Almost every one of us at least once in our life felt a sense of self-pity for ourselves and our fate. There are always enough reasons for this. Every time you just drop your hands from a hopeless situation, every time you give up, you just want to feel sorry for yourself. However, with all the seeming harmlessness, this feeling is one of the main enemies of man.
Self-pity and depression
Professional psychologists believe that such an emotional state can turn into a real addiction. On the one hand, this feeling helps to cope with stress a little, but on the other hand, it can not be solved with its help, and the cause of the stress only is driven deep inside. If this happens often enough, there are all conditions for the appearance of distress (bad, harmful stress), which is already very difficult to remove, so you have to turn to experts for psychological help.
Self-pity is somewhat reminiscent of a drug. Having once felt some relief (and sometimes even some kind of “sweetness”) from this feeling, a person in the future may be tempted to react in this way to all sorts of, even the smallest, troubles. As a result, an addiction is formed that drives a person into a real impasse: self-pity leads to depression, and this state and unresolved problems further strengthen bad emotions. The circle is closed. In addition, with depression, immunity drops dramatically, which means hello acute respiratory infections, colds and other ailments!
Feeling sorry and the role of the victim
A person in his life can occupy one of two positions: the role of the winner or the role of the victim. In the first case, he fully assumes responsibility for all the events in his life, and in the second - he blames everyone around him, fate and current circumstances for everything. Self-pity is just part of the victim's role. Penetrating deep into the subconscious, this feeling acts like a magnet, literally attracting all sorts of troubles. How then can one be happy? No way! Thought is material, and therefore it is necessary to decisively combat negative emotions and monitor the purity of one’s consciousness.
How to beat the feeling of pity
First, try to determine as precisely as possible what exactly causes such negative emotions. Often behind the desire to feel sorry for yourself is hiding anger and pain. They, in turn, stem from resentment and irritation at apparent injustice.
Often we forget that all people are different, everyone perceives the same situation in their own way. That for one will be a great injustice will turn out to be a mere trifle for the other. If you are offended by fate, then remember that there is a reason for everything, and in the end, everything goes well. Try to reflect on this at your leisure. Meditation and affirmations are very good. You can also recall the positive moments of your life, all the successes and achievements. Each of us has everything to achieve our goals, otherwise we would not become what we are now. And we deserve much more than just trying on the role of “victim” and waiting for someone to regret us. Life is amazing and wonderful, and a victory over one’s weaknesses will be an excellent occasion to feel like a real master of one’s destiny.