Loneliness can be different - it is a physical state, when a person is completely alone, and a psychological sensation, when there are plenty of people around, and there is nobody to talk heart to heart with. Man is a social being, and extremely rarely he tolerates isolation from society in any of its manifestations. What to do if you are single and feel like everyone is abandoned?
Is loneliness real or far-fetched?
In order to solve the problem, you need to analyze it. If you really don't have friends and a loved one, then it's time to start looking for suitable candidates. Only in childhood can you approach any peer you like and say: "Let's be friends!" In adulthood, everything is more complicated, but not by much. Do not be afraid to chat with new people, make acquaintances in a virtual network and your social environment. If you are bored and lonely because you are on maternity leave, it's time to take the initiative and get to know other mothers from the playground. Those who work a lot, it is useful to establish friendships in the team. And remember, not all new acquaintances will become your friends, but it’s a lot more fun to go to a cafe or a movie together and talk “nonsense” than to always be alone.
What if there is no love?
Being a hermit in modern society is not so simple. Loneliness is much more often spoken of, implying a lack of personal happiness. The state of acute need for romance and mutual love is familiar to everyone. In such periods, favorite activities and the opportunity to spend enough time with friends are not encouraging. The most important thing is to remain calm and not rush at the first people of the opposite sex they meet. Take a look at interesting candidates for the role of the second half, try to make more new acquaintances and often visit places where you can meet people who are close in spirit. Try not to show that you are sad and lonely. Such a negative attitude can act repulsively on unfamiliar people.
Loneliness: understand and accept
Due to lack of communication, any person is uncomfortable. In such periods, depression often comes, thoughts of its low importance and uselessness to society. Instead of being sad, take time for your spiritual growth. You can do self-education, try yourself in some kind of creativity or a new professional field. Spend your free time and love on those who need it. You can become a volunteer or just help someone you know. Get a pet - worries about a small helpless animal will rid you of painful thoughts for a long time. You are alone, but that does not mean that you cannot have a full life. On the contrary, loneliness is freedom from obligations to others. If you do not have enough employment in your main job, in a state of loneliness you can find a part-time job to your liking or engage in some kind of social activity. Agree, having assessed all the possibilities, it is easy to understand that it is not so bad that you are alone.
Time to evaluate and work on yourself
People are not always alone through their own faults. Sometimes this is a forced situation - moving to another city or country, changing jobs. In this case, to accelerate adaptation, it is enough to take an active position and not be afraid to communicate with new people. But if at the physical level in your life there have been no cardinal changes, and loneliness has come, it is worth looking for the causes of this phenomenon in yourself. Friends turned their back on you and your loved one left? But did you relate well to your loved ones, maybe something was worth doing differently? Do not be afraid of such an analysis, all you need to do is try to put yourself in the place of those people whose relationships with you are in the past. After all, only noticing your mistakes, you will understand why you are alone, and draw useful conclusions for yourself.