An indifferent person or “do not care” is a character that perfectly complements the picture of the world today and even claims to be “positive”. Having set a goal, he is able to concentrate on it to such an extent that other areas of his life (including caring for the welfare of loved ones) will fade into the background.
This ability in modern society is called determination (some psychologists call it relative nonsense) and is considered a positive quality. An absolute “nonsense” from a relative is different in that it is indifferent not only to the needs of other people, but also to its own.
The ideal form of indifference is considered reasonable "do not care." The attractiveness of this form of indifference is that, no matter what impression this person leaves about himself, he will remain indifferent in any situation, “not noticing” negative events. But if he does notice something negative, he will not attach any importance to it.
What is indifference?
Sociologists call the indifference of a person’s conscious refusal to participate in changes concerning not only his own life, but also the life of society. The indifferent does not worry about others, is prone to inaction and is constantly in a state of apathy.
Indifference is common to many people and does not arise without reason. One indifferent person from childhood received everything he wanted, grew up selfish, used to think only of himself and he did not give a damn about the rest. Another, brought up in an atmosphere of mutual respect, but found himself in a situation where the good done to him answered evil, has lost faith in justice and deliberately closes his eyes to someone’s cruelty.
People of the second type, not wanting the unpleasant situation to happen again, are removed from what is happening and often pass by cruelty. But there is also a third type of people. “Everyone gets what they deserve. Interfering, I prevent them from correcting what their ancestors did or they themselves, in their past lives, ”is the train of their thoughts.
About the causes of indifference
One of the reasons for indifference may be a mental disorder - a condition in which a person is not able to show emotions. Compassion is a feeling inaccessible to his understanding. Such people are often called pragmatists, phlegmatic people, breadcrumbs, but offensive words cannot change the situation, especially if the cause of the mental disorder is serious physical trauma.
No less dangerous are teenage psychological and bodily injuries received due to love experiences. A young but indifferent person, even once having experienced strong mental (or bodily) pain, can forever lose faith in people.
The lack of affection and warmth experienced in childhood is also a good “building material”. According to statistics, most indifferent people were "disliked" in childhood.
"People, stay indifferent!" (psycho motto)
Psychiatry specialists often replace the word “indifference” with the medical terms “apathy” and “detachment”. Official medicine considers stoic calm characteristic of an indifferent person as a serious mental deviation.
Apathy is a psychological disorder that awaits absolutely everyone - both lucky and losers. It can occur in any person, regardless of their psychological and material viability. The main cause of apathy, and, consequently, indifference, some doctors call boredom. It is from boredom, according to a group of specialists, that even the happiest families who have the job of their dreams and bring up talented and obedient children are not immune.
Also, fatigue can become the cause of the disease - both emotional and physical. An indifferent person often suffers from attacks of
indifference (apathy), he is depressed, does not make acquaintances and does not make plans. His own life seems dull and useless to him.
A situation can turn a cheerful and sociable person into an indifferent and apathetic:
- when he is in tension for a long time;
- survived the death of loved ones or dismissal from work;
- when an indifferent person, adapting worse in society than others, is ashamed of his natural needs;
- suffers from misunderstanding from others;
- is under pressure from a person on whom it depends;
- when he takes hormonal drugs.
Psychologists advise to look for the causes of indifference in the patient’s inner world - where all his insults and desires “live”. Psychologists see indifference as a way to defend themselves from stress and negativity.
Many people with psychological disorders deliberately put on a “mask” of indifference in the hope of shutting themselves off from the hostile world that had so long rejected them.
Indifference through the eyes of a philosopher
Philosophers see indifference as a moral problem, based on the lost awareness of the significance of each person as a unique individual. Gradually turning into a tool to achieve their own goals, considering each other as a commodity, people themselves become things.