Professional psychologists often observe tearful despair in their long-term practice when they attend a girl’s session with the words: “I’m boring, it worries my heart day after day!” It would seem that they found a problem for themselves, but here the main thing is a mental attitude, but no!
Problem awareness
For people insecure, this is a series of everyday events that are no different, which are not impressive and do not inspire active actions. Thus, it is difficult to change first of all yourself, therefore, your life, because a boring person is a diagnosis. I am glad that everything is fixable, when a person realizes that he has problems and it is time to be implemented from within, the trend is favorable.
Basic specialist assistance
Before radically changing the way of life, psychologists advise to make an internal introspection, sort out your desires, preferences, and understand for yourself what kind of person you are. Subconsciously ask the question: “Why am I boring? Why can't I be happy with myself in everyday life?” Another misconception is that girls believe that the root of evil is laid in their disinterest, which can manifest itself in awkward, wrong opinions, in communication with others. Self-criticism is useful, but in a limited amount, it is not worth flirting, harassing the body with negative thoughts is fraught with long-term illnesses, both psychological and physical. Disassemble yourself by the bones, not in the literal sense, of course, open your possibilities. Remember that your “dullness” lies precisely in your hidden nature, you are afraid to express yourself, to express yourself, in order to avoid people's condemnation. It is important to understand what kind of opinion you will not be mutilated, and it is your opinion that has a well-deserved place in this world.
Knowing your personality
Understanding your personality, in fact, is an interesting lesson, since self-knowledge can lead you to the secluded corners of your heart and amaze with the unpredictability of the results. The idea that you are a boring girl will leave you completely while exploring your abilities, talents and preferences. Try to create a list of what you have tried in your life, for example, what places you have visited, what kind of culinary you have tasted, whether you made rash actions, important decisions that changed your life once. If you are not a ten-year-old child, then the list will be impressive, it is important to just remember even not pronounced trifles. Highlight the points that are priority among the rest, clap your hands for the work done, conclusions about your own person should be asked for themselves, first of all, that you are not hopeless.
Unlocking opportunities, breaking boundaries
If the thought “I'm boring” is still spinning in my head, despite the accomplished feats from the list, it's time to resort to the unknown. Surely desires aroused that have not yet met in your modest life: to learn the basic sewing technique, brush with canvas, make designer stocking dolls, chase the ball on the football ground, learn the skill of makeup. A million examples can be given, how to develop in various directions, there would be a desire. As a rule, we ourselves build barriers, but there are no barriers to the development of personality, even at retirement age.
Shock therapy, or unusual circumstances
“So what should I do if I’m boring and don’t notice interesting features in me, despite the fact that I have been doing different things in life?” For such “blind” girls, individual advice is psychological shock therapy. You jumped with a parachute, dived with scuba gear, swam with resourceful dolphins or, conversely, with bloodthirsty sharks, staged a fire show, shouted in a crowded street, how happy are you? Not? Then what are we waiting for? Forward, towards extravagant acts that are not typical for you! Believe me, surged adrenaline will do its essential job, cause a global storm of emotions, pleasant memories that are enough to share with your loved ones and acquaintances will be something that unfamiliar friends will also be told about. You will undoubtedly feel how at this stage of development your personality is revealed, and then you will want to continue more and more.
Professional growth is a consequence of a developing personality
Depressed depressed clients visit psychologists when they think they have a boring job, what should I do? The answer is simpler than they think - it is worth changing the place of their everyday deployment. Deceived by their desires, even in their youth, adolescents bet on their chosen specialization at an institute, technical school, or any other educational institution. The problem lies in the lack of formation of views, immaturity of character, lack of experience, which entails the erroneous choice of a profession in which it is quite possible to grow into a solid employee, but at the same time you can actually become unhappy. According to deplorable statistics, 70-80% of people visit their unloved work every day, of course, most of them are not satisfied with their field of activity, and they do not achieve any results. To be happy is a multifaceted concept, everyone has their own happiness, but the priority is to find yourself, find out what you like in reality. It is never too late to get to know yourself, to be realized in other areas of life, perhaps your calling is to make children happy, organize celebrations, and meanwhile you are sitting in the office over dreary documents.
The influence of characteristic changes on personal life
A woman’s heart is created for love, affection, passionate relationships, for the sake of a little man girls are able to change, adapt, become better in all their manifestations, in order to please a precious chosen one. There are not a few cases when a girl at a reception at a psychologist shares something unpleasant: "The other day I was on a date, everything seemed to be going well, but by the end of the evening the guy said that I was boring, and it’s unlikely that we will get something serious " Agree, it really affects self-esteem and makes you think about your own behavior. Females by their strategic nature are able to think through topics for conversation, laid-back gestures, an attractive image before going to a meeting with a man. But this is not enough to win the due attention of a man, it is quite possible to confuse tactics of behavior with a particular chosen one, because you do not know what exactly this handsome man wants. In order not to sit at the end of a promising evening with a questioning look: "Am I boring?" it is necessary throughout the entire period of conscious age to develop in all directions, to learn sciences that are not familiar to you, but interesting in their significance, to touch on "male" topics: cars, fishing, sports, weapons, hunting. Comprehensive development, even in small quantities, is useful for communicating with the opposite sex, an interest in only female beauty, sex appeal is unlikely to last for a long time.
It is time to turn the inner world
It is commendable when a person wants to change completely and completely, abandon bad habits, change his style, create a certain creative image, albeit not clear to everyone, at the same time interest him directly with his personality, stop being boring, boring. Extravagance is welcomed in such cases when you want to change your life radically, change your occupation, manner of communication, and be shocking in expressing feelings. The most important aspect is self-confidence, self-confidence, decisiveness in actions. Do not be afraid to show discontent or, on the contrary, admiration, they will hear you, therefore, they will notice and will be obliged to listen in the future, if you do not stifle perseverance in certain circumstances. The banal phrase "everything is in your hands" has directly the place to be in the life of any man, even the most inconspicuous and quiet, this one is also able to turn the world around.
Swift way to a full life
If you decide to change, are not going to stop at any difficulties, improve, develop, become attractive to most people, take a worthy position in society, then it is time to take several steps to realize hidden opportunities, talents and desires. Psychologists provide a modest list of successive steps for self-improvement:
- Stop repeating to yourself: "I'm boring." Otherwise, you will not see an optimistic attitude. It is known that insecurity in one’s own forces gives rise to vital passivity and self-tightness.
- Take a look inside yourself with the help of a mirror, examine every face line, eye depth, thoughtfulness of your gaze, look for what you do not notice in others and identify features that are unique to you. Love yourself any, understand, such as you - no, but this is an individuality.
- A lot of trainings, both individual and group, are held in modern society, which has ceased to be savagery and is well accepted by people, moreover, attendance at trainings on personal growth is increasing every year. When training in courses on adapting to life circumstances and personality development, it is easy to find new friends with whom you will also find common interests, topics for conversation.
- Do not focus on the opinions of others, this can lead you into a stupor at the crucial moment of making a decision, be confident in your own strengths and unshakable energy.
- It is worth choosing interesting areas of activity in which focus will not fade, but only gain momentum in full force, thus, really transforming from a tedious scientist to an unpredictable showman. Reveal yourself, cognize and believe only in your strengths.