Some people have no place for reality. They see and hear only what they want. Dreamers can convince themselves even of their feelings and sensations. Since these people give out what they wish for reality, they deprive themselves of the opportunity to live their own lives, to find their own happiness.
Why does a person like to be in illusions?
Because it is easier to accept one’s imperfection. Many of us, deep down, are convinced that we are nothing. As a rule, girls do not like their appearance, boys - power, career, size of profit or genitalia.
Why injure yourself with the truth, if you can persuade your mind to take what is desired for reality? Well, if there are people who support in their own illusions. As a result, what you want to possess in real life is fixed in consciousness.
At first there are doubts, for example, that you are a genius, but over time, a person who prefers wishful thinking, thanks to those close to him who support him, becomes convinced of his significance.
Getting into the network of flattery, which is a trap for fans to give out invented as real, people become victims of unscrupulous citizens. The latter skillfully build their lives and careers on someone else's weaknesses. Cunning individuals specifically seek gullible bouncers and masterfully deceive those who want to be deceived.
Among people who wishful thinking, there are many quite sane, prone to analysis. Why do they often turn into real children, coming up with ridiculous excuses for themselves?
A man is designed so that he definitely needs to find an excuse for his failures at work, in his personal life, and so on. Thus, the protective mechanisms of the psyche are arranged. If this were not the case, then most likely we would say goodbye to life due to our own imperfection.
The saving lie comforts, does not allow to fall into depression. From this we even feel happy in some moments. But, unfortunately, the fog dissipates, and we see the realities.
Sweet lies that save
It seems to many that if they do not cease to wishful thinking, then life will turn into boredom. We are even taught to think positively, that is, to look at everything from a different angle, to see only the good. If you build illusions only in relation to yourself, then there is nothing to worry about - your inventions do not bother anyone, they do not bother anyone.
Things are worse when people under the illusions fall. And if he pretends to be a real person, endowed with power, then his environment is simply forced to reckon with his illusions, to adapt to them. Very often, entire nations fall into such situations, commanded by one who cannot face the truth.
All who are with the person who gives the wish for truly will suffer. If the head of the family builds illusions, then the spouse and children suffer. Agree that this is a double-edged sword. If you look at life without pink glasses, it becomes boring, gray. If you take into account the saving lie, then the world becomes brighter. True, only in our imagination.
Which is really true?
What to do? How to find a way out of the situation?
First, understand that truth is neither sweet nor bitter. Remember this once and for all! It contains equal amounts of both sweetness and bitterness. How to take it? Simply!
Everything in the world has two sides, like a coin or a bill. Or more if, for example, we are talking about a cube. Therefore, try to look at the world from all possible angles, and at the same time. Then you will realize that imperfection can be a virtue. Follow the rule "All for the better!".
Grow morally and gain self-confidence
The second rule is to stop being a child who needs to come up with fairy tales about life in order to protect himself. When we face the truth, we grow up, accept the world as it is, take responsibility for life, the mistakes that we made. In case of failure, there will be no one to blame for what is happening.
Third, get rid of self-doubt and fears. What should happen will happen anyway. And fear is very insidious - it attracts the bad, exactly what we are so afraid of begins to happen to us. This is how the law of attraction works.
The fear that appeared in early childhood is self-doubt. At that time you were weak, in need of protection and care. Self-doubt means non-acceptance of oneself, fear of mistakes and so on. The hardest thing to overcome is precisely children's fears. They force to give out for the real desired, deforming life. It is very important to recognize fear, see it in your own eyes and start working on yourself.
Conclusion
Allow yourself and life to be imperfect. Look at the world with wide eyes. Feel that it is beautiful in its imperfection. Soon you will realize that there is no need to wishful thinking, you need to learn to accept everything as it is.