The world is multidimensional. The human person is also not unambiguous and not one-sided. But the fact that there are various motivations, thoughts, motives, desires in us is not all the complexity. Often a person experiences opposite feelings at the same time. Ambivalent - this word just means "dual", "bidirectional". How can this be understood and explained?
Various incentives and needs are constantly fighting in us. For example, the desire to relax and play on the computer may conflict with the girl’s request to go to the cinema with her. The ambivalent motive is one in relation to which we do not have one single feeling. Often, in relation to loved ones and loved ones, we experience the whole gamut of experiences. For example, many of us are familiar with the state of "I love and hate." Why it happens? Because in us egoistic feelings and altruism compete, the desire to be an independent personality and the need for intimacy.
Ambivalent - it does not mean “bad” or “doubtful”, this word only means the complexity and bi-directionality of experiences. It is not so rare to hear or read stories in which it is this moment that greatly puzzles a person. First of all, those who experience such feelings. For example, if a seriously ill close person dies, for many this is connected not only with the bitterness of loss and loneliness, but also with a peculiar ... relief. And this is normal, for such experiences in no case should you blame yourself. Indeed, in each of us there is an instinct for self-preservation. If grief completely subjugated our life, we would not have the strength to sustain our existence. There would be a high risk of severe mental illness.
Ambivalent - it is something at the same time "with plus" and "with minus", attraction and repulsion. In life, such feelings and relationships are often found. True self-knowledge also consists in being able to recognize these bi-directional signals, motives, and experiences in oneself. After all, being in a state of perpetual vibrations is also impossible. Many vital steps require us to make unique decisions. And this means that one feeling or motive must obey another. For example, when getting married, girls are often mixed, despite their mad love for a future life partner.
conflicting experiences. Sometimes they even begin to think that they were mistaken in choosing a groom. But the point is somewhat different: the ambivalent attitude towards marriage is just normal. After all, it shows that a person is mature and is aware that not only pleasures and joy are ahead, but also dedication, work, submission of his interests to his spouse and family.
A certain duality is inherent in most people. The usual doubts we have before complex and important steps are also the struggle of motives and opposing feelings. But sometimes throwing and difficulties in determining priorities become too vivid and noticeable. They say that such a person is an "ambivalent person." It is not always a question of mental deviations; perhaps it is only a matter of accentuation of character. That is, in comparison with the "average" such a person often experiences opposite feelings, enters into tangled relationships, and cannot determine his position with regard to anyone or anything.