Some people consider themselves completely different from others, special and unique. Someone, on the contrary, does not see any differences from the rest and identifies himself with the “gray mass”. Is every person unique? What makes a person special?
What is personality?
In psychology, the term "personality" is defined as a combination of character properties and other characteristics that distinguish one person from another. It manifests itself in the difference in people's temperaments, appearance, behavior, clothing style, interests and hobbies, desires, needs, physical and mental capabilities.
Each person is special not only due to the presence or absence of one of the listed qualities, but also due to the various options for combining them. So, for example, often people have nothing similar between themselves, except temperament, and two people with completely different interests can have the same character.
Is every person special?
Often you can hear the phrase that all men, women, and indeed all people are the same. How true is this statement? Some people think that it’s possible to consider a person special only in those cases when he has achieved some incredible successes, reached unprecedented heights or has phenomenal abilities. From this point of view, “ordinary” people should not differ from each other, but there are only a few outstanding personalities in the world.
In fact, each person is special in his own way. Even very similar people will not be completely the same. Their perception of reality, attitude to certain things, dreams and desires are always different. If a person does not seek to openly manifest his individuality, this does not mean that it does not exist at all. The inner world of each of us is so unique and inimitable that among the several billion inhabitants of the planet it is impossible to find two identical people.
What makes you special?
As you know, a person becomes a person only in the process of education and the influence of society. At birth, the child has an individuality only in terms of appearance, physical and biochemical properties of the body. In the process of development, the character and temperament of a person is formed. At the same time, the boundaries of personality expand. A person becomes more and more dissimilar to the others, acquires features characteristic only to him.
Character and temperament are not everything that makes you a special person. Adults, as a rule, have formed social and moral values, take a certain social position, express their opinion on certain issues. The socio-psychological properties of personality represent the highest level of manifestation of individuality. Thus, absolutely all qualities inherent in him are made special by a person, starting from his appearance and ending with his opinion on each specific problem.
Does a person's appearance make it special?
When a child is born into the world, his character, life principles and views are not yet formed. The only thing that distinguishes him from other people at this moment is external data. Even just born babies are completely different from each other.
In adulthood, appearance is also what makes you special. People vary in eye color, hair length, hairstyle, and figure. Getting acquainted with a person, we first of all look at his appearance and evaluate it. The style of clothing and the manner of behavior in society complement our image and bring our own personality to it. Even very similar people will never be exactly the same.
The problem of personality in twins
If it is not so difficult for ordinary people to realize their individuality, then children born in conjunction with a brother or sister will really encounter the problem of understanding their own characteristics. From early childhood they are constantly confused, dressed alike, many parents also make an irreparable mistake, perceiving their children as a whole.
Growing up, twins often cannot imagine their life without a brother or sister. At the same time, it is difficult for them to single out precisely their positive and negative qualities, to figure out whether they really are somewhat different from their twin. If one of the couple achieves great success, the second becomes depressed, considers himself a failure, does not realize that he can achieve something in a completely different field.
To prevent such a situation, parents of twins should emphasize the differences between them from childhood. Well, if everyone has their own room. When the children grow up, there is no need to prevent them from wanting to dress differently or to do different hairstyles. In some situations, twins need to be divided, for example, sending them to study in different classes, or at least putting them at different desks. It is necessary for everyone to learn to exist in the world independently, be able to find friends and become aware of themselves as a separate person.
Fear of being special
It seems to some that a special person, trying to express all his qualities and completely unlike others, will surely make a lot of problems for himself. For example, in a work team where nothing has changed over the years, a creative beginner who wants to show his creative abilities and embody original ideas is unlikely to be approved. People tend to perceive negatively those who are not like the others, who violate their usual way of life.
For this reason, many people extinguish their individuality, try to merge with the bulk of people and not “bulge out”. As a rule, when a person cannot prove himself, he feels depressed and dissatisfied with life. Perhaps you should not pretend to be who you are not? Change your work, your social circle. Elsewhere, your ideas can be appreciated, and you do not have to hide that you are a special person.
Is striving to stand out from the crowd what makes you a special person?
Many people do not want to be like the rest. In every possible way they try to emphasize their individuality. To do this, some people put on ridiculous clothes, make tattoos, piercings, apply makeup on their faces, and behave strangely in public places. Very often, this manifestation of personality causes bewilderment and aggression on the part of other people.
Is an unusual look really what makes you a special person? Everyone gives an answer to this question for himself. Someone believes that in this way only those who express themselves cannot express their individuality, but for some it is an opportunity to present themselves and prove that they are not like others.
How to show your personality in everyday life
People who don’t dress defiantly do not attract general attention with their appearance, however, they also want to feel special. How can one prove oneself in everyday life?
In fact, each person is unique in something. In order to seem special to others, it is not necessary to do shocking things. It is enough just to be yourself, not to hide and not hide your distinctive features. What makes you a special person will certainly be noticed by others.