Probably, everyone knows firsthand what provocation is, faced with this phenomenon. So how do you recognize what provokes you, learn to deal with this phenomenon?
What is provocation?
Translated from the Latin language, the word "provocation" means "challenge." That is, these are actions aimed at obtaining from the provoked any expected reaction. A provocation can have many motivations, but its distinguishing feature is always that it does not contain a direct instruction to perform the expected action.
Provocation in politics
Provocation is widely used in politics. When one of the parties cannot violate, for example, an international treaty, it is often done so that the opposite side does so.
A prime example of provocation is terrorism. Terrorists commit terrorist acts not in order to punish a specific person, but then in order to attract attention and, possibly, change the established regime in the country.
Provocation in a relationship
But the method of provocation is used not only in politics. In our daily lives, we are also very often confronted with this phenomenon. Provocateurs are found everywhere: in transport, and at work, and in public places, and even at home. Therefore, it is important to understand what provocation is in a relationship.
Firstly, often the provocateur tries to bring you to emotions, to make you show weaknesses - anger, fear, shame ... You can easily recognize the provocation: if you feel that communication with your interlocutor does not move in a positive and constructive way, and it causes you the same negative emotions over and over again, think about it. Perhaps you are just being provoked.
Try not to react violently. Stop. Inhale and exhale. Try to analyze the situation.
Think about why you are so annoyed by certain words and deeds? A provocateur can cling to you for the most painful - your fears, problems with self-esteem, unpleasant situations, etc. Remember, what is provocation. Do not let the provocateur pursue you and take responsibility for the situation into your own hands.