The current trend is that weak men are much more common than brave knights. Women have only two options - to help the dreamy prince turn into a macho or to become strong herself.
How to recognize a weak man
Any girl wants to meet a strong and decisive life partner, who will save her from problems and worries, and not create new difficulties. Knowing this tendency, weak men learned to disguise themselves, and therefore their true essence may not be revealed immediately. In order not to fall into the trap, you need to remember these signs of male weakness:
- Indecision. This is manifested even in small things. For example, in a cafe, he can study the menu for a long time, hesitating for a long time to dwell on a particular dish or drink.
- Inability to maintain a conversation. If in a dialogue with a man you have to constantly look for a way out of awkward pauses, you should be wary.
- Lack of career ambitions. Weak men often work not where they pay well, but where there is a calm and minimal level of responsibility.
- Slow reaction. A man does not know how to quickly make a decision, not only in stressful, but also in ordinary household situations.
- Has bad habits. Most mild men are addicted to cigarettes and alcohol.
- Not in a hurry to legitimize the relationship. Offers of hands and hearts from such a man can be achieved only after a series of persistent hints.
Some more distinguishing features
Armed with some knowledge, you can easily determine that next to you is a weak man. The signs are as follows:
- It is characterized by sacrifice. A man is trying to please everyone (or cannot refuse to fulfill other people's requests). This is usually done for the sake of universal approval.
- He does not like change and conflict. And this also applies to positive changes in life. A weak person likes to be in the "comfort zone", even if it is characterized by not the most favorable conditions.
- Suppresses your emotions and feelings. Weak people are afraid to show their state of mind. They prefer to experience all the joys and troubles within themselves.
- Love sorority. In a men's company, where everyone is successful and ambitious, it is difficult for such people. But with the ladies they quickly establish companionship.
Classification
Are men weak? As practice shows, yes. However, not all of them are the same. We can distinguish the following types of weak men:
- Sissy. This is a sacrifice of maternal love. Being under the influence of an authoritarian woman, he cannot take a single step on his own. Moreover, this is becoming a serious barrier to building your own family.
- Relaxed. This is a person who is unable or unwilling to take responsibility. Weakness is just a mask that allows a person to remain in a comfort zone.
- Indecisive. A person can be successful and active in work and hobbies. But when it comes to women, all courage and determination instantly disappears.
- Sensitive. This is a creative nature. A man is sensitive to all sorts of experiences. Nevertheless, this does not mean that he is "dead". By building a trusting relationship with a woman, a person can open up in a new way.
Why do men become weak?
Be that as it may, a man is born with all the characteristics inherent in him inherent in the stronger sex. To become a weak and spineless person, you need to go a long way, being influenced by the following factors:
- Parenting. Usually weak men grow up in families where a mother with a strict authoritative character rules everything.
- Problems with dad. If dad was too scandalous and cruel, the boy, as a rule, does not want to be like him. As a result, with age, a man becomes more and more spineless.
- Relationships with friends. From childhood, subjected to ridicule and mockery of peers, to a conscious age a man acquires a lot of complexes.
Why are there so many weak?
Increasingly, women complain that men have become weak. But in fact, this has its own historical explanation. Here are just a few factors that psychologists focus on:
- War. The First and Second World Wars claimed many lives. As a result, the concentration of the male population decreased to 20%. Naturally, many children were left without a hard fatherly upbringing. Despite the fact that a lot of time has passed, this has left its mark on the current generation.
- Transition to an industrial society. Previously, boys from childhood were involved in field work, where they adopted male experience from their grandfathers and fathers. Today, this tradition is almost completely exhausted.
- Education from women. Teachers in kindergarten, teachers at school, teachers in secondary and higher educational institutions ... The vast majority of them are women. Naturally, boys (future men) adopt their model of behavior.
- Feminism. The active struggle of women for their rights has been very successful. But not only ladies were actively involved in social activities. They taught children to be different from their fathers.
How to become strong: tips for men
If a weak and strong man compete in some issues, in 99% of cases the second will be the winner. Therefore, representatives of the first category immediately need to change something in themselves. To become strong, you should listen to these recommendations:
- Change your lifestyle. To start the transformation is to change the appearance, daily routine and even diet. Particular attention should be paid to physical activity, which will help develop stamina.
- Learn to make decisions yourself. This does not mean that you cannot consult with anyone. But do not try to shift the responsibility for what is happening to someone.
- Overpower yourself. By defeating your own weaknesses, you will easily confront even the most powerful rivals.
From wimp to loser one step
The weakness of a man extends to all spheres of his life. That is why such people often become real losers. This is manifested in the following characteristics:
- Feels a sense of self-pity. Instead of fighting failure, the man is actively seeking excuses.
- Constantly indicates a woman "in her place." This is a way of asserting oneself.
- Inability to handle money. A man does not have the skills to plan his budget. Thus, he spends more than he earns, and is constantly "in the red."
- He considers life a game. If you can’t play in reality, a person is immersed in a virtual environment.
- Does not know how to part with the past. In particular, a man carefully stores old and unnecessary things.
- Exaggerates the severity of their own ailments. A minor cold or headache turns into a real tragedy for a man.
Weak man - aggressive man
A weak man can be identified not only on the basis of known characteristics, but also by comparison with other representatives of the stronger sex. On the basis of such observations, the same conclusion always suggests itself. A weak man is always guilty of a woman. Moreover, this may not be a specific person, but a collective image. That is, all the fair sex.
Failures in work? Women are guilty who everywhere stick their nose and climb into men's professions. Do not add up to personal relationships? Again, the blame is on women who have become corrupt and unfaithful. Even if a man stumbles or breaks a cup, the women will be at fault. And if such a man has a spouse, she risks becoming an object of aggression. Wimps often assert themselves, suppressing their life partner. Often there are cases of assault.
Is there a chance for personal happiness?
If a weak man, what to do with this problem? Is there a chance to find personal happiness? Yes, if you find a suitable woman who has the "mummy" type. Her parental instinct extends not only to children. Such a woman has an inner need to take care of everyone and everything. Naturally, courting and feeling sorry for his weak man would not be torment for her, but a real pleasure and opportunity to realize his life's destiny. The result is a harmonious and warm relationship within the family.
Infantilism and weakness are not the same thing
Men are far more likely to be infantile than women. No wonder they say that they remain small children for life (even in old age). The following features are characteristic of this type of people:
- modesty and shyness, inability or unwillingness to engage in serious affairs;
- taciteness or inability to express one’s thoughts (and this is manifested only in a public setting, and not among friends);
- a tendency to foolishness (frivolous behavior can be traced both in an informal and in a business setting);
- inability to behave seriously in relationships with the opposite sex (which often annoys girls).
Of course, infants are weak. But that is not the rule. Often men who behave like children can gather their will into a fist and make a strong-willed decision when circumstances so require.
Conclusion
Does a weak man have a future? The first option is to connect your fate with a woman with a pronounced maternal instinct. This will be the key to personal happiness, but as for the business sphere, there can be no talk of any successes. The family idyll will be to complain to the spouse and receive from her the necessary dose of sympathy. Of course, someone will be satisfied with this state of affairs and will become a kind of “comfort zone” and a guarantee of stability. But, unfortunately, weak men are rarely happy. In order to be successful in women and to achieve heights in work, it is necessary to work on yourself, uprooting "feminine" qualities.