Despite the fact that life sometimes makes people be rude, cynical and evil, many of us strive to change our character. Fortunately, man still has bright aspirations: almost everyone wants to be kind and responsive, as well as purposeful and efficient. This is where the main problem lies. How to change character? Often our impulses remain just impulses. However, if you try, you can achieve good results.
Step one
Many experts say that concentrating thoughts on our negative qualities and that we need to fix them is fundamentally wrong tactics. First of all, you need to accept your character as it is. Yes exactly. After all, we are all people with positive and negative traits. And the fact that there are completely different types of human character helps us get along with ourselves. Of course, this does not mean that we should not strive to reduce the negative impact of certain traits of our character on life. Only you need to do this wisely. Having realized which of the traits prevent us from living, we need to describe them in detail on a piece of paper, adding at the same time in which situations they appear most strongly.
You should read everything that you wrote in the morning to tune in to the right wave every day. And also browse in the evening to evaluate your wins and losses for the day.
Second step
Surely you have a favorite character: from a book, movie or cartoon. Most likely, he has those character traits that you dream about. When asking yourself how to change your character, remember your favorite character, and the answer will come by itself: by imitation. Imagine yourself a noble knight or a Turgenev girl when you feel that one or another of your negative qualities strives to spoil your mood and those around you. Gather all your will, courage and endurance into a fist; Imagine that this is your main role in life ... And then everything will turn out!
Step three
Before changing your character, you must realize that any human quality has a twin brother. The difference between them is only in the "behavior". For example, laziness is the flip side of activity. Anger - kindness and good mood. Etc. So, in one way or another, we all have a complete set of such “twin brothers,” only some of us know how to make friends with them, and some do not. Therefore, when you, for example, are angry, count to yourself up to ten, imagining how you walk along an imaginary path from anger to good and calm. No special effort is needed, just count and breathe deeply. Wait a moment, and the negative manifestation of one of the traits of your character will turn into a positive one.
Do not demand instant results from either life or yourself, because changing the character, of course, is possible, but not immediately. Only with a clear thought that you really need it, as well as using various techniques (not only described above, but also them), you can change, become at least a little better. And, as you know, when a person changes , his life changes . So, start working on yourself soon!