What are they, real men? Are they dressed in beautiful dress coats, driving expensive cars, drinking cognac of long exposure, smoking Cuban cigars, swaying in a rocking chair by the fireplace in a country mansion? Or those that take the child to kindergarten in the morning, then run to work, and in the evening lead them to training? What qualities should they have? We will understand this topic.
We learn the opinion of psychologists
A real man is a person realized in his personal life and career. So this is:
- A case that brings moral satisfaction and material benefit.
- The family (rear) that he loves, which he takes care of and is responsible.
Both bring joy. And the material level is different for everyone. A successful man is one who has enough money to feed himself and his family, while remaining happy and loved. Now let's talk in more detail about the qualities of a real man.
Psychologists identify several basic criteria
What should a man be, in their opinion? So:
- Have a sense of responsibility and not only be responsible for your words and actions, but also take care of loved ones.
- Have the ability to admit their mistakes, ask for forgiveness.
- Set a goal and move towards it.
- Show gallantry to women.
- To be able to compromise.
- Be brave, honest and courageous.
- And also a hardworking, supportive family.
- To have empathy, the ability to empathize.
The image of a real man is nevertheless collective. Indeed, for every woman, her boyfriend should have a certain set of qualities acceptable to herself. But there is a general idea of psychologists what a real man should be. The following character traits are inherent in him.
Responsibility
This is one of the best masculine qualities. With such a person, it’s not scary to go through life and start a family. Because he is responsible for his loved ones. A woman behind him will feel protected both mentally and materially. The only thing he can demand in return is love and mutual understanding.
A man is responsible for words and deeds. First he thinks, then he does. Moreover, he appreciates time, health and respects his choice. He will not be exchanged for other women, because it is impractical, meaningless. Why create problems for yourself? He is always responsible for his own actions, keeps his word.
Kindness
Do not confuse this quality with mildness. And in no case can we assume that this is a sign of weakness. Let's run far ahead. A kind and affectionate dad is the dream of any baby. Only soulfulness and compassion, humanity will help to grow a real man out of a child. Moreover, this quality is the key to a healthy psychological climate in the family, which is incredibly important for the formation and development of a small person.
A good man is a great friend, buddy and companion. It’s easy with him, because in actions and deeds you don’t have to look for a second meaning or background. He will do anything for the good, demanding nothing in return.
Mind and self confidence
Any woman wants to meet a smart man, with whom he will not be ashamed to go out into society and to be alone with comfort and ease. He will always find a smart and rational solution to the problem. He will correctly set the goal and achieve its achievement, will be able to support any conversation, shining with his erudition.
The second important quality allows you to achieve maximum. Only a confident man can become happy and successful, because he believes in his strength, knowledge and capabilities. He competently draws experience from a past life, skillfully using it to build the future. He knows his worth. And it will never assert itself at the expense of others, because it distinguishes this quality from arrogance. These are the essential qualities of a real man.
Self-control
Without him, it is impossible to become a real man. This quality relates to volitional characteristics and includes courage, endurance, determination, masculinity, all that will contribute to the suppression of negative experiences and desires. Directly associated with self-control of emotional mental behavior.
Let's try to get closer to the ideal
We learn about the hallmarks of a real man. So:
- He counts only on himself.
- Self-sufficient.
- Independent.
- The master of his word.
- Purposeful.
- Reliable and dedicated.
- Has a sense of humor.
- Generous.
A real man is one with whom it is comfortable to live. A very important characteristic is fidelity, inherent, unfortunately, not all, as well as masculinity. Now that we know the signs of a real man, an image of a reliable family father began to emerge before us. Of course, there are no ideal people, but you always want to strive for excellence. And how to raise a boy a real man?
Let's give some recommendations
We already understand what a real man should be, but how to make such a son?
- The main thing is not to deprive a child of love and affection. Parents are deeply mistaken that the boy needs less pity. On the contrary, it is necessary to give him warmth and tenderness as much as possible so that in adulthood there is an example to follow. He will also relate to his children.
- Do not be ashamed of tears. The boy needs to release emotions, accumulated resentment, and so on. There is nothing wrong with that. Otherwise, he will accumulate all this inside himself, which can lead to sad consequences, for example, a nervous breakdown, depression, psychological trauma.
- Do not restrain his mobility. Their physiology must be taken into account. Boys are more mobile and energetic than girls. Give your son as much space as possible for normal development. Take your child to the hockey or football section.
- Do not scold the son unreasonably. He must understand what they are punishing or making a remark to give the second opportunity to lose this situation and get out of it correctly. It is not necessary to report it for a long time and boring. Boys cannot hold on to emotional stress for long. They catch only the first words. Therefore, choking in emotions, you will not convey anything to your child. He simply disconnects and does not perceive information at all.
- Help find the energy outlet in the right direction. Attach to cleaning, ask for help to bring bags to the apartment. Chase the ball with your son in the stadium.
It is very important that the child grows up in an emotionally healthy family. He must see the father’s caring and caring attitude towards his mother, and learn to respect her with the same respect. After all, the way a real man behaves will become a better example for a small person.
Raising a boy is necessary not in words but in deed. Create situations around him that would allow you to show and show your best side. Praise, constantly emphasizing that he is a man, courageous, courageous and honest.
Have fun with your child
We continue to figure out how to raise a boy a real man. By five to six years, the baby will become interested in daddy's tool. Do not drive him away with swear words from a box with dangerous objects. On the contrary, let the father demonstrate his skills, give the child a hammer in his hands and help hammer the first real nail. After all, it will be useful to him in the future.
As they grow older, the baby should explain how to behave with the girls, and from the sandbox say that they need to give in, protect, help and not be offended.
The boy should have his idol, a role model, as a rule, this is his father, but perhaps he will want to become a strong and famous hockey player or film actor. It can be a book hero, so there will be an opportunity to invite your child to read an interesting, exciting book or to go to a movie or theater together.
It is the parents who lay in the child love, tenderness, affection, such qualities as compassion, humanity, tact, and the ability to empathize. They also teach how to help people, respect elders. A father should show his son, by personal example, how to relate to a woman. And the mother will teach independence, accuracy, will fully endow the child with love, kisses and affection. There is nothing wrong with sitting the first grader on your lap, hugging him tightly and pressing him to your chest. The son should feel motherly warmth and fatherly care. And then there will not be the slightest doubt that a real man will grow out of him.
A bit about the psychology of men
This is an important question - to know how their inner world works. The psychology of a real man is the psychology of a conqueror, a winner, a getter. A woman needs to understand what her other half wants. To support him always and in everything, to help become successful, to direct, and most importantly, to be an assistant in any undertaking. After all, he does not need so much - a reliable rear and a quiet pier. Calm emotional home atmosphere, comfort and warmth will allow him to calm down after a hard working day, gain strength and energy to conquer new heights.
Do not compete with him at all, thereby belittling dignity. Do not rule over him, because by nature, every man seeks power. Let your companion be a leader in the family. Since he is known as a conqueror, always remain an unread book.
By their nature, they are stubborn. And here it is necessary to show cunning and flexibility. Only taking into account the psychological characteristics of men, a woman is able to use them for her own purposes and give the chosen one those qualities that are lacking. Just let him be a protector and support, inspired and beloved, he will turn mountains and become for you a real man.