People have been thinking about who these phlegmatic introverts are, what extroverts are, that is, categories of individuals separated by one or another attribute, for quite some time. From the point of view of specialists, temperament is a natural and stable property of a person that determines the dynamics of his mental activity in various situations. According to physiological characteristics, they distinguish four basic behavioral types of people. The inhabitants are accustomed to dividing everyone around them into groups, starting from other features. What kind of personality traits are hidden behind the concept of psychologists? Let's try to consider in more detail.
Phlegmatic: who is it?
When a person says that he is an introvert phlegmatic, this often causes interest from others. Let us turn to modern typologies to understand how to correctly decipher these words. For example, phlegmatic people call rather slow individuals who are almost unperturbed in almost any situation. They tend to remain silent rather than say too much. Such persons prefer to hide emotions from others. The response rate of such a person to many, especially choleric people, seems unreasonably slow, so phlegmatic people are called lethargic, tired. From the outside it seems that they are not burning with desire and are not even going to fulfill someone’s requests, even if it was an order from the authorities. It seems to others that such a person is not subject to fear, does not worry, does not rejoice, and generally does not experience emotions. This judgment is erroneous. Psychologists assure that phlegmatic people have violent emotions, but such people experience them deep inside, without showing them through facial expressions, behavioral reactions.
A phlegmatic introvert is such an unshakable person who has an amazing calm. It is very difficult to get such a person out of himself, and only an extreme situation can provoke him to manifest aggression. Such a subject makes all decisions in a balanced manner, does not obey his feelings, and finally acts by considering all the options and consequences. He will never say that he makes decisions intuitively, because he is convinced that intuition is the last thing you can trust. Phlegmatic is usually serious, focused on business, responsible. If he takes on the task, he performs it without any particular difficulties.
Phlegmatic introverts tend to avoid conflicting conversations, quarrels. The most difficult thing is for them to leave the comfort zone. A person gets used to the usual course of everyday life, is happy with it, so she perceives the changes as something negative. Change for a typical phlegmatic is a great test.
Is it possible to identify?
Usually people easily notice phlegmatic people in their social circle. The main feature of such a person is the tendency to show emotions as restrained as possible. This person does not cry and does not seem to be upset at all. No more often can one see obvious manifestations of joy. The temperament is such that the perseverance of a person is equally great both mental and emotional. The biggest problem in the life of such a person is a too rapid change in the situation, the transience of what is happening.
If you watch him from the side, you can see that he needs time to assess the changes around. If the changes are very dramatic, the person is lost. After analyzing the situation, he develops a plan and methodically achieves his own goal. A balanced and calm person is hardworking, which often greatly surprises less stable people around. He for a long time without much stress assimilates large information blocks, analyzing data. This is an assiduous person who works effectively, succeeds primarily in areas requiring the applicant to collect, own, use data.
About emotions and not only
Modern psychologists know a lot about extra-, introverts, melancholic, phlegmatic and other types of personality. As observations have shown, the latter are people who are faithful enough and can support loved ones on time. Reasonable, calm by nature, they allow the sufferer to see what is happening from a different angle, as well as ponder and offer a rational way out. Personal experiences for a phlegmatic person are a strictly individual and closed zone. They rarely share their emotions with others, do not show what is happening in the soul. More often, such persons are realists who do not regard dreams as something positive. Illusions are alien to them, their detailed thoughtful plans take their place.
If you compare the introvert-melancholic and the introvert-phlegmatic, you will notice that the second is usually easier to realize yourself in the career field. Phlegmatic people grow quite quickly inside the company. This is due to perseverance, a tendency to work with maximum return, peace of mind. Supervisory staff is ready to trust such an employee, since each of his decisions is thought out in as much detail as possible, nothing is done because of the emotional context. At the same time, not every phlegmatic person successfully achieves the post of boss, since this type is slow, closed.
About career and communication
Like many extroverts, melancholic, phlegmatic introverts often realize themselves in the creative sphere. It is noted that among such people there are especially many writers and artists. They are able to see the world from a unique angle, from an amazing point inaccessible to most. Many psychologists believe that the peculiarity of phlegmatic people is the ability to see their environment especially beautiful, as well as the ability to show it in bright colors to other people.
For some, the problem of working and communicating with others becomes unexpressed emotionality. From the outside, it is almost impossible to understand what a person is experiencing, what he is thinking about. The face is usually as calm as possible, emotions cannot be read on it. For impulsive subjects, especially choleric ones, this sometimes becomes unbearable, pissing. Visual calm is due to the person’s tendency to analyze what is happening and to react slowly. But if the phlegmatic person “reaches the edge”, he will be very upset and even show it, it will be extremely difficult to calm him down.
