Jealousy is the most dangerous feeling in a loving, marital relationship. No wonder many people are trying to find the answer to the question: how to get rid of jealousy? She oppresses not only the object of jealousy, but also the jealous. And not for nothing that the word "object" was inserted here. When we are jealous of our beloved, at this moment we treat them precisely as an object, as property, as a thing, not as a person.
Jealousy can manifest itself in many ways. It’s disgusting to someone that a loved one was close to someone else and then tries to touch you (“phew, how disgusting! Don’t touch me!”). Someone reacts very differently: this feeling manifests itself at a deeper level of awareness of the problem. We are not jealous in an intimate sense, but in terms of friendly relations ("how could you turn to anyone with a problem when you have me, soulmate!"). In both reactions, our attitude towards a loved one as an object is manifested. In the first, we try to punish him, as if he did something dirty, and we are above it, we do not approve of his act. In the second, we are trying to protect his freedom, to keep him on a leash next to him. We would be happy to stop, but do not know how.
No matter how jealousy is manifested, its action is destructive, dangerous for relationships. Here you should seriously and urgently think: how to get rid of jealousy!
In this matter, the approach to solving the problem will depend on the nature of your relationship with the partner: on their duration, on trust, on the openness of partners to each other.
How to get rid of jealousy if your relationship has just begun. Alas, if you managed to prove yourself in all its glory as the most unbridled jealous, the relationship will fall apart. One can only hope that the next time you somehow restrain yourself ... Although there can always be a person who will like your constant anger and suspicion, baseless accusations that have no end ... Do you really believe that? Stop! Concentrate your vibrant energy in a positive direction: take care of your life, of its success, of your beloved, instead of constantly concentrating on the behavior of another person. You will see, this technique will work exactly the opposite, than what you have done so far. They will reach for you; your soulmate will not have a desire to change.
If you have a long-term (more than 4-7 months), trusting relationship, but you still flush up with jealousy, your partner does not like it to put it mildly and is already tired of it. He is already glad to be something to make of what he is accused of, so that it would be inconsequential to attack him. In this situation, the fight against jealousy will begin when you are aware of its causes and share with your partner. If this is due to his success and your low self-esteem, you need to tell your partner that you are just afraid to lose him, because he is the most worthy of men (the most worthy of women). No matter what he (she) answers, it will become easier for you. And then, in love, no one is safe. It is foolish to wait for him (she) to promise to love you forever and not to go to another (another) and keep his word. No one can give such a word. Love comes and goes, leaving room for new love and pleasant memories, the pain of disappointment and the desire to do things differently next time. So our advice to you: enjoy your wonderful relationship, do not spoil them, do not push them to completion. Otherwise it really will happen.
In family therapy, women usually sound the alarm themselves from their own jealousy and come to the psychologist with the question: how to get rid of jealousy for her husband? This is just the hardest thing. After marriage is registered, everyday life eats so much that the husband’s value as a person becomes “invisible to the eye,” and his wife does not perceive it so sharply. The same applies, by the way, to husbands! As soon as you focus on his positive qualities, instead of following and suspecting all the time, it will become easier. Remember the folk wisdom: a stupid woman is watching a man, smart for herself. Only to a loving, happy and dear wife will the husband return with pleasure and jumping.
And the last general advice for everyone on how to get rid of jealousy, remember that your beloved person has the right to communicate with anyone, has the right to choose with whom to be, because he is a person and will never belong to you. If you fit him, he will stay with you. If not, it will leave, and it will be for the better, because you did not fit each other. Everything is very simple. Only our emotions complicate everything. Redirect them to the right direction.