The family is both a place for the formation of personality, and close people, the most important of which there can be no one. Therefore, family relationships play a huge, primary role in the mental development and well-being of each member.
Psychologists conditionally divide families into prosperous and dysfunctional, constantly correcting themselves: each family has its own problems. To minimize problems, to change things in your home, you need basic basic knowledge about the psychology of the family and the desire to create a favorable environment in which everyone could develop along a certain nature path, without interference and serious frustrations, complexes, misconceptions about the world, about yourself and others.
To achieve these noble goals and in the name of yourself, learn to build relationships in the family. Whether you are the head of the family, the main mistress of the house or a child (even if you are already over 20), it will not hurt you to learn about the simple rules of communication within the family.
- Do not close your eyes to rudeness, put each other in place. And if this is not possible (there are socially dangerous cases, for example, in the case of an alcoholic husband), minimize communication with this family member to a minimum.
- Learn to negotiate. Speaking about the problem, we make it clear to the partner, child, and parent that we are ready to discuss solutions, come to a compromise. This shows respect for each other, without which a normal family relationship is impossible.
- Encourage mutual assistance, responsiveness, the desire to spend joint leisure in every possible way (you better know who loves what, what you can do for everyone - this information should be used). It is especially important to observe this rule in order to build relationships between children in the family. If you have several, put the emphasis on the fact that they are a brother and sister (brothers or sisters), that they are dearer and closer to them and will never have anyone. Repeat this constantly, children are very susceptible to the words of their parents. Over the years, you will see confirmation of this, your efforts and attention will not go in vain.
- How do you spend your leisure time, by the way, is very important. Separately? Well, but you should have something in common, both for spouses and for parents with children. A trip to the park, pizzeria, shops, walks - all these important little things will unite you like never before.
- Family traditions are also important . If there are none, it's time to come up with them. Traditions unite us, strengthen the union between husband and wife and communication with children (this measure is especially important and relevant for adolescents). A trip to grandparents, your own holiday, cooking your favorite meal together, decorating the Christmas tree - this can be anything. If only traditions were respected by all. Not respected, it's time to come up with others.
- Family relationships are mainly based on roles and responsibilities distributed between you. Roles in your family are already established. Dad is a getter or soul leader. Mom is a housewife or business woman. But in the case of duties, everything is more complicated. Everyone should work on comfort. Write down once, agree who is responsible for what, and you will deprive the family of the most common reason for quarrels.
- Maintain love: in a relationship with your spouse and children. She does not disappear anywhere, so that no one speaks about this. If the family has respect, understanding and fidelity, there will be love. So, your bonds do not break by accidental circumstances and even troubles. You are together and you are power. For this, it’s worth being attentive to each other! Never forget to take the time to talk with your child and partner, especially with parents (they also need us, just like we need them, no matter how much time has passed since our birth).
Relationships in the family require your continued participation, no matter what role you play in it. Do not take each other for granted and eternal. As soon as you allow this attitude to your loved ones, the family will begin to crumble. Think about what you can do for your family from this list.