Work and life
When choosing a workplace, psychologists advise taking into account where it is easier and better to realize yourself as an introvert, extrovert, melancholic and phlegmatic person, and already start from this, applying for different vacancies. For phlegmatic people, work is almost always the way to success, a good career. Such a person more effectively than many achieves his goals. He is zealous, slows down, able-bodied, and therefore turns into an excellent performer.
However, many of these people suffer from low self-esteem, and it is precisely because of self-doubt that they do not achieve everything that they could. Often, such people refuse to attend events that could be useful for a career, avoid speaking, and minimize interaction with strangers. They categorically do not fit places that often force them to go on business trips, as this obliges them to leave their home and temporarily move to a completely different place.
Comparisons of qualities inherent in extroverts, introverts, choleric, sanguine, phlegmatic, melancholic. It was revealed that phlegmatic persons are those who perform routine tasks better than others. Such a person is excellent as a secretary, he will probably have to go to the court of accountants, and he will prove to be a successful scientist. Such a warehouse of personality is appropriate for a librarian, suitable for work in the archive. Phlegmatic people are also good at other similar positions, workplaces, forcing them to do a large amount of tasks similar to each other every day. At the same time, there is no doubt: the employee will always adequately evaluate his capabilities, will not take up an impossible task for himself, and he will complete everything taken. Psychologists advise phlegmatic women to avoid business trips and social work whenever possible. Men tolerate such work a little better, even in the case of a phlegmatic nature.
About family
Whatever the person, be it extra-, introvert, choleric, sanguine, phlegmatic, melancholic, the person still wants to be with someone who is close in spirit, with someone who will help to defeat loneliness. Phlegmatic personalities are secretive, closed, so they are hard to make friends, slowly converge with new friends. Any contacts are difficult for them. If friendship does develop, such a person will be sincere, faithful all his life. Phlegmatic is perhaps the most reliable friend.
He is no worse as a family man. A person is not inclined to meet new people, most of her friends are people whom they managed to meet in childhood. It is easier to trust such a person. Phlegmatic people almost never meet new people and hardly converge with them if they happen to get a new contact. Often they find a life partner among old acquaintances. If it comes to the conclusion of a formal union in a relationship, the phlegmatic becomes even slower than usual, carefully weighing the pros and cons.
During the study, when comparing different types of temperament (introverts, extroverts, melancholic, phlegmatic, sanguine), it was found that it is the inhibition inherent in the phlegmatic type of personality that is the main success factor that allows a person to exclude an incorrect decision. Spouse - the one with whom such a subject connects his entire future life. The family for such a person is the basis, the support, and the house is a fortress. Accordingly, only a well-known person with whom the person has long been familiar with can be considered as a second half. It can be those with whom he studied together at school or university, relatives of best friends. Most phlegmatic people marry in middle age, not earlier. Having come to such a decision and creating a family, a person will not arrange high-profile quarrels and show his dissatisfaction with tantrums. If the chosen one offends something, the phlegmatic will simply shut himself in and stop communication with her spouse for a while.
Childhood
As can be learned from the descriptions, phlegmatic people, introverts, as well as representatives of other types of personality, people do not suddenly and not suddenly. To a certain extent, they are influenced by various factors in their development. If already in childhood a child shows excessively balanced and calm character traits, then he is a phlegmatic person. When a child is calm, shy, closed, this does not mean that he urgently needs to be re-educated by all means. It makes sense to accept the child as he is. Character is that which is given from nature, and it will not work to change it. Inept and even aggressive attempts will not lead to anything good.
Parents may suggest that a stable phlegmatic-introvert is growing if the person seeks order and is rather slow. Such a baby is capable of work from an early age, shows himself energetic, but hardly perceives the new. It’s not easy for him to get used to the changes. The task of parents is to develop mobility, quickness of their child with praise. It is necessary to temper the child, to accustom him to the sport, not to let him sleep excessively, not to leave alone. The task of the older generation is to engage the child in games, often bring other children to visit, and encourage the development of creativity. Inactivity, lethargy - these are the features that are most harmful at an early stage of development.
Introverts: what kind of people?
Very often, both women and men phlegmatic are introverts. These two qualities of personality are in perfect harmony with each other. Opinions differ on who to attribute to this type of temperament. If there are two main options for understanding - one is proposed by Eisenck, the other is formulated by Jung. Extroverts in the understanding of the majority are persons oriented more toward the external, while introverts are focused on the internal. As a result, one can designate the last one for whom reasoning, fantasy are more important than events that actually happen in the world around. For an introvert, his own state is primary, and only then what happens around him. The external is understood through the prism of the internal. As noted by Laney, extroverts prefer to experience as much as possible, while introverts are people who want to know the maximum about what they are experiencing.
