Many of us would like to get an answer to the question of what it means to be bored. The most curious thing is that in foreign languages there is no absolute analogue to this concept. In some cases, the verb "remember" is used, in others - "sad." Why do they not fully disclose the meaning of the word “miss”? Let's get it right.
What the dictionary says
The concept is most fully represented in the dictionary of D. N. Ushakov. In it you can find three meanings of the word, one of which is somewhat outdated. In the XIX century. often the verb "miss" was understood as some mental suffering from idleness. To feel bored is to languish from doing nothing. It is no accident that M. Gorky offered an effective alternative to such suffering:
Who works does not get bored.
We also rarely use the second meaning of this word. It is easier to explain through a synonym. To miss means to be sick, to experience physical and psychological suffering. In the works of Russian classics, one can find expressions that say that a particular hero missed his feet at night, for example. This means that the pain did not let him fall asleep.
But more often we use the verb “miss” when we talk about painful experiences associated with the absence of someone or anything. It is this aspect that we will analyze in more detail.
Synonyms
It’s best to understand what “miss” means if you look at verbs that are similar in meaning. In the concept itself, two points should be distinguished:
- There must be an object that causes us some feelings.
- You need a word that this emotional process describes.
Who or what can you miss? We list the most common objects:
- Friends, parents, other relatives and close people.
- Pets.
- Beloved person.
- Homeland, certain places with which bright memories are associated.
- House.
- An activity that for one reason or another is not possible to engage in.
What feelings do these objects evoke in a person when we use the concept of “miss”? We list the main synonyms:
- to be sad;
- to yearn for;
- sadden;
- to languish;
- mourn;
- languish;
- remember.
We deliberately do not use the word "love", although in the minds of many, it is precisely it that is the main source of what we miss.
Love or emotional addiction?
In romantic relationships, the verbs “miss” and “wait” are most often used. This is understandable. When the lovers break up, all their thoughts are devoted exclusively to the object of passion, that is, to each other. Even during an exciting lesson or interesting communication, nothing can bring down the dominants present in the brain. The main desire of a lover is to be next to a loved one again. What does “miss” mean to him? Wait for that moment when this happens, to touch the partner, hear his voice, kiss.
The state of a lover can be described in the following words:
- languishing without affection;
- sad;
- offended by fate, not allowing to be near a dear person;
- longs for a new meeting.
Psychologists consider harmless recognition of a man in love that he missed. Especially during a long separation. However, this condition, if it becomes obsessive, does not mean strong feelings towards a particular person, but emotional attachment and even dependence. It is characterized by the fact that a person loses personal autonomy and begins to suffer in the absence of a significant subject or object (favorite thing, for example).
More on emotional addiction
Close people are communicating vessels that affect each other. One of the spoiled mood - the other begins to be sad. If the husband is worried, anxiety also settles in the heart of his wife. However, even relatives living together cannot constantly be in the same state of mind.
Someone is more annoyed, someone is tired of communication or from relationships in general. These negative manifestations are immediately transmitted to the partner or household. They begin to exert super efforts to bring a loved one out of his condition, and then they themselves begin to get nervous and break down.
This annoys a person who feels a huge responsibility for what is happening. But he cannot constantly show empathy, entertain loved ones and give them only positive emotions. And if they begin to suffer, then we are talking about emotional dependence. Which is bad on both sides. It is possible that a person decides to get out of such a relationship, and then the partner will have to be bored alone.
As a rule, the most severe suffering will be experienced by non-self-reliant people who need outside control and guidance, problematic and socially immature individuals. Those who cannot live without the dope of love and attention. What synonym can this pick up? To miss is to depend emotionally on other people or objects.
Is it possible to be bored joyfully?
There are situations when we are far from the usual life. For example, a guy serves in the army or a girl went to study in another city. Of course, both will miss their relatives, their home environment, their mother’s favorite cutlets, school friends, a dog, etc. Let's go back to foreigners. What would they say?
- The guy constantly remembers mom's cutlets.
- The girl is sad about the dog, which there is no one to take for a walk.
What does the Russian language add by introducing the word "miss"? Soreness of experiences. We do not just remember mother's cutlets - we are not able to feel completely happy without them. So can you be bored joyfully? We hope that the answer will be given by the readers themselves.
Main conclusions
What does "miss" mean? To fall into an emotional trap that has nothing to do with true love and other similar feelings. Realizing this, a person needs to work on the development of his own personality, to become more understanding, independent, busy, interesting for loved ones.