
But personality transformation will not happen without certain victims. No matter what a person wants to achieve, what is important is what he does. I want to pump my brain - you need to read books instead of viewing social networks. I want to pump up the buttocks, so you need to throw out a sandwich and run to the gym.
Each person needs this comfort zone. Sometimes you need to return to it in order to restore the resources spent. But it is worth remembering that, having lingered in it longer than it should be, a person risks losing what he has already acquired. And starting over is even more difficult.
The comfort zone is always abandoned by people with great reluctance. In order to get out of it, you need to have a charge of motivation. Without motivation, in principle, no business will be brought to an end. And the complete transformation of personality is a matter of life. This is a complete restructuring of the rhythm of life, the way of thinking.
In order to start the method of personality transformation, which will be carried out by a psychologist, a person himself needs to have an understanding of why he is doing this. Does he really need this, and most importantly - to understand what the result will be at the finish.
"I" and "others"
When a person decides on global changes in his life, on the transformation of his own personality, for some reason he often looks back at others.
And how are they? How about me? Why are they doing this? Why am I wrong?
This is a wrong human habit. This is a mistake of our whole life. You can look back at others, but you cannot compare them with yourself.
Why does a person judge his success by comparing himself with his boss? Everything comes from childhood. Once upon a time, parents, learning about the successes of their son in school, first of all asked: "How did the others do this job? How? They have five, and you have four? Fu, how bad it is." And they did not even try to compare this unfortunate boy with his own successes. But he tremendously enhanced his knowledge over the past month. Our teachers, trainers, grandmothers, etc., did the same.
This was the wrong approach. But our parents, unfortunately, in those days were not savvy in psychological techniques and brought up as they could. Of course, they wanted only the best for their child, they wanted to see him successful. But they forgot about human personality.
And now this boy has become an adult uncle. Now he is a deputy. boss in a large office, but constantly thinks that he is not a boss. Constantly wants to jump above his head, forgetting about everything in the world.
This is also the wrong approach.
When starting the transformation of a person, it is necessary to make sure that what the person strives for will benefit his spiritual world. Does a person really want this? Will a person in a new image be in harmony with himself? If so, the path is right. You need to move in this direction and not look back on someone else's path.
Otherwise, the person runs the risk of losing all his motivation towards the goal. He will actually lose purpose. Why move to it if it contradicts our worldview? And it will be fair.
Positive thinking
Many people do not even know where they got so many problems in life. And the answer is on the surface. Most of our problems were invented by us. Seriously, it is.
You need to try to think positively, and the problems will go away by themselves. At least they will not look like problems, they will turn into small misunderstandings.
Most truly successful people think positively. They are like a magnet for happiness. People who think negatively repulse all that is good from themselves.
These days, a lot is said about visualization. This concept is already firmly rooted in Western countries and is now smoothly merging into the Russian mentality.
Without even going into the essence of programming our consciousness, you can try to smile all the time and set goals for success for yourself. Moreover, it is desirable to pronounce these goals in the affirmative, no doubt. For example: "In four months, my copywriting income will be 50,000 rubles a month. And in a year, my family and I will move to our own four-room house with a garden in the courtyard."
All! The brain is set for success. Now he will look for all kinds of loopholes for the execution of his plan.
But it is worth remembering that water does not flow under a lying stone.
Stress management
Learned to think positively, now it’s time to learn effective methods of dealing with stress.
A positive and also successful person is supposed to be able to keep their emotions in check. Yes, this transformation of personality is not so simple.
"How to become real and still not let out your own emotions?" - you ask. Why release them? In most cases, emotional outbursts interfere with our lives. For example, the boss chastised you for a mistake, and instead of keeping silent, you begin to make excuses by waving your arms wide and blushing. How could management like this behavior? Of course not. The boss would have liked it if you, having apologized, had done everything as he originally needed. There is already talk about career growth and wage increases. And as you remember, the brain is frantically looking for all the options in order to reach the desired number in rubles by the specified date.
Finding the right qualities in yourself
To really achieve success in the transformation of personality, a person needs to understand his character, temperament and identify qualities that will help in further spiritual and material growth.
For example:
- sociability;
- curiosity;
- smile
- ability to lead;
- love of loneliness;
- hard work;
- creativity;
- good memory and others.
Having written a list of such qualities that are inherent to you personally, try to write near each of them how a particular personality characteristic can help you build a new image, achieve new goals.
Is it possible to change the character?
Modern psychologists have long been saying that the character of a person as a whole cannot be changed. The main personality traits are manifested already in childhood. But there are personality traits that can and should be changed. This is not easy, but possible if desired.
In positive psychology, some developmental qualities are distinguished. These are qualities such as kindness and optimism. These features determine the attitude to the world, allow you to see in all situations the maximum number of positive moments, which means acting, working, and not whining. These qualities determine the behavior of a person in ambiguous situations.
In the long run, developing a new character trait will help a person become the person that he wants to be. And in the short term, the attempt to change oneself will become useful for spiritual development and training of willpower.
Development
The transformation of personality in psychology is the development of all personality aspects. The lesson is not easy, and therefore, it may really need the help of a psychologist. In some cases, free consultation will not be enough and you will have to conduct a whole course with a coach. If some side does not develop, then a complete transformation will not happen.
Thus, for the full development of personality, a person will need to tackle the development of its individual components.
The 1st block is the beliefs of a person (faith). It will be necessary to work out and remove negative beliefs from your life, and positive ones to strengthen, strengthen.
The 2nd block is the development of self-esteem. To work with this unit, most likely, you need the help of a paid life coach or everyone’s available free help from a psychologist. The specialist will help to remove baseless pride and self-doubt, to develop a healthy self-esteem.
3rd block. Set the main goals in life, develop them.
4th block. The development of individual personal qualities, such as willpower, sincerity, optimism, responsibility, kindness and self-control. Cross out from your mind cowardice, irresponsibility, weakness. These qualities are not suitable for a strong personality.
The 5th block is a work on behavior, manner of speech, self-presentation (freely, effectively and with dignity). It is necessary to eliminate complexes and tightness.
Each block is worked out until the complete elimination of negative qualities and the development of positive ones.
Transformation of personality is a long, painstaking and difficult path. It should be remembered why he was started, to maintain intrinsic motivation and hold on to the end.