Human life consists of big and small decisions. Every day we make a choice, what time to get up, what to eat for breakfast and what way to go to work. Even such trifles sometimes cause serious concern, not to mention something larger: which university to apply for, what job to apply for, who to marry - or maybe to get a divorce, quit and go in search of something better? The answer to such questions is often depression, a desire to trust the will of chance, or simply leave everything as it is and go with the flow. After all, having done something, one often has to repent of it afterwards. But to repent of inaction is brought at least. How to learn to make a choice correctly?
Lack of information
One of the main obstacles that appears when you need to make a choice is the incompleteness of available information. It is impossible to foresee all the difficulties, prevent all problems, calculate all the details - simply because, alas, we have not been given a chance to see the future. On the other hand, each of the available options is at least a little, but a cat in a poke.
Fatalism and knowledge
The consequences of our actions are difficult to predict, but this is not a reason not to make a choice and surrender to the mercy of fate. To get started, find out about the items as much as possible. True, it is still impossible to learn absolutely everything about them and exclude the will of chance from the most thoughtful plan. All that remains is to come to terms with this and believe in yourself: no matter what you do, whatever happens, you will cope with possible problems and take advantage of the benefits. This thought reduces internal tension: you no longer require you to make a choice completely without error.
Decision Making Methods
1. You can sit down, lie down, walk along the street (as you think better) and mentally weigh all the options. You can do the same on a piece of paper: describe each option, its advantages and disadvantages. For greater clarity, you can even draw a table, in the columns of which you list all the pros and cons of each option, and then count them - and maybe with peace of mind choose the option that has the most advantages. Just do not forget that their number does not always correspond to quality.
2. There is a less rational way. Dry estimates of income and expenditure are meaningless if it is more important for you that you will feel in a particular situation. Then it is better to consecutively imagine every possible option and relive it in your imagination. So you will find out what your emotional reaction will be in one or another case, and whether you will like it.
3. Trust your intuition. Making a choice with her help is an invaluable talent: if chance can be foreseen, then only with the help of such an irrational instinct. This does not mean that you need to choose at random, but if you feel that, contrary to any logic, something tells you a completely different solution, do not rush to get it out of your head.
Some of these techniques are more natural for you, some - less: it depends on the mindset. It’s more convenient and easier to use your own, native, but you should try others and apply them in parallel: so you can look at your problem from different angles and get a more complete picture.