Dependent people are characterized by destructive behavior. It is about changing the psyche with the manifestation of strong emotions as a result of avoiding reality. A person does not see any changes in himself and believes that he lives an ordinary, normal life. In fact, it is controlled by the object of dependence, and the person himself is helpless in front of his destructive passion.
Concept of addiction
Addiction (dependence) translates from English as "addiction" or "addiction." Dependence can be chemical when a person gets used to alcohol, tobacco, drugs. No less difficult is getting used to the Internet, games, excessive workload (all types of activity). A bad sign would be food addiction, a love of shopping, an immense waste of money. Sometimes there are people dependent on their partners or relatives, which also does not bode well.
Tempting Attraction Factors
People do not immediately become accustomed to addictions, since each form of behavior has a certain source, from which it all began. The provoking factors that push people to addiction are:
- Mentality. In our country, they are indulgent towards people with addictions, they forgive a lot, they consider behavior from the point of view of humor or touching indulgence.
- Lack of spirituality. It gives rise to permissiveness, people tend to take everything from life, and this is immoral.
- Stress, despair, hopelessness.
- Improper family relations.
- Negative character traits.
Characteristic features of people with addictions
The behavior of a dependent person is fundamentally different from the behavior of a healthy person. This can be seen even in the early stages and prevent the progression of this serious ailment. You need to look at your loved ones, as well as objectively analyze your habits.
Perhaps it is still not so started. Special signs look like this:
- a person is constantly attracted to the object of addiction;
- the person is in nervous excitement until he is near the object, does his favorite thing or does not use;
- after the use of harmful substances (communication with a partner, casino, computer), a person experiences satisfaction or relaxation;
- after using the object in a person after some time there is a desire to repeat the process again.
Biological factors
Dependence can be triggered by biological factors. This is one of the most difficult conditions when little depends on a person. These include:
- genetic predisposition;
- heredity, which is aggravated by narcological diseases;
- chronic severe illness;
- brain damage.
Psychological factors
The psychological characteristics of the dependent personality include:
- lack of self-control;
- violation of self-regulation;
- low self-esteem;
- lack of self-esteem;
- lack of motivation;
- violation of the emotional sphere;
- inability and unwillingness to take care of oneself;
- lack of willpower;
- lack of compassion and empathy;
- aggressiveness and authoritarianism;
- inadequate response to social support;
- lack or violation of constructive communication.
Social factors
Many people wonder what kind of dependent people they are and do not understand that a huge number of such personalities surround us in society. The difference between them is only in the form or degree of dependence. If this degree is low and can not harm health, this addiction is considered quite acceptable (for example, a person likes to watch TV or gives all his time to work). But the main serious social factors are the following:
- demographic aspects in the form of gender and age;
- unhealthy atmosphere in the family;
- lack of control and prevention of addictions;
- worsening economic situation in the country;
- the decline of general spirituality;
- the availability of harmful substances;
- fashion and traditions in different activities that allow dependence;
- imperfection of the legislation.
Behavior features
Very often in the process of communication, defects in the nature of chemically dependent people are traced. These qualities can greatly aggravate the course of the disease and lead to serious consequences. Pay close attention to those at risk. These people can be recognized by their behavior:
- they turn a blind eye to obvious problems, pretending to be absent;
- do not openly express their thoughts and feelings;
- resort to manipulation to satisfy their needs;
- express their thoughts in allegories in order to avoid direct statements;
- make unrealistic plans and blame others for their collapse;
- everywhere they find enemies and suspect ill-wishers;
- do not remind about their problems, pretending that they are no longer there.
Chemical dependence is one of the most difficult, so it is difficult to determine in the first stages. People try to hide their vulnerability with protective methods, such as denial, avoidance, isolation from reality, affirmation of their own significance and self-sufficiency, as well as aggression or bravado. Denial is considered to be the most dangerous, since a person in this case does not realize in the presence of a problem.
Lack of stress tolerance
Low stress tolerance often causes addiction. Life cannot be constantly calm and measured; it presents its surprises, which are not always pleasant. People with a lack of resistance to stress cannot adequately survive discomfort. Instead of taking constructive steps to improve the situation, they try to hide behind the illusions of stability. They find solace in drugs, spirits, or slot machines. Do it intentionally so as not to face the truth.
To prevent this, it is necessary to accustom children from birth to independence and to avoid excessive custody of them. Growing up, such a person becomes helpless. In order to prevent addiction in an adult, it is necessary to help your family and friends who are in a difficult situation. Surrounding them with care and warmth, further addiction on their part can be avoided.
Deceit
Addicted people always lie. You can never rely on them, because they cannot keep their promise under any circumstances. Addicts are set up to get what they want, so their fantasy works in one single direction: the deception of the victim. They can not be called scammers, because sometimes people feel remorse. Just a thirst to get what you want is so great that a person can not do anything about it. Priorities are shifted in favor of dependence, so a person simply does not belong to himself. It is useless to call him to conscience, he will come up with a lot of excuses and present himself as a victim of circumstances.
It will be useful to say that the habit of telling the truth is laid out from childhood. If parents turn a blind eye to the imagination (sometimes even unsafe) of their children, they have a huge risk of getting dependent on them. It will not be difficult for him to lie, and his parents will not be able to prevent the negative consequences. An adult addiction should never be believed under any circumstances.
Infantility
One of the signs of a dependent personality is infantility. These people prefer not to leave childhood, allowing themselves all kinds of entertainment and never feeling responsible for themselves. They easily make any compromises with their conscience, and in case of danger easily shift the blame onto other people. Infantilism is a basic condition for all types of addiction. Very often, this phenomenon can be observed in pairs, where a woman cannot even take a step without her partner (it happens and vice versa, but is much less common). The second example will be adult children who are completely dependent on their parents, which sometimes goes beyond the permissible limits.
The most effective way to get rid of addiction in this case is the correct moderate upbringing of the child, when he is not pampered excessively and is not kept in “hedgehogs”. If you deal with an adult addict infant, you need to deprive him of guardianship without regret and help adapt to the serious world of responsible people.
Perfectionism
The constant desire to do everything in the best way and demand the same from loved ones often leads to addiction. A person is constantly dissatisfied with everything, there is no internal harmony in him. He drives himself and others to exhaustion, trying to do the impossible. When he realizes that he cannot achieve his goal, he breaks down into addictions, trying at least for a while to take a break from the constant race for the ideal.
In order to prevent negative consequences, it is necessary to raise children without undue rigor. Do not demand from the child the fulfillment of all his desires. He will get used to constantly justify the trust placed in him and cannot forgive himself if he has failed.
Manipulations
Addicted people can easily manipulate others. They adapt to the world around them, notice even the most insignificant little things and see their own benefits in everything. They are good psychologists (in their favor) and see the weaknesses of other people, which they then deftly use. Addicts beat pity, use flattery, pretend to be inept and helpless.
The prescription for treating such people is very simple: you should not allow them to manipulate themselves even on the most insignificant occasions. Parents are advised to educate their children in independence and not to allow excessive guardianship on their part.
Above, we named some character traits of addicted people. The list of negative qualities of addicts is actually very long, so there is no point in listing them endlessly. One only needs to understand that addiction is an insidious affliction, which in its negative strength is equal to death (and sometimes even worse), since it affects a person and everyone who is next to him. It is necessary to try never, not to depend on anyone and on anything, because freedom and independence are the strongest desire for any self-sufficient person.