Of the characteristics of introverts and phlegmatics presented by psychologists, the former are not prone to spontaneous communication. They have a goal that is often hidden from others. Communicating with such a person, another person feels tension, even if he likes the interlocutor and seems open. An introvert is one who for a long time without special problems does without society. He maintains personal boundaries, often quick-tempered, touchy. If the interlocutor does something wrong, the introvert quickly increases the distance.
It is common for such a person to ponder every step, for a long time to experience a negative experience, returning to the situation that has injured him, over and over again. Introverts are usually characterized by a developed imagination, rich imagination. These are observant people, inclined to analyze information, patient and controlling their emotionality, purposeful and focused on their own tasks.
Life and features
When a representative of the fair sex, while communicating with others, creates an irresistible trait around herself, the so-called distance, then you are a phlegmatic woman. Such a person is usually closed and feels good in such conditions. Meanwhile, many are ashamed of their affiliation with introverts, tend to become extroverts, have difficulty explaining their position, have difficulty choosing words that are suitable for the situation. According to some psychologists, someone who is not an introvert himself will never understand such a person.
As can be learned from the characteristics describing different men and women, a phlegmatic introvert is the most stable type among all his kind. Such a person is strong, not too mobile. Visually, it cannot be distinguished from representatives of other types of temperament. This is a moderately sociable, polite person who can laugh on time, if necessary - start a conversation. Such a person is often attracted by subtle humor and the ability to promptly say the appropriate observation or conclusion.
What can be said about the representatives of the stronger sex, who are phlegmatic introverts. The characteristics of men include great endurance, fortitude and excessive silence in stressful situations. When a stable introvert is in difficult circumstances, he goes into himself, trying to cope with problems on his own. The easiest way for a person to deal with stress is in a state of complete rest, but for relatives it is often difficult to leave it - a difficult test.
Day after day: we all grow up
Sometimes it happens that psychologists are forced to work with someone who is infantile. Phlegmatic introverts (men and women) are not infantile too often, which is due to the characteristics of their personality, however, and this occurs. This is largely due to the peculiarities of upbringing and growing up. The most difficult thing is the formation of the child, if both parents are extroverts, and by nature children are introverts. Many seek to remake the children for themselves and their criteria, and it seems as if any difference is an imperfection that needs to be fixed.
Improperly educated introverts often receive severe psychological trauma, with which they are then forced to exist all their lives. They try to rebuild, pretend to be extroverts, feel like outcasts and even freaks. In fact, such a subject is a completely normal person, a person who can be successful in relationships, personal life, in the chosen profession. Phlegmatic introverts are especially often very successful. But this is only possible if a person accepts himself and his characteristics and builds his life in accordance with them. For him to accept himself, his parents must approve him. An attempt to break a child will not work, instead it is necessary to develop those qualities and traits that are naturally weaker in introverts than in extroverts.
Personal life
According to some, the ideal family is where the spouse is an extrovert and the wife is an introvert. The husband would be strong, authoritarian, while the woman would be soft and prone to obey. Conflicts, as some people think, in this case would not exist in principle. However, whether male or female, an introvert is always a faithful life partner for the one whom he has chosen as his partner. Equally, such a person gets along in marriage with an extrovert, and in union with another introvert.
About career
For phlegmatic introverts, work is not a problem if it matches the character traits. Such people can work hard, long, productively, especially when their personal boundaries are not violated by other people. The main task is to choose the right position. Others believe that it is difficult to work with introverts, since such people are prone to perfectionism. Many introverts are workaholics who expect similar behavior from others. Having occupied a managerial position, they are strict and picky. Introvert is not easy in a team, mainly such people choose a small team if they cannot completely get rid of the collective format. In a small group, he feels relatively confident, and this affects the results of his activities.
Any introvert is a responsible employee. He is ready to monitor in detail the processes entrusted to him at all stages of execution. Especially deep introverts prefer to work at home. Unstable personalities perfectly fit the creative direction. Such people are maximally involved in the chosen business, they fulfill their responsibilities responsibly, therefore they are highly valued and show outstanding results.
About posts
It is difficult for many introverts to accept the need to work in the office on a clear schedule. They should consider working away from bosses and colleagues. A good option is freelance. Such a person for himself is both the manager and the executor. Autonomy of work is an exceptional value precisely for the introvert. True, it is not easy to promote yourself in order to interest the customer, and it is this stage that can cause problems. If everything works out, in the future the freelancer will be able to set up her schedule so as not to experience problems due to contacts with other people.
Another good option is a software developer. Such a profession is highly paid, minimizing contacts with other people. Work in the creation of software is appropriate in the case when a person is struggling to adapt in a large team. The practice of formulating conditional TK with the subsequent provision of maximum freedom to the performer to translate what is desired from the project into reality is not uncommon.