What is communication deficit in psychology? This is, first of all, its drawback, it does not matter in terms of qualitative or quantitative indicators, which is caused by the personality characteristics of a person, persistent difficulties in the process of establishing and maintaining relationships with other people. This also includes reluctance or inability to show emotions, estrangement, excessive shyness and lack of sociability, inability to correctly emerge from critical situations. Communication deficiency cannot occur just like that, usually it has several reasons.
Why may there be a lack of communication?
If there is a lack of communication in adults, what should I do? Identifying a problem, especially from the outside, is not so simple. Usually they are accompanied by internal stress, some personal problems. For example, it can be aggression, the result of psychological trauma, stress and suffering, low or, conversely, excessively high self-esteem. All these problems and many others cause a lack of communication and attention. A banal inability to build dialogue and relationships with people can also become a problem. Often, these problems can lie in the depths of childhood, as well as be the result of improper upbringing. In the modern world, solving such a problem has become even more difficult. Now, a personās attention can be completely focused on computer technology, where people have the opportunity to live their lives not in the real, but in the virtual world. Often there are situations when a person in social networks creates an image of who he would like to be, but in the real world he encounters difficulties. The reason for the lack of communication can be a psychological trauma after betrayal or deception. A person simply ceases to trust others, breaks all contacts and locks himself at home. Also, the lack of communication can be specific character traits that can be unpleasant for other people. This is envy, deceit, selfishness and so on. From here there are constant quarrels, inability to seek compromises. Here difficulties arise in establishing contacts, awkwardness, fear, negativity to others, etc., appear - these are the consequences of a lack of communication.
Socialization
From early childhood, the socialization of a person affects the level of ability to communicate with other people. From birth, the child plunges into society and learn to adapt in society. The process of socialization begins with communication with parents, grandparents, then uncles and aunts, peers, other adults, a kindergarten, school, university and so on are added. Each period of life is a stage of socialization, and the lack of communication with children adversely affects the further development of the child. If for some reason the child does not go to kindergarten, he must be in the company of other children, and parents should not avoid this. Only strangers help the child adapt in the real world, and not in the one that his parents create. The lack of communication with adults in children just begins because of the parents, who in every possible way protect their child from outside contacts. Learning to build healthy relationships is possible only by practicing. We form our circle of communication from those people who, as it seems to us, fit into our world. We hang labels right and left, not thinking at all that each person can be worthy of our attention and it does not matter what he looks like and what he does.
What prevents us from avoiding communication deficits?
Each person at some point in his life came across some common misconceptions about people. If you try to step over your principles, you can qualitatively diversify your life with interesting communication.
Appearance
Each person at least once in his life said the phrase: āappearance is not the main thingā, and friends thoughtfully nodded and agreed in response. Whatever one says, the first impression of a person is always based on the appearance, it is important not to get stuck on this and recognize the person further. Often you can meet a person perfectly dressed, but with a void inside, and vice versa. A tastelessly dressed or untidy person may equally well turn out to be a local alcoholic or a famous musician who simply does not care what he is wearing and how. Thousands of options, and you will never know the truth if you pass by.
Weird people
We are all not without cockroaches in our heads. What may seem familiar and normal to some may be completely unacceptable to others. We all grew up in different conditions, talked with different people, learned our principles and rules of life. Why not learn to break down stereotypes and stop counting everyone in a row whose opinions do not coincide with your crazy freaks? In any case, in the modern world the concept of ānormalā is very vague. Many great people had their own cockroaches in their heads and troubles, but this does not prevent us from considering them great? Did you know that Churchill changed bed sheets every night before going to bed? Einstein refused to wear socks, and Beethoven did not recognize shaving, believing that this brings him inspiration. Steve Jobs also liked to walk barefoot, and in general everyone around him considered him strange and abnormal. What happened? You can continue indefinitely, but the fact remains: oddities do not say anything.
Bad habits
We often a priori treat bad people with bad habits. Smokers for most people are uncouth lumps, and drinkers at parties are sound alcoholics. But does the fact that a person is addicted to a cigarette means that he is bad or stupid? For example, the famous writer Edgar Alan Poe was a severe alcoholic who even died from alcohol, but he wrote books that almost every inhabitant of the planet knows about. Hemingway could not imagine his day without whiskey or wine, but that does not mean that you would refuse to talk to him if this were possible? It makes no sense to list all the actors, musicians, politicians, behind whom is hidden the sin associated with drug use. But society recognizes them as normal!
Try to see the world like children
Kids are always honest and sincere in their actions and words, they do not look at their social status, appearance and so on. Try and you get rid of the habit of hanging labels, driving people into the frame, despite his manner of speech or some strange things. Why immerse yourself in a state of scarcity due to imposed stereotypes?
What are the types of communication deficits
The fact remains: each person needs the simplest human communication, and his lack entails the emergence of various forms of mental disorders. In psychology, there are five known types of deficits in communication, which E. Berne called "hunger."
The first type is hunger for stimulation
This type is characterized by a complete lack of communication in human life. Psychologists have found that after a couple of days the personās consciousness begins to change in a negative direction. Especially deplorable is the complete lack of communication for children. All this affects the growing body and the baby, when he grows up, it will be difficult to fit into a society of "normal".
The second type is hunger for recognition.
This category is characterized by what a person experiences when he gets into an unusual environment for him. Even in a crowd of people, a person can feel complete loneliness and still feel the need for communication. This condition is especially familiar to a person when he is alone in an unfamiliar country. Itās not far from here to depression.
The third type - hunger to meet the needs for quality communication
Here we are not talking about a complete lack of communication, here we have in mind the quality of this communication. For example, if a person contacts people only at work, limiting himself to formal communication. This kind of deficit is especially characteristic of those who have a rich inner world, a subtle spiritual nature, but are not able to express all this. First of all, these are creative people who find it difficult to accept that life goes on at such a primitive level.
The fourth view - hunger for events
If a person is surrounded by interesting people, and he is constantly in the process of communication, this does not mean at all that he will not feel the need for anything. Such people do not have enough other people, they need something to happen constantly in life. Often this is negative in color, as the need is met by various rumors and gossip.
Fifth view - hunger for recognition
All people, to one degree or another, crave fame and recognition. People strive to achieve high results in their professional field and they do this not only for their own peace of mind, but also in order to receive recognition from other people. Negative hunger of recognition can affect those people who once had a crowd of fans, but who in the future have lost their former glory.
People who have a lack of communication, often themselves do not realize what is the reason for their constant discontent, chronic depression and depression. The need for any type of deficiency is experienced by each of us at a certain period in our lives.
Effects
The consequences of a lack of communication can be very different. This can pass for a person unnoticed and affect only his mood. In more severe cases, it can end in depression or psychosis. For children, the lack of communication can turn into problems in the future, it will be difficult for them to contact with people, the child can grow up closed and unsociable.