In the life of everyone there were different types of people in terms of behavior, communication, and worldview. As they say, people are all different. There are funny, “easy” people to talk to, and there are persuasive people. This is a category whose communication and presence is extremely difficult to get rid of, but possible. So, we will consider options for how to get rid of an obsessive person. How do such people behave?
How do obsessive people show themselves?
These “sticks” are really very easy to identify. Obsessive people are extremely fond of attracting all the attention of the audience, society to themselves. And most often they do this with the help of getting into a conversation, increasing intonation during a conversation, translating the topic of the conversation to their person. If we are not talking about a conversation with an obsessive person, but about his presence in your life, then everything is started! Obsessive people like to come when they were not called, and the most interesting thing is that it is very difficult to get them out the door, because they absolutely do not understand the hints, and even if you tell them directly that you are tired of their company, they can calmly stay further away .
As for the obsession of a young man or girlfriend, their behavior includes excessively frequent calls, long meaningless conversations, unexpected visits, which drag on until late, obsession in tips and tastes, excessive presence in personal space.
A special approach needs to be found to this type of person in order to clearly communicate to him about his excessive presence and obsessive behavior, since intrusive people very poorly understand hints.
How to tactfully hint a person about his obsession?
To begin with, you need to subtly hint in the conversation that the interlocutor crosses certain borders and becomes obsessive in his interests and outlooks on the world. This can be done this way:
- You can smoothly change the topic of conversation and do it every time as soon as the intrusive interlocutor begins to show himself.
- To draw attention to something interesting that is in sight, and try to talk about it or switch the conversation to a general topic where there is no way to express a personal opinion or advise.
If during a conversation verbally it is not possible to hint at the companion of the interlocutor, then you can take measures to tactfully make it clear that the person is annoying.
Just do not behave like a boor and say that a person is tired or tired of his long presence.
You can iterate over such methods first:
- Immediately indicate the time of his or his departure (for example, “at 9 I have a sleep regimen, because I get up very early”, or “I have a meeting at 9, so we will leave an hour before her so that I can get ready” ) Some time before leaving, you need to be reminded that you will soon have to leave. You can resort to tricks with a mobile phone call and say that you urgently need to leave.
- There should always be a supply of polite excuses in case you need to “supposedly” suddenly leave for business.
- You can resort to tricks when the other person comes up and with light fun under the pretext that help is urgently needed or an appointment is made, takes the obsessive person out of the company. True, this does not always work.
- If the person doesn’t get a hint about his obsession, tell him politely and apologize ("I'm sorry, but I need to leave, we’ve blabbed, but it's time ...").
How to tactfully hint to a young man that he is obsessive?
Some young people in relationships go too far with their frequent presence in the personal space of a partner. And such a moment, too, should not be missed or endured, because this can later affect the relationship and lead to their destruction.
The party, which is obstructed by the obsession of the second half at some points (violation of personal space, frequent calls, SMS and control, imposing one’s own tastes and behavior), needs to have a conversation from afar about tastes and desires in a calm atmosphere and reduce it to the point that everyone should have their own personal space, trust and a little free time, that excessive presence and control interfere and alarm.
If the second half did not draw the necessary conclusions from this conversation, then you can start a similar re-conversation and beat everything so that the obsessive young man or girl takes the place of the one who is hampered by this obsession (exchange roles). In any case, calm conversations indicating that obsession interferes with showing how exactly they will help to fix something in the behavior of an annoying person.
How to tactfully get rid of an obsessive girlfriend?
If there is an obsessive girlfriend in the circle of friends , then the situation is not simple. Usually such girls hardly understand hints of their obsession and it is difficult to convey this to them. But there are still effective methods!
- Switch attention to another person who may be interested in an obsessive girlfriend.
- To start introducing herself as intrusively as she is, at the same time choosing exactly those moments when she is absolutely uncomfortable and there is no time to receive you or to stand and chat. After several times of such behavior, she will avoid your society, thereby relieving herself of her obsession, without even knowing it.
- In conversations where an obsessive girlfriend is trying too hard to get into her personal life with her questions and advice, you need to ignore a couple of times or evade an answer or question. Taking the form of a “deaf-numb little fool”, you can make it clear that you do not want to answer questions or tell such personal things.
- If the hints are not understood, start asking and advising as actively as she does. Calling and writing and constantly asking about such moments that she would not want to talk about (but for this you need to watch a little and study her to identify topics that are not very pleasant for her).
- It’s calm and straightforward to say that a girlfriend is too much into her personal life (but this is an extreme case when a person’s obsessive behavior goes beyond all patience, as it can lead to resentment and quarrel).
How to get rid of very intrusive people
There are such "instances." In the case when there are very intrusive people in society and their behavior affects health and the nervous system, you need to get rid of them sharply and completely. Just stop all communication with them, avoid their company. After all, too intrusive people understand neither hints, nor direct words, only a sharp action will reach them, namely the termination of relations.
How to gently break off a relationship with an obsessive person?
Before you stop communicating with an obsessive friend, of course, you can try to convey to him why, what exactly and how has affected the gap in communication. Let an obsessive friend feel at least a little in your place. But, most likely, it will be a waste of time.
Be sure to advise him a new friend who at least a little patience for communication with an obsessive person.
What to do if it is mildly impossible to break off relations with a very obsessive person?
If the above methods were not understood by a person, then you need to start ignoring him, not answering phone calls and SMS, not opening the door to the house or directly saying that you are tired, tired or in a hurry.
You can get rid of too intrusive a person more quickly, only by saying sharply directly that his communication is tiring and he is being imposed. They don’t understand another approach, because they are too intrusive, so they need to be removed from their society.
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How to get rid of obsessive people?
- If a person is not very obsessive, this can be done with a hint in a conversation about his behavior.
- If a person doesn’t understand the hint, start behaving like he does (call and come without an invitation and stay away for a long time, tiring your conversation, even if the person you are talking to cannot and does not want to enter the conversation). As the saying goes, wedge wedge!
- With a very obsessive person, all of the above methods are powerless, so you need to get rid of such people abruptly and completely (do not pick up the phone, do not open the doors or directly say that his society is tiring).
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More effective options will be where you, with an annoying obsessive friend, switch places and harass him the same way he does you. Then the obsessive person takes the place of the one he gets, and gradually begins to understand that his behavior is obsessive.
Before you start sharply getting rid of the society of such a person, you first need to study him a bit so as not to offend him very much, but at the same time make it clear that he is tired and has already taken you to extreme measures!
But, unfortunately, there are obsessive people who do not understand this. Such people need to say the "truth-womb" right in the eye. But first make sure that it does not harm your or his health! After all, it may be that an obsessive person who was told directly about his excessive importunity becomes insulted, and since he is mentally weak, he begins to harm himself or, conversely, get angry and annoy the offender even more!
Well, and even better, as soon as it becomes clear that a person is annoying, immediately distance him from his person, even in the early stages of communication!