I'm lonely ... Almost every third person on our planet can say or think so. Loneliness is a condition or a certain moment in life when an individual is left alone either physically or mentally.
For some time, experiencing such a feeling is normal. It is worth saying that often creative individuals tend to be alone with themselves. Moreover, this pastime becomes very fruitful. However, loneliness as a way of life is a very unfavorable condition for a person. It is especially problematic for men. Pain, loneliness and hopelessness are often experienced by older people.
This feeling is, as a rule, a problem of megacities and the youth living in them. Perhaps one of the reasons is the desire to draw attention to yourself and at the same time feel sorry for yourself. In any case, it is much easier to do than to acquire communication skills.
Hidden problem
Representatives of the stronger sex rarely complain of loneliness. However, the effect of this condition on men is most detrimental. Anyone who prefers to live without a reasonable environment, most likely, will go down and acquire bad habits in the form of nightlife, untidiness, gambling and alcohol.
“I am lonely,” - so say those men who do not have regular friends or a beloved woman. This is a big problem. The reasons for the loneliness of men can be divided into two large groups. It is because of them that the representatives of the stronger sex over the age of thirty do not want to have a close circle.
The first group includes pathological causes. Among them are the following:
- infantility;
- psychopathology;
- sociophobia;
- underdeveloped skills of communicative contacts with people;
- Inadequate self-esteem.
All these reasons may intersect. So, there are infantile individuals with inadequate self-esteem and poor communication skills. In the formation of relationships, it is important to be able to determine what sources have the psychology of a single man. If it is based on personal underdevelopment, then communication will have a positive effect on the chosen one. Sometimes the reasons lie in psychopathology. Then the manifestation of attention can have negative and uncontrolled consequences.
There are also such reasons for loneliness, which are attributed to existential. They can be the norm and enrich the inner world of man. Among them, one can single out loneliness, which is an element of spiritual growth; serving as part of the profession; as an indicator of personal self-sufficiency; which is part of a culture acceptable to humans.
Elderly problem
“I am lonely,” - so many of those who have reached old age can say. The lack of close circle in older people is currently a big social problem. Often, lonely old people complain about the feeling of abandonment and lack of demand, misunderstanding and alienation that comes from young people. However, they do not feel the support and care of the state.
It is in old age that the problem of human loneliness lies in the absence of children, relatives, grandchildren. It consists in the fact that the old man lives separately from the young members of his family. Sadness and loneliness embrace in old age after the death of one of the spouses. Sometimes old people isolate themselves from other people because of their financial weakness.
The state should take upon itself the solution of a sufficiently large social problem of society, because the vulnerability and insecurity of the elderly do not allow them to independently find a way out of any difficult situation that has arisen in their life.
Loneliness and health
The absence of a close environment significantly affects the human condition. This applies to his health. It is worth saying that the harm from loneliness is much greater than from the widespread ailment of our time - obesity. American scientists published medical observation data that allowed them to draw certain conclusions. Compared with obesity, which adversely affects the health of the human body, loneliness harms the psyche. In order to extend the years of his life, a person must communicate with people close to him, travel more and try to find a mate.
An interesting fact is that up to fifty years you can be happy, even while being lonely. Having crossed the half-century threshold, a person understands that he needs a second half or grandchildren.
Female loneliness
Representatives of the fair sex complain about the absence of close people much more often than men. However, there is a certain paradox. Phrase: "I feel lonely" is often said by those who are most surrounded by people.
The woman often experiences the absence of a close man as her inferiority. At the same time, the loneliness that affects the fair sex is more a sensation than a reality. This is often just a game of longing for those ladies who do not make contact, but are waiting for their prince. For women, pitying themselves and complaining about life is more familiar and easier than directing efforts to find a partner. Talking about the absence of decent men is undoubtedly easier than having a positive soul and watching your figure.
Mythological type
Female loneliness at a certain moment is characterized by the absence of a man with whom a lady could live together or at least meet. For example, this category includes a single mother. Such a woman has a hard time in life. She works hard and is forced to independently solve all the problems that arise in her way. Such a woman, as a rule, has her own house, and she can do everything in her that she likes. For example, to spend the whole day on the couch reading a book, knowing about the mountain of unwashed utensils in the kitchen.
The psychology of a single woman is that there is no need to report for her actions. She is overwhelmed with self-esteem, as she provides herself and has the right to vote, which can be used everywhere. If the representative of the fair sex does not have a close circle, then she can devote all her free time to hobbies, devoting him most of her life. In addition, it is much easier for a single woman to invite someone she wants to visit. Such a lady would not need to invent incredible stories after a night spent in chatter with her best friend.
A single woman is independent psychologically. She is not in a state of love, but at the same time she is comfortable and well. However, she is sometimes incredibly sad in the evenings that she spends with her child or with a cat. She has the opportunity to meet her only love, but she is not in a hurry to meet her.
Prince Charming
A single woman does not have a life partner, so she is in constant search. At the same time, she has a clear idea of what her beloved person should be:
- beautiful;
- high;
- rich;
- educated;
- smart;
- caring;
- responsible;
- honest;
- without children;
- held;
- unmarried.
In addition, mystery and charm must be present in it. The only lover should be strong and cheerful, while being monogamous. But the most important thing is that he should not have any shortcomings. However, real life does not so often confront us with princes.
Myths
The psychology of a woman’s loneliness pushes her to continue suffering. Various myths contribute to this. Thus, the assertion that the chicken is not a bird, and the woman is a man, push the lady to the opposite reasoning. They relate to men. A certain stereotype is formed in the mind, which, of course, suggests that all men are unreliable, stupid and insensitive. Another characteristic myth is the assertion that a woman is able to stop a horse on a gallop and enter a burning hut. This forms a false idea of the ability to solve all life problems without the participation of men.
Reasons for suffering
Mostly a lonely woman is burdensome her freedom. She is forced to independently struggle with life's adversities. However, no one helps her. Burden the woman and the holidays that she meets in the company of the same lonely girlfriends.
Sometimes such a lady wants to talk heart to heart with someone, find sympathy and complain. In addition, she has no one to turn to for help. At the same time, society can also condemn by hanging the label of an old maid on a woman.
Real loneliness
Sometimes a woman has a large circle of relatives and close friends. They fully support her and bear a certain responsibility. At the same time, a single lady does not always work. She can be given money by her parents or ex-husband, wealthy relatives or adult children. In this regard, it in full cannot be left to itself. Sometimes obligations to relatives are much harder than family relationships. At the same time, it is difficult for a single woman to be an independent person. This is done for her by children, relatives or friends.
There are times when a lady purposefully strives for loneliness. This allows her to heal wounds and restore peace of mind.
But be that as it may, it is worth remembering that loneliness for a woman is her personal choice. This condition does not mean second-rate or improper performance. This is an independent choice of personality.
Benefits
Female loneliness has its positive aspects. They consist in the freedom to dispose of their time. In this case, an independent lady can afford what a woman does not dare, being married. She does not need to look for approaches to her spouse and adapt to his mood. She can make a career, get an education and enjoy a hobby. A woman who is not bound by family ties is a mistress to herself. She not only makes money, but also distributes it at her discretion.