Happiness seems elusive - and for the sake of it a person is capable of much. But more often people seek explanations for the fact that they are unhappy. More often, those responsible for their misfortune. The leaders on this sad list are God (the fate of atheists) and the most dear people. I want to be happy, but how to become one?
Buttons of natural happiness do not exist
Immediately, euphoria is not a condition that can be maintained for longer than several hours. The only way to such “happiness” is the chemical one, only drugs give the effect of pleasure on the principle “clicked the button - got the result”, anytime, anywhere. In reality, far from everything depends on a person, therefore, to be happy is possible only with the right adaptation to life situations.
The joy of life is feminine
If a woman comes to a psychotherapist and says: “I want to be happy,” this will mean that the doctor has a lot of work to do. Although it’s easier for a doctor to work with her than with a man, because on average, society does not give a woman a commitment to the obligatory “leadership” for happiness. But at the same time, society forces a woman to suppress natural features more than a man. Therefore, a woman will learn to be a happy person only if she begins to think independently and resist social expectations: to be submissive, silly, economic.
There is never much money
Happiness is possible only with a good financial situation. Of course, money alone will not make you happy. But onm give a sense of security, on which a sense of happiness can be based. To be satisfied, it is not necessary to be a dollar millionaire - it is enough to earn twice as much as the people around you. Although if you change the environment, you will have to reach new heights.
Harmony of values
What components are necessary for human happiness besides money? It is imperative to adhere to a serious system of values, traditional (religious) or non-traditional (secular ethics). Deep and lasting happiness comes only to those living in accordance with moral principles.
Altruism makes us happier, and this is true even in the animal world. Therefore, living “for oneself” is often very boring and sad. People need a connection with other people and their support. In the framework of traditional religions, happiness is easier to achieve, because church authorities have been accumulating knowledge of the human psyche for at least several centuries (in traditional Christianity - millennia), and this experience is easier to adopt than to build your own path to happiness.
Difficulties ordered?
You can be happy only as a result of a collision with the difficulties of the world and their successful overcoming. The man is so arranged that the greatest pleasure is achieved on the border with discomfort. Most often, after discomfort is successfully eliminated by the forces of the person himself. Therefore, overcoming difficulties is a prerequisite for happiness. So if you want to see your child happy, teach him to fight and win from childhood.
Happiness as a guiding light leads us to new achievements through the throes of creativity. Do not look for easy ways - and it will knock on your door. Human happiness.